...and should I call her and play back?
I went out with this girl and ended up sleeping with her. She really seemed to like me and wanted to hang out the rest of the next day/morning, but I had to leave to tend to something else.
Fast forward to now (a month later) and she stood me up for our second "date". Not so much as a phone call or an email.
BUT...here is the kicker: on the phone she was giving me a lot of positive signals; telling me that she only talks to people on the phone while at work if she likes them, that she usually ignores peoples calls if she doesn't like them, and then talking to me for an hour; trying to make me laugh (and sometimes succeeding); asking me where I was going to take her next time; asking why I haven't called her in so long, etc.
So am I reading this right, is she giving me mixed signals/playing hard to get?
What is the best way to play back? I want to call her but NOT set up a date and see if she calls me.
2006-11-19 04:00:44 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Reading comprehension...she did not stand me up on two date, just the second one; we hooked up and did the neckeda dance on the first date.
2006-11-19 04:09:52 · update #1
AGAIN, SHE DID NOT STAND ME UP ON TWO DATES!!!!!
READ THE WHOLE THREAD BEFORE YOU POST.
I INVITED HER TO HANG OUT TWICE; SHE SHOWED FOR ONE AND WE HOOKED UP. SHE ONLY FLAKED ON ONE. IF SHE FLAKED ON TWO I WOULD HAVE MOVED ON.
2006-11-19 04:14:45 · update #2
She contacted me once but cut the convo short. I called her a few weeks later and she wanted to know why I hadn't called her all that time. She seemed upset that I had not called her and asked me if I was a player.
Yeah, I guess I was giving mixed signals all this time too, though I did not mean to do it so intensely.
2006-11-19 06:43:11 · update #3
The ball is in her court. Don't do anything until you hear from her , or a reasonable time has passed without hearing from her, then decide whether you want to keep, or unload her.
2006-11-19 04:05:21 · answer #1 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she felt like you blew her off when she wanted to spend time with you. This could be why she didn't show up for the 2 other dates. She's unsure of your feelings for her, and it's your job to clear that up. What is the best way to play back? Honestly, that's probably not a good idea. It'll do more harm than good, trust me.
2006-11-19 12:12:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tend to what else? Fast forward? What happened during the month with you two? Sounds like you were sending mixed signals. She slept with you on the first date, this is generally not considered playing hard to get.
2006-11-19 12:07:02 · answer #3 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's playing hard to get. Or she probably really likes you so much, that she really don't know how to react. Have you been calling her.? If not, she's probably one of those old fashioned girls that likes for the guy to call her. Maybe you should call her and see what's she's doing maybe leave a couple of messages or so. If she don't reply, then maybe your not what she wants.
2006-11-19 12:05:53 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had sex on the first date and haven't seen her since. She probably wants to make sure you don't think she's a big skank and is playing nice on the phone.
2006-11-19 12:04:56 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she felt a little rejected the day after you had a relationship with her. If you like her ask her out again and see if she goes.
2006-11-19 12:04:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's playing a game. The two dates that she stood you up on were a clue.
2006-11-19 12:04:01 · answer #7 · answered by carolscreation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call her, maybe she just forgot
2006-11-19 12:04:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋