Is anybody sick of the response that you should "beat your kids"?

Question

I have seen so many people encourage each other to "beat their kids" on this Q&A forum and it makes me sick. I am not even taking a stance on spanking, but a loving parent might suggest it to another with ideas on how to correctly spank or something. "beat the kids" is not a helpful response, and in fact it just pisses me off when I see it. Anybody else?

Answer 1

Yeah, it irritates me. But its just little people acting like jerks. I ignore it and give them a thumbs down. A lot of those people have like 3000 posts on their record...that's bc they keep posting BS to legitimate questions. It's good fun for jerks that have no life.

Answer 2

First, there is a HUGE difference between beating the kids and spanking the kids. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a spanking. There is, however, something wrong with a beating. A proper spanking is good discipline, and rarely needs to be done if children are properly trained. A beating is something you should be jailed for.

Second, to the first poster, how much intelligence does it take to say "don't do that" or "go sit in the corner"? Don't call names based on the way other people choose to parent their children. Personally, I think it's wrong to teach your children the "I'm better than everyone else" attitude. Remember, children pick up on your attitudes as well as actions.

Answer 3

the Mazateca Indians of Oaxaca lightly beat their small babies with a little twig ,when they cry or misbehave ,
this is not exactly beating the kids up.
and it works wonders ,the babies dont cry much and behave better as they grow up.
in the end you only have to show the little twig and the crying baby shuts up

these people are very kind and soft with their kids ,i never saw any one shouting or hitting any of their kids
which i see often with Christian mexicans.
i thought that this was a great system to get welbehaved kids

personally i went to an English bording school where i was often beaten with a bamboo rod with a metal tip or a wet running shoe.and crying was against the law.

I did hate this ,and would never do it to anybody else .
on the other hand ,it has not permantly damaged me or effected me in any way that i know of.

so yes beat the kids ,but lightly and with a little twig and start when they are i year old ,by the time they are 5 they are reasonable.

Answer 4

I am totally against abuse, in any form. With that said I don't feel that a spanking (if it does not cross the abuse line, which is a fine line) is abuse. I was spanked as a child, and am none the worse for it, believe me. I spank my child when I feel that he deserves it. There are times when a child needs to learn a lesson quickly, and efficiently, I find that spanking does this for my child. I don't look down on people who don't spank their kids. So long as you can keep your kid from acting like a hoodlum without it, who cares. I do wish that people would not bash parents that choose to spank, he is my child, and as long as I am not abusing him, it is not anyone else's business. To me a beating leaves a child with bruises or worse. A spanking leaves a child with the thought "I'm not going to do that anymore." Basically, I, as I said, don't agree with beating, but other than that, you raise your child as you see fit, and I'll do the same. And hopefully in the end, we'll all have kids who can be respectful, hardworking, productive members of society.

Answer 5

I am so tired of these people who say that. It makes me wonder how many parents or people out there even have a decent education. Anyone who says to beat kids are probably insecure, didn't even graduate from high school, are selfish and trailor trashy. I also don't think there is any correct way to spank a kid. Spanking just teaches that it is okay to hit and a lazy way of parenting. But sure enough, I see that there are so many people who are all for hitting, spanking and believe that if you don't, your kids will turn out to be criminals or violent. It is all just ignorance.

Answer 6

Yes I am tired of it too! It's actually frightening, because 'beating your kids' is NOT the same as spanking.
Not to mention how can the kids learn anything if it's do what I say or I will resort to violence instead of teaching them boundaries, giving them appropriate responsibilities for their age and development, and raising them to be happy healthy adults.
They also need to learn how the world works and why. That is a parents most important job, to prepare them for the real world and raise them to be productive and happy members of society. I don't see how beating them would do any of those things!
It's more of a frustration thing maybe?
Because it basically is saying I don't know how to stop you from such and such behavior and I'm not about to take the time to teach you, so I'll beat you?!? I don't see how that helps anyone, not the child and not the parent either. It is confusing to the child.
And it perpetuates a society that will resort to violence whenever they are frustrated or feel out of control. It degrades families and fosters fear. Fear leads to hate and hate, well hate leads to even more violence.
Don't you just love the parents you see that will say things like 'we don't hit' and then whack the kid??? No wonder the kids get confused and act out!

Answer 7

I read those sort of responses. Let me tell you from experience myself and with other kids that were around me; spanking doesn't usually get the desired effect. Now taking away their most valued priveleges and possessions and sticking to it..that seems to work. Another parenting technique that bugs me though is the concept of "time out". Parents send their children to their rooms, where there are plenty of amentities to keep them occupied and expect it to be a punishment. Oh well.

Answer 8

Honestly I am not sick of that response. Do you have children? I believe in spanking... not all punishments work once you take everything away from children and ground them... they don't care anymore... what are you going to do when they don't listen to you and they don't care about your "stupid punishments" anymore. Timeouts, taking away favorite toys/games/video games/grounding/ etc etc etc... so what other ideas would you do besides spanking after you have tried everything else. i'm sorry that us simpletons that believe in spanking when nothing else works or when severe acts have been done that we have to spank our child to learn. Loving parents want their children to learn and not want them to rebel for the same old punishments. I'm sorry that you are sick of ppl saying beat your child... i have never seen anyone say that...

Answer 9

Everyone does there own thing but I'm thinking about my child welfare and I don't think beating is the best thing all the time. I do it once in a blue moon and only if it is a severe offense. I wouldn't even call mine beatings because I hold my daugher hand and tap it with my finger to let her know not to hit other kids or something. I prefer time out and take things away it works really well. I always talk to her after I take her off of time out and explain why she was on time out.

Answer 10

I think that this is new age response to people being angered by the fact that they are not allowed to decide how to discipline their children. It also disturbs me when my rights are taken away, and I feel that if I wanted to spank my children, I should be able to. Fortunately there is another option. Positive reinforcement. If our children receive enough positive attentiion for behaving well, they will only misbehave when they have not encountered a specific situation and do not know what the appropriate behavior is. This is easily corrected by telling them what the appropriate behavior for the situation is and telling them what a fantastic job they are doing when they do it correctly. We also have to hug them and kiss them 100 times a day, and say "I love you, I love you I love you"; and tell them what smart, wonderful, beautiful, perfect, well behaved people they are. We also need not only tell them that we love them, but tell them that we like them, and why we like them. Ever heard the saying "I am what I think you think I am."? It is true for everyone; even more-so children. Hopefully this enlightens some who want the "beat" their children. If they feel good enough about themselves and feel loved, they will not need to be "beaten".