she does it atleast 4-6 times a week. she doesn't tell me she did it she just changes her clothes. i tell her to use the bathroom and she says she will, but it happens again and again. whats wrong?
2006-11-19 03:44:17 · 9 answers · asked by Jim B 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Has anything changed recently? That can cause her to regress. When my daughter had that problem she had a bladdder infection. I would make an appointment with her dr and check it out just to be safe.
2006-11-19 03:49:39 · answer #1 · answered by Heather H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to first rule out a medical condition. Some children out grow their bladders at this age, and while they usually only wet themselves at night, its not unheard of to have this problem during the day. She might also have a UTI which is causing her to be unable to pee when she needs to, and resulting in her wetting herself.
If your doctor can rule out medical causes, the next place to look is her social life. If she being abused by someone at home, or at school, or some place else where she should otherwise feel safe? If she under a lot of emotional stress, having just lost a family member or friend... Children have different machanisims for dealing with severe trama and stress. Ive never known an older child to wet him or herself during the day without it being some sort of abuse issue. Even emotional abuse can cause this. especially since she's staying secretive about it.
The most memorable case I can think of that would help give you an idea of what leads up to this was an 8 year old boy I nannied. His parents were church going people, they had a nice home, and had anything they wanted or needed. But benig the nanny I saw what happened behind the scenes. The parents were never communicating about punishing the children, so they were doubly punished, or unfairly punished for things one spouse told them to do, and the other found offensive. They were also expected to take care of themselves and think for themselves, and were responsible for their lives like an adult would be. School, chores, eating, staying clean, being where they were supposed to be on time... all the things that normal parents would help a child remember, these small children, (8-10) were punished for REGULARLY. They were ALWAYS in trouble. They were always being shipped around from one family members house to mine, to another, so the parents could work. They had about 4 after school activities each, and couldnt possibly keep up with school work, since they didnt get help. So they were punished for that. It wasnt something new either, it was the only lifestyle they had known. But at some point something has to give.
As a result of this lifestyle the 8 year old resorted to pooping his pants on a daily basis. And hiding his soiled clothes places. He got therapy and was able to work it out.
OKAY, all that said, if you can rule out a phsycological reason, and a medical reason, then you need to hold her accountable for what she knows.
If she knows how to go potty when she should, then she should be punished (but not shamed) for not doing so. A grounding or a spanking, oe how ever you deal with this. But in most cases the child is not at fault. So be sure to rule out all possibilties before blaming the child.
Good luck
2006-11-19 11:53:07 · answer #2 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't listen to the everyone goes through this stage because that's not true. My sister and my cousin who is going to be 10 on New years day has never peed on there self. On the other hand my eight year old sister went through this last year {summer} Does it happen when she doing something, playing with friends or does it happen when she doesn't want to miss something? Is so she is just anxious. My mother potty trained me using running water so when ever I hear running water I always have to go. Just help her understand when she comes back from going nothing would have been missed and everything will still be the same. Good Luck
2006-11-19 11:51:27 · answer #3 · answered by Precious1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a couple of things:
One it could be a child who is too busy to stop her playing and go (very very common).
It could be a UTI (that does not show symptoms).
To be sure its not the more serious of the two you should talk with her doctor and ask for a urinalysis to rule out infection.
Do not get mad at her for it, it could just make it worse.
2006-11-19 15:03:13 · answer #4 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be many things...she could have an infection, she might have a bladder problem, or sorry to say but she could be getting abused, it could be other things (i can't think of anything right now) but i would say take her to a doctor and talk to her asap
2006-11-19 11:48:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe something is bothering her, a problem of some sort. Maybe for attention. Handle it carefully talk softly and kindly to her, and ask her if anything is wrong. Maybe you could get another friend of yours she likes and get them to see if she will open up to them.
2006-11-19 11:47:47 · answer #6 · answered by mutt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take her to the doctor.It could be a health issue. Good luck
2006-11-19 11:46:43 · answer #7 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's just going through a "stage" every one goes through it
2006-11-19 11:46:23 · answer #8 · answered by Amber K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
medical condition or stress or even depression the worst of them all sexual abuse
2006-11-19 19:33:32 · answer #9 · answered by chuy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋