I broke up with him 8 months ago. And I so want to get the ball rolling and get over him. But it's creepy because everyday for the past 8 months, there's not one day that I do not think about him. To make matters worse, he contacts me once a month (always the third week), and it sends me reeling back to Day 1 of the breakup. I know he still wants to be friends, but it's tricky because as much as I want to be, I'm not yet over him.
The break-up was caused by the oh-so used "it's not you, it's me" and he was the one who broke up with me. Prior to the relationship we were really good friends and then we decided to go into it. It was not conventional. We didn't get into a relationship because we were in love. We just liked each other. But then I fell in love with him, and that's when it all came tumbling down.
Will it be cruel of me to tell him that I don't think we can be friends anymore? The reason for this is (and i don't want to tell him) because i still love him.
2006-11-19 06:40:23 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't want to tell him I still love him because the reason we broke up was that he didn't want me to wait anymore (for him to fall in love with me, that is.)
I tried breaking up with him a couple of times in the past because I saw that this is where we'd eventually end up if we persisted, but he didn't want to. And that gave me hope before...that maybe there was something there. I told him a lot of times that I think was headed towards falling in love and that if he thought he couldn't, to just tell me so that we can salvage our friendship. But then he always refused on splitting up. So when the time came that I was 100% sure I loved him, I guess he couldn't take it.
I don't want to tell him because rejection once was painful enough.
Aww. *tear* Sorry guys for the drama.
2006-11-19 06:55:23 · update #1
Do what you think is best for you
2006-11-19 06:48:22 · answer #1 · answered by joesy617 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not cruel, and if it was, you're just taking care of yourself so it shouldn't matter.
Maybe you two CAN be friends in the future, but first you need to get over him.
Why is it that you don't wanna tell him you still love him?
2006-11-19 14:47:35 · answer #2 · answered by mackenzie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep tell him the truth...thats the way to begin and end a relation
2006-11-19 14:43:43 · answer #3 · answered by serengeti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel. that can either give you closure, or will get you back together with him.
2006-11-19 14:44:29 · answer #4 · answered by J P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to do wahts best for you...it isnt his life..its yours!
2006-11-19 14:44:27 · answer #5 · answered by madaboutyou55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋