OK so I’m 20 and just started to work in an office while I go to college at night. ive done loads of jobs and have done to years of college already so I would say im pretty mature not boring just able to have a conversation and not use a fart joke! So there is this other girl who started to work at the same time as me. I think she is one of the most lovely people I have ever met. She makes me laugh and vice versa we have a weird sense of humour. I think there is something there except the age difference is massive she is 26. Would there be a point in me making a move or what?
2006-11-19 06:11:02 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
when you said the age gap was massive, i was waiting for it to be 15 yrs upwards, 6 yrs is nothing
2006-11-19 06:14:01 · answer #1 · answered by redsticks34 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First you need to find out what the rules are at your job site on inter-office dating, some jobs don't permit this. Then before you get involved with someone at work you should look at benefits vs problems. Should you and her break up, how will the two of you be able to work together effectively. I have always believed that "you do not sleep ,where you get your meat" In others you do not date a person at the job, especially if you like your salary. Also you need to think about the age difference, as you are still consider a youth by many people standards and she is an adult.
When you become 35 years she will be 41, and the truth of the matter is many people begin to slow down drastically in their 40's.
If after all this is thought out and you feel the same, then I would say go for it but walk slowly.
2006-11-19 06:27:48 · answer #2 · answered by VLEEKS47 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Come on, if you reckon 6 years is a huge age difference then that suggests you are probably not mature enough to start a relationship with the old lady!!
I've been out with a guy 9 years my junior and we were fine, mind you it was only a fling!! (good though!!)
Only do the 'work' thing if you don't plan to be there long - i've done that as well and it was a pigging nightmare- Hard to keep it a secret and even harder when/if you split up.
I say just give it a go, but for goodness sake, leave your age hangup at home!
2006-11-19 06:23:12 · answer #3 · answered by buttercup 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a difficult one, isn't it? You need to really evaluate the situation carefully because you have to work in with this person. If you get it wrong, it could be embarrassing. There is absolutely nothing wrong in you wanting to date someone six years older - that is NOT a big age difference especially if you are particularly mature for your age.
Why not ask her to go for a drink and get away from the work place and just see what evolves. Don't make any moves (yet) but be a little flirtatious and invite her to make the moves that way. Let her make the move ..... and if she doesn't and it gets too much, then be straight with her and make sure you do it in a way that won't damage your work relationship.
Good luck!!!!
2006-11-19 06:18:54 · answer #4 · answered by Druantia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 years is not a "massive" age difference. Age is only how old you feel.
Your real mine field is trying to date a coworker. With all the sexual harassment laws, and the office gossip mill running you can bet your in for a long haul. Do you know if the business has a policy regarding coworkers dating? Also what if you date for a while, and then break up? How comfortable would working next to her be then?
I'm not saying it can't work, just be ready for the pitfalls.
2006-11-19 11:36:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A six year age gap is not massive as you say. If you think there is a chance of having something good, go for it. Just remember, if the relationship fails, you still have to be mature enough to work with each other.
2006-11-19 09:35:04 · answer #6 · answered by kcastillo1220 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, in the world of adult dating a 6 year gap is nothing!! Secondly, consider how awkward the situation would get at work should you two start dating and then break up. Unless you work in different departments/areas of the same office, then it isn't worth making your work life miserable...especially if you love the job!
2006-11-19 10:35:07 · answer #7 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is you work dating policy?
You must be careful with a relationship in the work place. When it doesn't work out, and seeing each other becomes awkward, who's going to leave their job?
You might want to ask this young woman out for coffee and see if she excepts that. If she does, or at least suggests you get together away from work, then you can discuss this with her.
2006-11-19 06:20:30 · answer #8 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. make hay while the sunshines. The age difference is nothing. You could be missing out on something wonderful. I met my boyfriend in work (occupational hazard in the NHS) and we have been togetherfor 5 happy years, many more to come I'm sure. There is 11 years between us and it matters not a jot.
Go for it and good luck and invite me to the wedding please.
2006-11-19 07:13:31 · answer #9 · answered by Ali 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should definitely ask her out for a cup of coffee or something like that. I also think you should tell her that you think she's one of the most lovely people you have ever met. Very sweet.
6 years isn't a huge difference at all!
Good luck!
2006-11-19 06:20:22 · answer #10 · answered by vegetable soup 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all the age thing doesn't matter. As for relationships with work colleagues, it's not a good idea. I reckon that you should take your time and enjoy a friendship first before risking anything else. If its ment to be then it will happen xxx
2006-11-19 13:03:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋