Last week, I was over at my b/f's house one night and we were making out, when he suggested he go get some condoms before anything went further. Well when he left, I took it upon myself to look through his nightstand drawers and was shocked at what I found! I found about 5 polaroids of this little skinny blonde witch that looked no more than 19, nude!!! And another girl was in one of the pictures. When he got back I asked him about it and he said it was from along time ago, that the girl came on to him and he had kind of a one night stand with her, but couldn't he throw them away for me!!?? We have been going out for a month and I really love him. He is in his 30's and I am 29, do you think he is cheating on me??
2006-11-19 06:26:02 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Probably not, you haven't been together v.long so they're probably from before you even met. But why were you looking through his draws?
2006-11-19 06:29:37 · answer #1 · answered by ben w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, first of all, One month is a bit fast to know for sure whether or not you love someone!
No one here can say for sure if the guy is cheating on you b/c it sounds like he could be, but then again, based on what he said, you can't know for sure. No, he will not throw the pics. away or he would've done it already. Maybe you are rushing things too much. I know it might hurt but can you just imagine how much this goes on w/ girls and guys that don't even know about it?
You're not his wife. It's not your place to go through his things like that, he must have some kind of feelings for you b/c any other guy probably would have kicked you out! Chill out, the truth will come in time.
2006-11-19 14:55:41 · answer #2 · answered by Natalie S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one, but it really doesn't sound like he's cheating. I mean if you haven't seen any sign or suspected him of cheating before hand then I would just take his word for it for now. I mean don't totally turn a blind eye, but you have to show some trust of him if there's never been a reason to suspect him until you saw the pictures.
As for him not throwing away those pictures, well that would irk me a bit too, but you have to realize you two have only been dating for a month and you can't really expect him or even you to start discarding all pictures with former companions and what not so quickly. Personally, I wouldn't do that for someone I just basically met. I'm sure if you two continue dating for a long period of time he will toss them out.
2006-11-19 14:33:42 · answer #3 · answered by Simmy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well..When you look for trouble you'll surely find it. Be sure that you can handle it before you go looking for it. Maybe he's not cheating, but now you have insecurities that will probably never go away. In a relationship the only person that you can control is you and only you can make the best decision for you. Do what you feel is right for you because bottom line in the end you won't have anyone else to blame.
2006-11-19 15:02:06 · answer #4 · answered by Sexcchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you really love someone in 1 month? You don't even know him or what he is about. There is some reason or some feeling that caused you to look in the nightstand unless your just the nosey type.
Stay out of people's private things and keep your eyes open. That would be my best advice.
2006-11-19 14:31:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not exactly...the love thing is going a little bit to far though becuz its only been a month..you just need to trust what he tells you until you really gets some reasons not to.he may be cheating on you but i'd doubt it becuz he told you about the pictures and everything and if he was cheating on you he wouldnt start making out or go get condoms...he would actually not want you all over him and wouldnt evne want you with him most of the time,so i think he's telling the truth..think about what i said
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2006-11-19 14:34:02 · answer #6 · answered by detroit_lady313 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Leave him and fast. Besides the nude photos...he won't throw them out for you. That is a breech of respect. If this guy won't throw out nude photos of other women for you he's got some problems. He does not sound like a good guy. If he's not cheating on you now, he probably will later. What a dirtbag!
2006-11-19 14:30:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. How can you really love him in a month
2. You cant love him if you don't have trust and you must not if you snooped through his things how would you feel if he did that to you
You need to put the shoe on the other foot what if he found things that belonged to your ex and demanded you get rid of them.
Just remember that you are the one he is with.
2006-11-19 14:34:55 · answer #8 · answered by misslleggs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if he isn't cheating now, I think this is foreshadowing of whats to come.....dont you find it strange that he has these pics...and odiously puts them to use still....If I were you I would end the relationship now, before you are to committed and you find out in the future that he does cheat. I know its easier said then done, but its for whats best..you!
2006-11-19 14:32:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, you should belive in him, and the best thing to do is take a good talking, share everything and dont let any doubts in your mind, if he is honest (and that you should know by now) he will tell you the truth..
2006-11-19 14:30:56 · answer #10 · answered by lovetoyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋