whats a subtle way to show your boyfriend you need more attention and more consideration of your feelings?

Question

my boyfriend just doesnt get it. i tried to talk to him but he doesn't get that I'm a distant person and i dont enjoy making my problems other peoples problems but that doesn't mean that when he cancels our dates to hang out with buddies, or when he doesn't call, or when he lies to me it doesn't hurt me. it does...i just don't express it and keep it to myself becuase its just the way i am. What should i do to let him know how I feel. I have talked to him about it before he said he'd try to be more understanding but he's apparantly isn't trying. How do i remind him? or is this relationship just not ganna work out?

Answer 1

Find a magazine article on the same problem and leave it laying around for him to read. It will work out hopefully, u just have to train him and that takes time. We r the same way and is still taking time even after 3 years, but he is learning to be more considerate of my feelings or he gets a taste of his own medicine! Don't get athletes foot on your head! Write him a letter, get him a book from the library. My guy just walked in with a boquet of flowers when I just asked him 4 1 before he left to the store. He asked why do I want or need 1. I said thax alot, but then look!

Answer 2

Well if you have a hard time expressing your thoughts and feelings to him in person then try a letter or e-mail. Then you can put all your thoughts down without interuptions. This also allows him to read the thoughts without you there so he can (if he chooses to) really study them. Sometimes guys just dont want you to see there softer side even if they have one. It also allows him time to think it over and respond.
If he continues this way though you really need to move on. It is never healthy to allow ppl to treat you badly. People learn how to treat you by the way you allow them to treat you. If you want them to respect you then you must let them know you will be respected. If you allow them to walk on you this is what you will get.

Good Luck

Answer 3

once i read a book called the 5 love languages, and it is about how every person has different communication needs, but mostly can be put in one of those 5 categories.
in relationships you have to identify each persons language, and then both parties have to compromise to speak each others "language".
if you think that he is the only one who needs to compromise then you guys will not work out, but if you understand that you need to compromise and accomodate his love language as well, which very well may consist of verbal communication, however uncomfortable for you, then you two might have a fighting chance.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Make him jealous :)