my mother takes everything the wrong way.if i say that the room is dirty,she'll call my dad and then i get in trouble 4 it.i've never done anything like sneak out the house or something that'll set her off like that.i'm always appoligising 4 things i didn't even start.i have 2 younger sibs,4,&,7 & she acts like they are more important then me.i ran away 2 my bffs house but i got caught.i know it not the right thing 2 do,but,it's the only way i can get away from all her bitterness and rudeness.she used 2 call me by my nickname,but stoped calling me by it.what should i do!!!!
P.S. dont be mean please! ;(
2006-11-19 06:28:38 · 7 answers · asked by Jennifer T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I very sure your Mother loves you very much, even though you feel she is pouncing on you all the time.
You have to look at things in a totally different way than what you are at the moment.
Because you are the eldest, and I know it's not fair sometimes, you are the example of your siblings and your Mother is expecting you to be better, which is very hard sometimes.
If your Mother didn't love you she would not care about how you behaved and what you did, but she obviously does and even though you feel hard done by you must believe that she is only trying to lead you the right way.
So next time your mother corrects you just remember that she is doing it in love.
It's so very hard growing up as the eldest and perhaps your Mother doesn't realise how much sadness you are feeling.
Try to talk to her....pick a time when she is not so busy and can take the time out to listen to you.
She may also have issues.
Being a Mother of 3 children and running a household is a big job and she may be very tired and not realise how you are feeling.
Communicate with your Mother and try to help her so she is not so tired.
2006-11-19 06:35:55 · answer #1 · answered by slipper 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure you may have heard this before, but most mothers and daughters go through a phase when it seems like it is impossible to please her or get along. Speaking from a mother's point of view I know that it is my intention to trust my daughter and I try to give her every benefit of the doubt, when things occur that violate that trust it makes it more difficult because I find that I become suspicious even over things that seem very simple. From a daughter's point of view I did the best I could not to be untrustworthy and talk to my mom at the right time, in the middle of an argument is not the right time. I think that you should talk to your mom, make an appointment with her when it can just be you and her and raise all the concerns that you have laid out here and be open to hear what she has to say. The thing is that you only get one mother in this life and it is worth the effort to work out a positive productive relationship with her. when you don't have the fortune to have that anymore it is a great loss. Good luck chickie
2006-11-19 14:44:35 · answer #2 · answered by misfabafort 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is probably under more stress than you know. She's got a lot of responsibility and if she acts like the younger kids are more important it's just because they are little and need more time and attention. It's difficult for me to understand how kids can be so ungrateful for having parents who care enough to set limits. My mother died when I was a year old and I can't even imagine how much I missed by not having a mother. I have a suggestion you might want to try. Tell your mother you love her but you feel like you can't please her. Ask her what you can do to make things better for her. See what she says. And good luck hon!
2006-11-19 15:40:41 · answer #3 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has got a problem that she is not telling you, find out somehow. Ask her sitting down, write her a long letter telling her all your feelings and worries. Be nice like how you want to be treated. Maybe the younger ones r stressing her out and she thinks that you should help her out more cuz she cannot handle it all on her own. She might be depressed also.Don't run away it hurts feelings, trust, etc. I could go on and on! Do something to better your relationship with your ma before it gets too late. Talk to your Dad alone! Good luck!!
2006-11-19 14:34:59 · answer #4 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jennifer, I would advise you to talk to your school counselor about your problems at home. They might be able to give you some answers that will make things better for you. It sure can't hurt. Good luck to you.
2006-11-19 14:31:46 · answer #5 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you can really do is sit with her tell her how you feel ... talk it over.. she may not be realizing what she is doing
2006-11-19 14:31:33 · answer #6 · answered by jack jack 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL!!!!!
2006-11-19 14:55:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋