how do you get a guy whos been hurt n gone through alot to tell you his true feelins about you?
2006-11-19 03:33:46 · 6 answers · asked by its blitz in uk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Obviously, you got to get his trust first. And to do that, you got to take some risks. You're not going to get him with a heart-to- heart , sorry. You will get him by spending as much time possible in his presence. Don't be shy, for example, about getting drunk with him. You have to make yourself a part of his comfort zone. But that's not going to be comfortable, because he is used to an uncomfortable comfort zone. However, it's important for you to be accepting of his sexual advances; if you're waiting for marriage, find another way to please him sexually. I'm assuming you love him, and being responsive to sex play will tell him you're not only interested in being friends. You really have to use your feminine whiles to force him into the here and now. Friendship, however, needs to come at some point. This is one of those paradoxical cases where the sexual element probably should go first.
2006-11-19 04:10:32 · answer #1 · answered by Lightbringer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's that hurt and he's gone through that much, maybe you should be allowing him to talk about those things instead of selfishly wanting him to talk about you. Its not all about you lady.
If he is currently traumatized chances are you aren't foremost in his mind right now. Why not give him some room to get through whatever it is he's going through. If you can't help him back off. Having ulterior motives when someone is vulnerable makes you extremely unattractive.
2006-11-19 11:40:35 · answer #2 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
through a 4 week regemin of good food, movies, and lots of newlywed style romance. After four weeks of that kind of attention you'll be able to dress the guy in drag and he won't care. good luck
2006-11-19 11:42:13 · answer #3 · answered by fluent_c_libra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient, give him time, & prove to him that he can trust you with his feelings. You have to earn his trust, & that takes time. Try talking to him without making him feel pressured. Let him know that you're interested in his feelings, & you want him to be able to be open with you, but also let him know that you understand that it may be difficult for him. Just be as open & honest with him as you can, & hopefully in time he'll feel comfortable enough to do the same with you.
2006-11-19 11:50:45 · answer #4 · answered by pr1ncezz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time, a still tongue and depending on your age a drink.
2006-11-19 11:37:06 · answer #5 · answered by kryptonnite2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Establish trust between you and him, it will take time, lots of time...
2006-11-19 11:37:13 · answer #6 · answered by Thomas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋