enlarged spleen and not willing to even care?

Question

my boyfriend ryan has an enlarged spleen from a skate accident i think and its pretty bad. i know that it can kill u if it ruptures, and he isnt willing to even care for himself, like he still is wanting to sneak out and ollie a 5 stair. but im really scared that it will rupture and kill him. i dont want him to die cause i cant live without him. any info on spleen enlargments and how to get him to take care of himself better?

Answer 1

An enlarged spleen (spleenomegaly) can be caused by a few things other than skateboarding.

But I bet your suspcions are correct. He probably poked it hard (similar to a car accident) and now it is inflamed.

If he was actively bleeding internally, he would have some reddish-brown discoloration in his stools (something he is not about to tell you about I suspect).

You could pass this info onto him, and "feel out" his reaction. But still he is proabably someone you can't read well. And even if he was honest about it, I bet his apathy towards the situation will win out, as it has so far.

I'm guessing here, but he probably doesn't have health insurance, and won't DARE spend his money on something as important as this (even though it sincerely bothers you).

In my mind, this is kind of foreboding on how your relationship will "forevever" be. You will sit there and worry about him, while he goes out to damage himself somemore.

I really liked a previous poster's response about the "will". That is really right on because its upfront and will be meaningful for you in the long run.

It is very confrontational. Maybe that is precisely the change of thinking that is needed here.

But timing is important too, especially if it is something more medically complicated than imagined.

I think what I'm saying here is that I don't think this guy has your best interests in mind.

Especially if he is going out to skateboard again (in his condition), and he knows YOU can not live with out him.

So I'm suggesting an ultimatum here. Either he goes to get it checked out, or you and he are no longer together.

Pretty harsh, right?

But do you really expect someone who can't care of himself, to take care of you when your spleen (god forbid) ruptures?

I am suspecting you can walk away from this relationship (regardless of his outcome) and find somebody better.

My humble best:)

Answer 2

Most people live in denial,thinking that if they aren't really noticing any symptoms then they must be OK which is what kills alot of people every year be it from something like this or cancer or heart disease. .etc.
The spleen is actually the body's extra blood supply.It helps to compensate where there is a major blood loss in a person' body.
If he has an enlarged spleen due to injury he could already be in trouble.
Should this spleen rupture,he may or may not make it to a hospital in time so it is VERY imperative that he has this taken care of whether they can treat it or if they have to remove it BEFORE something adversely happens.
If Ryan is a skater,all it is going to take is one good hit to that enlarged spleen and the #(&^%$# is going to happen.
Seek professional help ASAP and let them deal with the situation ASAP. . Better safe than sorry.

Answer 3

Spleen enlargement is an ominous sign and can be very dangerous. All physical activity should be stopped until the spleen has time to heal and the swelling has gone down. Ask him if he has ever heard of Bleeding Out?

This is what happens when a swollen spleen is ruptured. You quickly bleed to death internally and it usually happens so quickly that they can't get you into surgery quick enough to do anything about it. The patient is fully conscious, knows they are dying and also knows that most likely there is nothing that can be done about it.

If your boyfriend refuses to take care of himself, either make sure he is very well insured with you as beneficiary or insure him yourself and look at the cost as an investment so you can live very well with your new boyfriend.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ruptured_spleen

Answer 4

He needs to see a doctor asap. Your are obviously aware of the danger to him. Is there family or friends you can approach to help you with an intervention?
You certainly can live without him but clearly don't want to. You can't change whether or not he takes care of himself, only he can do that.
I knew someone who ruptured his spleen in a similar accident. He didn't go to the doctor for three days, when he finally went to emergency they operated on him within two hours and told him if he hadn't gotten there in a few more hours he'd be dead.
Best of luck.

Answer 5

There isn't anything you can do to change him. All you can do is tell him that his condition is deadly and suggest that he see a doctor. If he refuses, there is nothing you can do about it. One way to "bring the point home" to him would be to sit down with him and help him write out a will. That will do 2 things. 1st, if he is really unwilling to care for himself, it will make sure his affairs are in order if his spleen should rupture. 2nd, it may help him to realize just how serious his situation is and then he may decide to get treatment.

You may be able to help him by inviting him to less active activities so that he will not have the chance to get bored.

Answer 6

If he injured his speen, there may be blood accumulating in the protective sac around the spleen. If he is careful and avoids injury this condition may clear up on its own. If not he may need to have his spleen removed and would be required to go on a daily drug regimen. If he rupturs his already damaged spleen, he may bleed to death before he reaches the hospital and medical treatment.

Answer 7

he acts as though he is not worried is because he doesnt want you to worry!!
i am sure if one of his buddies would know of his condition they would help jim to realise the seriousness of it .
you might try to contact one of his buddies to see if he would try tio explain to him the seriousness of it and would take him to the doctor for you.
also you can live a normal life without your spleen if you had to!!

Answer 8

I suppose that if he has proper rest, nutrition and avoidance of accidents it might heal itself...but if it becomes or is infected he will need antibiotics...skaters...lmao...I used to be one...tell him this: "If you don't see a doctor you might die and then you can't skate"...that might work...