hasn't he left her in the past and he said it was because he didn't have a reason to. We have been seeing each other for about 6 months now. He constantly tells me how happy I make him and how he feels as though he's in another world when we are together. He finally has a reason to leave but theres kids and a lot of money and property involved. My question is how long should I wait for him to get his priorities together?
2006-11-19 06:30:03 · 27 answers · asked by confusedinphilly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should not even have gotten started with a married man...
Quit whenever you get tired of it...
2006-11-19 06:32:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here is a question for you, has he told you that he found his reason to leave his wife. Has he said that its you? If he isnt making the initative to leave his wife, then maybe you should bring that up with him. Ask him if he is even considering leaving her, if he is, the property and the kids wont stop him from leaving her. Once you have this conversation, based upon his answeres you can decide if you want to wait for him to get his life in order or if you should move on and concentrate on your life. Even though you will want to wait for him, and you will find every excuse in the world to do so. And he will give you every excuse, sometimes its better to let go of something that in the end might just hurt you more than you think. So make him get his priorities together but you get yours together as well. Do what is best for you, if you dont then who will?
2006-11-19 06:38:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you shouldn't have gotten involved with a married man in the first place. If he was to end up marrying you in the future, who says that he won't do the same to you? I mean, they love it when they have a mistress but when the mistress starts acting like a wife, they go out and get another.
I think rather then waiting for him to get his priorities together, you should get yours together and get out of this love triangle. It's not fair to you or the other woman... you're both being played by a manipulating man. He's not leaving with a child and a ton of money involved and you're foolish for believing he'll do so.
It will be hard but you need to cut your contact with him.
2006-11-19 06:48:57 · answer #3 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he has his priorities together. Why would he leave his wife that has his children for a women who doesn't think any better of herself than to get involved with a married man. Why would you want to be with someone that you know has not only cheated on his wife with you but also you with his wife. It works both ways, so what you see is what you get. He is messing around with you while he is married to her and he would do the same to you if he was married to you. Don't be a fool your obviously already a home wreaking wanna be hoe so leave this game with a little bit of face before it's too late.
2006-11-19 06:38:16 · answer #4 · answered by April C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to look at things a little more clearly in my opinion. He's cheating on his wife, that means if you became his primary woman, he would have no problem cheating on you with someone else.
He doesn't leave her because he doesn't have to. Why should he? He's getting it at both ends, having his cake and eating it to. Of course his other world is better. No kids, no bills, no responsibility, no problems. But that's just till he hooks up with you and then the bills, responsibility etc. change and you won't be so exciting a relief.
There are a lot of single people in the world and your not getting any younger.
2006-11-19 06:35:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should never of got involved with a married man to begin with.....i would say though that he is unhappy in his marriage and as you make him happy he should make the decision now and you should not waste any more time...but i will tell you one thing....he will use the kids, money, property and every other excuse he can come up with to not leave his wife....im sure he would be happy having his cake and eating it too.....do whats best for you and move on....you will only ever be his bit on the side
2006-11-19 06:35:24 · answer #6 · answered by askaway 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't bother waiting he is not going to tell you he is happy with his wife is he or you would be asking what is he doing with me ? the sad truth is probably he is one of these men out there that want to have there cake and eat it and there are woman like that to , but you are right he has a reason to leave her now and has done for 6 month so why hasn't he done it ? its time you woke up to the fact you are just the bit on the side and he is playing you just as much as he is playing his wife and god knows who else , do yourself a favour and end it and go and find someone else who is single
2006-11-19 06:37:20 · answer #7 · answered by ninja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better to forget about him forever,or still having relationship with him in that way.3 years dating him,and he has not interest in to leave his marriage,or to get divorce.The picture is clear.You need to open your eyes.Forget about a man who is married,and also for 3 years put any excuses,and never will get divorce or never will leave his wife and children.I know many ladies friends,that were in the same situation like you.But finally they opened their eyes and finished those wrong relationships.If this man really loved you,in the first year dating with you, for sure he got divorce.There are thousands of women around the world,in the same situation like you.There are good and bad men.There are honest men, and men who lie and cheat.Please,think good,think in your future life,not only in the present time.God bless you and help to open your eyes.God already have a good man for you,without compromises,that will love you indeed,without lies.Good luck.Good question.
2006-11-19 06:52:06 · answer #8 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You make his pecker happy leave his cheating butt at the door and do his wife a favour and tell her you've been sleeping with her man and then she'll get everything in the divorce.Don't listen to anything a guy says when his dick is hard cause it's all lies.Trust me sweetie your gonna be the one that gets hurt in the end.Get out while you still have your dignity intact.And stay away from taken guys in the future their bad news.
2006-11-19 07:03:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run away. You are just a scape goat for him to release family stress. Men who cheat when they are married esspecially with kids have no kind of respect for themselves or anyone else. lets say the fairytale in your head that he will leave this woman he has so much history with for you happens, whats to say he won't treat you exactly like he is treating her, like a shallow greedy cheating azzhole. Wake up honey, you can get a man that just wants to be with you and not just be with you for something to do. Believe me if his wife found out he would go running back to his wife with his tail between his legs, they always do. Stop waiting, end this unhealthy relationship before people start really getting hurt.
2006-11-19 06:37:44 · answer #10 · answered by l'il mama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you a guy? If so and this guy is a closet homosexual then he seriously needs to let his wife know. I can't imagine how this fact has really escaped her over the years but I guess it happens. It's sad that he has kids, they will undoubtedly be devastated. I don't know why you would want to wait around on a married guy in the first place, so don't really have a good answer for that.
2006-11-19 06:34:32 · answer #11 · answered by kelleywheel7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋