daycares? are they really safe???

Question

Have you heard what's happening these days? Day cares are not safe in my opinion. How can you let someone you dont even know take care of your child? They may have a good impression but once you leave, you have no idea what is going to happen! Escpecially babies! There was this one lady that actually HUNG a baby upside down! I mean, ARE YOU KIDDING ME????? no way! DO any of you feel this way? Or do you feel extra safe about it? My friend's aunt pays $800 every WEEK for day care. My friend's mom was like, UH NO. I AM NOT PAYING THAT MUCH, I DONT CARE HOW RICH THIS COMMUNITY IS. NO WAY!

no they only have 1 kid!!!!! and pay 800 a week!!!

Answer 1

Hi. I work in daycare and have done so for years. Now I have a little girl of my own. And from what I have seen, I was terrified to put my child in daycare. I agree with the webcam bit and open door policy. If you really want to know how things are going, walk in unannounced during a transition period. These are the times that the teachers get frustrated. And these are the times that you need to know how your teacher deals with his or her frustrations. Some teachers are so sweet and really great up front, but it's what you find out later that's really disturbing. Mind you, it's not all daycares. But the best thing is for you to do some serious research. So, the best time to pop in unannounced is at cleanup time (from free play), nap time (that's when teachers are a bit frustrated...alot of kids think its playtime, and the teachers are in need of a much needed break, so frustration levels are at an all time high because they just want the children to go to sleep), toilet time (children can go to the toilet at any time, but there are certain times that the teacher enforces toilet time, like before nap or before lunch to wash hands), and of course, while the children are getting dressed to go outside. These are times when the children are chaotic and some teachers really don't know how to deal with it. I remember writing up so many teachers for things that I saw. Swearing in front of the kids, pulling a child by the ear, my own supervisor threw a child against a garbage can. It was horrifying to be honest. And I'm just not that kind of teacher. So it was hard. But at the same time, I have worked in daycares where everything was fine. The teachers were all proffessionals and respectful to the children. It's a hard decision whether or not to put your child in daycare. Right now I reluctantly put my child in a home based daycare because I had to start looking for work and I needed someone to care for her while I did so. The teacher is really nice, but I have noticed things that I don't care for. For example, there is a 9 month old baby and that baby is never out of it's infant seat. The children never go outside, they don't do crafts. I feel that the teacher is lazy and doesn't do anything to stimulate the children. Recently my child came home with a swollen eye and the teacher had no idea how it happened. So yes. I am wary. Luckily, I found work in a daycare and my daughter will be attending that daycare. I won't , of course, be her teacher. But at least I can keep my eye on her. Good luck with your search and remember, research is key!

Oh and just a post script....one of the daycares that I worked at had black mold growing everywhere and some of the teachers were abusive. It was a licensed daycare. The problem was that the owner knew the inspector personally and so they were licensed without a question. See...you can't always trust licensed daycares. It doesn't necessarily mean they are safer than an unlicensed one.

Answer 2

$800 a week? I would understand $800 a month (even that is too high of a price).

Looks like your friend's aunt is getting rip off!

Anyway, I been working in the daycare's for a few years now. I have been to some that I would not recommend their children being in and I have been to a few (as a substitute at the moment) that I believe are the best to place their child into (they have a long waiting list at that).

Daycare can be extremely beneficial to the parents and to the children. However, I don't believe in just placing a child into the daycare and not having any involvement.

Do unexpected walk in's.
Keep updated on accident log reports.
Discuss every day on their children's development with the teachers.
Discuss with their children about their day everyday.
Those who can't talk do have actions like infants. Are they constantly fussy, any physical marks to indicate bruises that was un-explained by the teacher when there was no bruises when drop him/her off.
Teacher's certification and background?

$800 a week........umm...what are they providing to this child to cost $3,200 a month?

Better yet, how can this aunt afford that?

Answer 3

Some are. I like the webcam idea. My grandmother owns a daycare and it's great. Some daycares operate out of there home and those are monitored by the state so if something is not right they can't operate. I thought the cost for daycare was depending on the age. My grandmother charge $100. for infants, $80 for children 2-4 and it gets cheaper by the age. I believe you when you say that these things are happening to children and it scares me to even think about putting my baby in day care. Mybe when she gets older and can tell me what happened everyday and what she did while there. Charging 800 for daycare is crazy you would be better of sending the child to some type of Boarding school.

Answer 4

A good quality daycare should have either cameras or an open door policy ( you can visit and check anytime you like). When choosing a daycare center people need to make sure that the place is certified by the state and government. If you are a single parent and need your child cared for then you have no choice, but daycare. That's great that your mom was able to care for you instead of sending you to daycare.

Answer 5

That is VERY high I pay 100 a week and I trust my daycare but my child has been sick off and on I think if you have the choice to stay home than do that and maybe take them to a mothers day out thing every now and then so you can get rest. If you do take them to day care than make sure they are licensed and the place is clean and there is no sign of men( My preference)

Answer 6

I worked in daycares and it really depends on the people working there. Ive seen alot of things happen and nobody say anything. I on the other hand am not afraid to say something and let someone know how I feel. Having children myself helps alot , I treat the children how I would want mine to be treated. And trust me not everone is like that.
And as for your questions yes I can believe whats going on, the directors dont check out the people good enough before they hire them. They hire either young girls just there for a paycheck or older women who are kinda lazy and just want to get out of the house. MY advice to all parents is to call the police department and get a background check on the daycare center.

Answer 7

no daycares are not safe, a lot of things happen there but, if someone is paying 800 a week they are stupid. That is rediculous unless they have 5 or 6 kids

Answer 8

Of course daycares are safe (in the general sense). Millions of children go to daycares every day and are safe, nurtured, and grow up to be great adults. Don't let the media-reported small percentage of bad daycares to jade you entirely. That being said, it is up to you to do all the homework that you can beforehand, and then after choosing one, to make unannounced pop in visits while your child is there. They get a lot of GREAT things from daycare too. My kids made it through just fine. I'm sure yours will too. Good Luck.

Answer 9

You would have to use your best judgement and check on their references. My friend has her kids in a 24 hr daycare due to her work schedule and it seems ok so far. She's been doin this for 1 yr now.

Answer 10

i am a stay at home mom because i don't trust day cares AT ALL. i would rather be broke than leave my child at a daycare. my husband was abused at a day care when he was an infant, and i've heard of MANY stories of babies being severely hurt or even killed at a daycare...plus when i think of all i do for my child in one day, it's hard to imagine that a stranger will care for my child that way. some people have no problem leaving their children with a daycare provider, however, i am completely against it.