I have been going out with my girlfriend for two years now and ever since the first time we met there showed signs of problems I just couldn't pinpoint. She was always sometimes very erratic, emotional, non trusting and just downright hateful at times.But would most of the time make up for it by telling me how much she loved me. She is really hands down, the most beautiful girl I have ever seen, and that's not just cliche, it's actually true, and sometimes I would feel guilty for thinking maybe that's the only reason I was with her. Well, finally about 5 months ago after having to hound the Hell out of her, (the fight was brought on b/c I suspected her of cheating when no one would answer the phone, but it turned out she was asleep all the time due to depression.) she admitted to me that her Father and Brothers molested her from 10 to 17, when her Father died. I feel terrible! I love this girl w/ all my heart, and have even thought about buying a ring But I dunno if I can handle this.
2006-11-19 05:41:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
see a relationship counselor it might help, if you're not ready to get married yet then wait
2006-11-19 05:45:28 · answer #1 · answered by J Blu 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she needs to talk to a professional. I would suggest she go see one and let her know you will there for her as long as it takes for her to get help. That is a very traumatic thing to go through. How awful that her father AND her brothers molested her. She needs help. Put off getting a ring or trying to have any kind of meaningful relationship until she has been to see someone who can help her deal with her problems. She won't be able to participate in a serious relationship with you or anyone else until she gets over the trauma and begins to heal
2006-11-19 13:53:35 · answer #2 · answered by Arleen J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She absolutely needs someone to support her.
Is it you? Can't help you there. One answer was to get her to a shrink. Good advice but not the end. Get yourself to one as well.
It will be an emotional strain and you may not be able to deal with it. If you can and if she can resolve her issues, it has the potential of being really good.
2006-11-19 13:52:59 · answer #3 · answered by deepndswamps 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if indeed you are truly in love with her it may be good for both of you to talk to your GOD and or seek counseling before you get married. either one of you do not want to make a mistake if it can be prevented. to many divorces these days. if you are her friend and love her don't go from her life help her, but if need be stop the physical aspect of your relationship until major issues are addressed.
2006-11-19 13:53:51 · answer #4 · answered by sumayyah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her, stop being selfish and be there for her when she needs you the most.
2006-11-19 13:44:13 · answer #5 · answered by serenity 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get her to a shrink. and call the cops on the brother
2006-11-19 13:43:41 · answer #6 · answered by onelonevoice 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Follow your instincts and your heart..Help her to help herself and get counceling..you both should get it b4 you get married..
2006-11-19 13:46:19 · answer #7 · answered by Amy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you have answerd your own question ...no trust no relationship...
2006-11-19 13:45:15 · answer #8 · answered by connie sue 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋