We've been together for about 5 months and recently moved in together. His last gf cheated on him and he was pretty heartbroken about it. now he gets worried that I will cheat on him, even though he has nothing to be suspicious about. It doesnt help either that during the move in together, I was moving some items from my bedroom and accidently dropped a bottle of ky in my car, so when I found it, I put it in my glovebox to grab out later. Well he found it and now is more worried than ever.
how can I get him to trust me? It seems I never really had his trust in the beginning so how do I get that? He is really a wonderful guy, but he was just hurt by an ex. this hasnt really affected our relationship yet but I find myself avoiding hanging out with friends because I dont want him to think I am out cheating on him.
2006-11-19 06:37:58 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your boyfriend does not trust you because his ex girlfriend cheated on him and he thinks you are going to do the same? When a guy has that insecurity on him, it does not matter if it's you or another girl, he will always feel like the loser which you know it is not true. You need to have along talk with him and assure him that you are not the other girl, who did him wrong that you need his trust because in the long run your relationship will deteiorate and he will be left all alone. Good luck and I hope you two will come to terms and resolve this problem.
2006-11-19 06:59:08 · answer #1 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there is not reason that he be suspicius, you dont need to be afraid of nothing, now maybe he is not prepared to have a serius relationship, that insecurity of him can ruined all the love.The best way is to talk and explain him that he can't judge you in the same way that his ex was, just be yourself, if he does not belive in you...consider the posibility to give him more time, is to soon to live together without know well one to each other.You dont need to stop doing the same things that you do, the person who really loves you will trust you and accept you the way you are.
2006-11-19 07:29:51 · answer #2 · answered by lovetoyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK WARNING TIME! if he his still hurt about being cheated on...and he doesn't trust his own new woman that he chose and you agreed...he isn't over it...he isn't ready for you to be a part of your life...THE OTHER WARNING...this is the big one! His accusing you in the first place without giving you the benefit of the doubt is a common way of getting you to fear losing him...thus causing you to seclude yourself...if he can't get over the ex's cheating head for the hills...IT'S THE FIRST SIGN OF A WIFE BEATER! Just be careful and don't let him accuse you again and again...you can't accept this behavior from him...he will never get any better if you allow him to freak out like that.
2006-11-19 06:50:24 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. everybody does not cheat. sure, there is a good number of people accessible who cheat and in my opinion they're all heartless those who do not take care of the emotions of those round them. don't be paranoid of your boyfriend dishonest. if you're you'll continually question him and be suspicious and the courting will purely flow to sh*t. you want to push dishonest out of your recommendations and concentrate on what a tremendous courting you adult adult males have. look on the forged factors contained in the courting and purely have interesting and luxuriate in one yet another! :)
2016-11-29 06:58:05 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should back off until he has gotten his life together. he can't go around not trusting everybody because of what his ex did to him. he needs to forgive her and move on. he's not giving your relationship a fair chance. and there is nothing you can do to get him to trust you until he moves on. but if you want to go through the torment of his past by letting go of all your friends and he still won't trust you, go ahead. trust me let go.
2006-11-19 06:48:12 · answer #5 · answered by shaglemongirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in front of him take out the garbage, in the garbage throw a note in the note write about his insecurities, than rip out this note in front of him, tell him you love Him , and than throw away the garbage. Good Luck ! Convince Him that you love is true and you would never betray him .
2006-11-19 06:41:50 · answer #6 · answered by Tellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't move in with someone who doesn't even trust you......
Save the moving in part for marriage.
2006-11-19 06:41:24 · answer #7 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go about your day as usual and don't bend your ways for him. Eventually, he'll come around. You'll prove that you're trustworthy.
2006-11-19 06:41:10 · answer #8 · answered by jazzmetalbassist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do things that shows him that you can be trusted. but i also wouldn't stop seeing my friends just because he is paranoid that you may be cheating because that was what his old gf did.
2006-11-19 06:42:38 · answer #9 · answered by crafty lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-19 06:39:55 · answer #10 · answered by nogames9280 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋