My fiances Dad calls me about 4 times a week to completely UNLOAD on me, he going through Hep c medication. I know it is very hard on the body and mind but I cant take it anymore. Carl doesnt even talk to his, at all. How can i get him to stop or back off a little? I have my own problems, im a single mom right now while my mans deployed with so much going on....
HELP ME GET HIM OFF MY BACK in a nice way. I hang up feeling totally drained.
2006-11-19 03:22:57 · 9 answers · asked by Aphrodite 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He calls Private, and while my guys in Kuwait im afriad it could be him calling because he calls on the weirdest numbers, whether they be unknown, 111111, and private. I would hate to miss his calls
2006-11-19 03:29:13 · update #1
First, get on-line and find some type of support groups and then give them a call and let them know his problem and what is needed to start therapy for him. Make sure it's close to where he lives, therefore he want use that as an excuse not to go. Then the next time he calls tell him you realize he is going through alto and you would feel so much better if would try going to therapy where people share his same problems and thoughts. Also it would be good for him cause he can find out what they did to help them. Tell him he would also learn things from them about some of the things he can expect to happen and are experience in the future from someone who has had that personal experience. Good Luck and GOD BLESS!!!!!
2006-11-19 03:56:10 · answer #1 · answered by kryptonnite2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man is trying to get his son's attention. He makes sure you know how hard it is, hoping you say Something to his son will gain him his son's acknowlegement.
Ask your man to call and write his father. Explain the illness and the recovery so that he can offer his father some compassion.
When his Dad calls let him know that you've explained the situation to his son and that you expect that he will hear from his son.
Hopefully the man will lay off a bit once he feels he has accomplished his agenda.
When he calls you let him know you're going through a really busy time right now with the holidays, work and the kids. Wish him well, tell him you expect to have time to chat next weekend, talk to him next weekend and continue to reinforce this. "It's too hard to be on the phone during the week, Pop.....I'll have time on the weekend, call me then....(Holidays, homework, kids, work......)"
What the man wants is his son. If you want peace, your man needs to step up.
2006-11-19 12:25:40 · answer #2 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your responsibility to take all of that in. You aren't his daughter-in-law yet, and even if you were, it's not appropriate! Just think - it will get worse if you don't put a stop to it now. Is he married? If not, someone in his life to chat with? Does your fiance know about this? I would think he doesn't approve. It's not an appropriate relationship in my opinion. The only way to take care of this is to tell him - over the phone by yourself, or in person with a buddy - not alone. Make sure this buddy knows the situation and supports you. You can and need to do this!
2006-11-19 11:33:46 · answer #3 · answered by Amy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you need a break, and that he should call his son or another family member or friend when ever possible, and let him know that you have problems of your own that need your immediate attention, and providing that he does not heed to your request, then it's your right to not answer the phone, or if necessary, change your phone number.
2006-11-19 11:30:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep telling him you have to go, your busy, someone else is calling or just look at the caller id and dont answer the phone when he calls if you really dont want to speak to him. I dont think there is a nice way to tell anyone you dont want to talk to them without hurting their feelings. Just make the effore to not get on the phone with him and maybe he will find someone elses ear to chew off.
2006-11-19 11:26:25 · answer #5 · answered by Thumper 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is he unloading on you, all of his personal problems? Explain to him that your not experienced in listening to other peoples problems and that he really should be talking to a therapist instead.
2006-11-19 11:35:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to speak to his wife, or your going to have to hurt his feelings. Have you tryed to send someone from the church, or red cross ,united way. have people to help any time. good luck
2006-11-19 11:28:55 · answer #7 · answered by echochat40 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Interrupt him with your own problems and he will stop calling. Good luck.
2006-11-19 11:36:12 · answer #8 · answered by * Shon * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a backbone and tell him to fucq off
2006-11-19 11:26:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋