When people have been abuse?

Question

either physically or sexually , and it happened in the past, why does it continue to plague? And you have gone to couseling a couple of different times, but it is still there to haunt?
Why is that? Is there a way to forget and heal?

Answer 1

When we experience a trauma or series of traumas we very naturally suppress the most vulnerable and most painful feelings and thoughts we experienced while the traumas were occurring.... these vulnerable feelings and disturbing thoughts etc., become stored in the unconscious. This is in fact synonamous with being stored within the bodymind. .... This suppression process is a way that the psyche helps itself to 'survive' or cope with the trauma while it is occurring.

Healing from the trauma involves a process of clearing the original energy associated with the trauma from the unconscious. ... This process is one that involves bringing the repressed pain and disturbing thoughts up to the conscious awareness so that they can be consciously experienced and thus released or "cleared" from the unconscious (body/mind).

To the extent that the energy associated with the original trauma is not cleared from the unconscious,... the negative effects resulting from the original trauma will still be present within the individual's psyche. .............. You can talk about what happened on and on all you want to,.. but the original trauma will not be cleared from the unconscious until the repressed energy associated with the original experience is raised to the conscious level and cleared from the bodymind.

This clearing process most often will take place via the individual fully experiencing the emotional energy/expression and feelings which were originally and very naturally suppressed while the trauma was occurring. This may happen via a dialogue process or by way of a particular form of therapy involving working with the body to access the repressed energy associated with the trauma.

.... Whichever vehical does end up being the one which is the vehical for the healing to occur through,... the actual healing event will not occur until the individual's psyche is ready for that event to take place. .............. This is to say that true healing takes place in it's own time,.. when it is right,.. and in a way that is right for the particular psyche at issue.

It is the human condition that individuals experience different forms of traumas over the course of ones lifetime. These include physical traumas, emotional traumas,.. mental traumas, .. chemical traumas.... etc.. ....... It is also the human condition that these traumas are to a great extent 'suppressed' within the unconscious. .... All true healing is a process where-by suppressed traumas are raised and cleared from the unconscious psyche. .... It is almost impossible to facilitate this in occuring via a process of 'conscious dialogue'. ... It simply doesn't work, unless the process integrates the incorporation of an effective modality towards accessing and clearing the energy associated with the original trauma from the unconscious.

This is not to negate the value of 'counseling' as one form of support in the process of healing,.. but for a complete healing to occur, (and this is very much available),... a process of conscious dialogue will invariably not bring this about. ...

The reason why the individual continues to experience negative effects associated with the original trauma is because the psyche is attempting to bring attention to the need for healing associated with the wound.

Answer 2

Having been there, I can tell you that you will never forget. And it will make you very angry to have all these fine liars give you all these fine promises- and then when you try to call in these promises they give NOTHING but a bunch of lame excuses. It will also make you very angry when these extremely stupid wastes of space think it's funny and try to make jokes about it. There are a few that I sincerely think need to have their faces slapped clear off their heads.

But....

Like bad air with a skunk's smell in it, you do have a choice of letting it go and going on to where the good air is. And not let these bastards ruin the rest of your life for you.

It's not easy. But with help from people who genuinely do care, it is possible.

Answer 3

some people are stronger than others ,some will never forget ,it is up to you
and a lot depends on how drastic the abuse was ,
a kid that was beaten ,and mentally abused by his father may end up doing the same to his kids .
a lot depends on someones charactor
try to talk your self into a better frame of mind ,the past cannot be changed ,but the future can ,just think of that.

Answer 4

It's called post-traumatic stress syndrome. It occurs when something bad has happened to you, or if you've witnessed something that happened to someone else. You'll have flashbacks and/or nightmares. Therapy isn't for everyone, but it does help. They do have medication out there for this as well, but it's something you should talk to with your counselor. There is a way to forget and heal, but it takes time. It's not easy, but talking to someone about it does tend to make it easier.

Answer 5

each person is different. it's that way with grief as well. only you will know when you have the strength to forgive and forget...if that strength never comes, then so be it. don't beat yourself up about it. we who have been "wronged" in any way are often dismissed as being too hard-nosed, unforgiving, dramatic, etc., but until those people judging us have experienced what we've experienced, they should be dismissed as full of their own BS. even if someone has experienced what we've experienced, they still cannot truly understand how that tragedy or wrong-doing has affected us, as we all respond differently to similar situations. my motto is live and let live, and anyone who gets in my way will be killed and eaten. hope this helps!!

Answer 6

Child abuse is not just an individual or familial problem. Unless you avoid people entirely, it is nearly impossible to go a day without encountering a survivor of childhood abuse. Children who survive abuse grow up more likely to negatively impact our society in many ways, not just by handing down the legacy of abuse to their own children. Child abuse bursts out of the family and infects our society with callousness and cynicism, anger and violence, and crime, drugs and disease.

The effects of child abuse on victims are devastating and life-long, and its effects on our society are pervasive. Still, it is difficult to measure the prevalence of abuse in our society, and no attempts to measure so far have overcome the basic difficulties of underreporting.

No one escapes childhood abuse unharmed. "Many abuse survivors are highly competent in their professional and personal lives, compensating for the adverse effects of an abusive childhood until some added stress is introduced, perhaps a physical illness, birth of a child, or the death of a family member." Some children may seem resilient to abuse, some even becoming overachievers but eventually the history of abuse catches up with them.

Compared with people without a history of childhood abuse, adults with a history of childhood abuse are more likely to have: A partner with a substance abuse problem; Anxiety disorders; Chronic head, face or pelvic pain; Eating disorders; Musculoskeletal complaints; Depression; Gastrointestinal distress or symptoms; Asthma or other respiratory ailments; Obesity, Eating disorders; Insomnia; Panic; Sexual dysfunction; Substance abuse; Suicidal ideation or behavior; Pseudo-neurologic symptoms (dizziness, etc.); Unintended pregnancy; Self-injury; Abuse their own children

Answer 7

YOU WILL NEVER FORGET I HAVE BEEN THERE