what level of sex education should a10 year old girl have?

Answer 1

My son is 10 and we are open about sex. I think the important thing for that age is that they know they can ask you (comforably) about stuff they hear about at school, etc... My son hears slang and will come home and ask me what it means. Then we have a talk in "medical" or "respectable" language about sex.

That said, I don't think kids need to know about kinky sex and weird fetishes quite yet.

Answer 2

I'd just like to put some things in perspective for those who say that 10 year olds should know nothing about sex.

I've seen, spoken to, and known, 12 and 13 year olds that have had sex and even gotten pregnant - there is never a time too early to teach kids about anatomy, how their body works, how a baby is made. At the very, very least - she needs to be taught about menstruation, female anatomy, puberty, and what she will be expecting within the next few years.

Do your best to make sure your daughter can feel comfortable asking any questions she wants - and you should answer them bluntly and honestly. Keep the lines of communication open and do not make her feel ashamed. If she is old enough to ask, she is old enough to know.

If you do not feel comfortable talking to your daughter about sex yet, please do not hold off talking about it any later than around 13 years old. If you have certain morals and standards about sex and relationships that you would like to pass on, you may do so at that time while also trying to keep an open mind and open line of communication with your daughter, because the odds are that she will likely move much faster in a relationship than you'd like. You might also ask your church to think about adding a program teaching about what the Bible has to say about sex to teach it to the teenagers.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Well honestly in this day and age she needs some info because if she hasn't already started her period she will soon, I started mine at 11 and I freaked out! My mom didn't tell me anything and I didn't know anything about tampons or pads. I cried because I didn't know what was happening, I thought I was bleeding to death and I thought I had done something wrong. So she needs to know about what a period is (when it's gonna come, what to do when it comes and what it means when it comes), personal hygiene lessons (some girls I know didn't know when to change or what to wash, this is a very embarrassing and awkward time for a girl). Don't go into the detail about sex, but she needs to know that her body is changing to prepare her for the future, when she become an adult (emphasize adult), she can create a family of her own. She should be allowed to ask questions. But seriously don't take it too far think PG not Adult. Good Luck.

Answer 4

At that age, she should pretty much know everything. Note, everything you do should be according to your family/religious valued, excluding the biological stuff, which everyone has to know.
Hopefully, she knows the proper names for body parts - that should have been known preschool. She needs to know girls have vaginas, breasts and vulvas, and boys have a penis and testicles. She needs to know how babies are made and how they are delivered - in the simplest of terms for now. She MUST know everything about menstruation, because girls are getting their periods around her age - no kidding.
It's important to have a talk, then another one, then a review, etc. Kids don't retain awfully well, and you need to reinforce the concepts. Let yourself be guided by her questions (remember there is nothing wrong with you saying "I don't know" or "I'll find out for you" or even, "You don't have to know that right now" - depending on what the question is). It's important that you have an open and honest relationship with her about this, because your goal is to have her come to YOU with questions. Stuff kids hear at school is full of myths and crap - and you don't want them believing everything they hear there. As my child got older, if a word just came up - on tv or something, I would ask if he knew what it was. If he didn't, it was time to explain. If he thought he did, I made sure his definition was correct. There is always situational teaching too. My son and I were just talking about this last night. I think it was when he was 11, we were shopping for back to school backpacks. He unzipped one at the store to see how roomy it was inside, and there were condoms inside (someone must have tried to shoplift some, and just hid them). So, he got an explanation about condoms.
Wish you luck. Don't be shy and neither will your child.

Answer 5

Vagina and penis are only for urinary purposes only. That Santa Claus and the 3 Magic Kings exist and that the Tooth Fairy will give her money for every baby tooth. With only 10 the little girl doesn't need more info than the one she can handle. She's stills having years ahead to learn on a normal pace, but always keep your mind open for things that can be hear out side the house, so you'll be able to explain her in the proper language.

Answer 6

depends on the child. If she is showing obvious interest in boys, you need to have a serious serious conversation. I teach middle school (6th to 8th) and will tell you without a doubt some girls are not at all interested or involved in anything sexual at 10=11 but their are many others that are really involved, kissing, petting, and yes intercourse. So you use parental judgement, steal the diary, listen in on phone calls, spy on her and her friends when they are alone and their guard is down or whatever it takes to find out where your child is. AIDS, pregnancy, STDs, and lost of innocence, they are all to big to risk it. And she probably won't tell you where she is or what she's think or doing, so be a parent and go and find out. She'll thank you later (like much later when she's in college or marriedf) but if she makes it that far, it was all worth it.

Answer 7

she should only know about her own bodily functions such as menses(period). anything else at this age would be innapropriate........to be perfectly honest my 10(almost 11) year old goes only to school and back home ...none of my children play outside woithout me or go anywhere without me and never will until they are adults because I dont want them kidnapped , raped, murdered, doing drugs or anything else. If any of those things happen to a young girl because she wasnt supervised enough than it is the parents fault for not valuing the life of their child.....I am making sure my kids do not use the computer alone, they dont have any phone calls, and I make sure they dont get a chance to have anything happen to them or give them the chance to do something that i consider wrong and immoral.

Answer 8

It's never too early to teach young girls about the issues of sex. With the population of younger girls becomming more interested in sex, it's never to early to teach her about the importance of using condoms, and the dangers and conquences that will happen if she doesn't. I would not go into the birth control till she's about 12-13 years old.

Answer 9

There is a great book - American Girl "The Care and Keeping of You - The Body Book for Girls" - it has great information for young girls about the changes that happen to your body. It is a great introduction to teaching your young daughter the beginnings of sex education. It talks alot about the changes that occur in girls from periods to acne to makup, etc. I have 3 daughters and this book opened up alot of conversation. Remember also that girls are starting their periods earlier and earlier. My oldest daughter had just turned 12 when she started hers.

Answer 10

In schools they learn about puberty and what changes they can expect to go through. They also learn about the reproductive system. Possibly most importantly, they are taught once again that no one but a doctor should be touching them anywhere clothes cover.