I'm dating a guy who has trouble with erections. Either he has trouble getting them at all, or he goes soft during sex, or he ejaculates too quickly. The first time we tried to have sex he couldn't get it hard at all, the second time he had no problem getting an erection, but he ejaculated very quickly, and the third time he kept getting hard and then getting soft. I don't think the problem is me because he says he has always had this problem. I'm not fat or unattractive or anything. It's not age either, he's a young man. So I'm just wondering why he has this problem? Is there anything I can do?
2006-11-19 04:59:57 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it's psychological, and not medical, so going to the doctor wouldn't work.
2006-11-19 05:03:21 · update #1
Have him talk to his doctor, there are treatments available. There is no need to live with erectile dysfunction..
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WTH did you ask if YOU already know ?? Obviously with your vast psychological experience you'll figure it out.
2006-11-19 05:02:23 · answer #1 · answered by ©2009 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are a few things for you both to think about. Is he a smoker smoking reduces blood flow throughout the body and blood flow is really the most important thing for an erection. He should also see a Doctor and have his blood pressure, and heart checked. There have been studies out recently on heart problems and it was shown that problems with erections are often a precursor to a heart problem. If he smokes that will have an impact as well. Get him to see a Doctor. This iformation was just on ABC news about two weeks ago. It's a common problem and nothing to be embarrased about, also having this checked could save his life even if he's a young man.
2006-11-19 05:12:32 · answer #2 · answered by Pearl N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be pyscological but also possibly physiological. He def needs to see a doctor to rule out any vascular problem. Does he take any medications for blood pressure? Smoke pot? Drink a lot of alcohol? All of those things will contribute to erectile dysfunction. Do a search on the topic and you will get a ton of info to get started then ease into discussion with your guy. Remember he will be extremely sensistive about this subject but if you care about him and want to help, I'm sure he'll appreciate the help. It sounds to me it is more than likely a medical problem and there are things that can help. Good luck!
2006-11-19 05:08:14 · answer #3 · answered by bella36 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are talking about, sounds like he has ED, erectile dysfunction. Many men have it, due to age, medications, diabetes, etc. My husband can't get an erection either. You could ask him to try Viagra or Cialis, drugs made for that. It is definitely not YOUR problem. If he wants to fix it, tell him to talk to his doctor, there are things you can do. Or you can have oral and do other things besides actual intercourse. Depends how much you both want it.
2006-11-19 05:03:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-14 19:56:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to try viagra........sounds like ED.....my Ex husband had that and viagra did help, but not all the time. It does create a problem, and if you are a very sexual person you will get tired of it quickly. My Ex's problem started in his mid 20's and it never got any better, although he says he has no problem now, and that it was my fault he couldn't keep his cock hard......GOOD LUCK
2006-11-19 05:08:59 · answer #6 · answered by mysticmoons2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is on any medication that could be the problem BUT they do make this silver ring they call ummmmmm a cockadoodle doo ring! He puts it on and it stops blood flow so he stays hard even longer. Or they have a cream that he can use on himself to make it a little number so he lasts longer. Alot of guys have this problem and its got to be totally frustrating for them! I feel bad for them and you! Good luck to u
2006-11-19 05:04:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you are wrong. Whether psychological or physical a doctor could help. However, men are very sensitive about talking about this issue and don't usually want to go to the doctor even though it can be easily alleviated for both of you.
2006-11-19 05:06:17 · answer #8 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try some foreplay with him... Maybe you just dont turn him on... Sorry to say that but there are alot of men at there that dont get turned on by women... Maybe he needs to watch some porn or something like that... Missy
2006-11-19 05:03:37 · answer #9 · answered by melissa_spear2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he goes soft, just pull him out and suck him off until he's hard again.
2006-11-19 05:04:51 · answer #10 · answered by jazzmetalbassist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋