For people with a similar experience. I recently dated this girl who has a beautiful baby girl. The baby is not mine, but I would love her as if she was. This girl was dumped by her x when he found out that she was pregnant. I met her at a friends house and we hit it off. She would invite me around regularly to visit her at her house and we had a great time just me, her and her baby. We laughed joked and had fun. Then her landlord decided to sell the place and she needed to move out. She does'nt have a car so she got a lift to work with a freind. Her freind could no longer offer her the lift service because she had moved in with her best freinds parents. I then offered to take her to work and drop the baby off at the sitters she accepted. Once she was in her new reidence it became very hard for to see her again. I saw her for ten min in the morning while drivingand ten min at night when I dropped her off. when I asked her to do something with me she brushed it off.
Is she using me ?
2006-11-19 03:15:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, she's using you.
2006-11-19 03:17:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds as if she is. Take the time to talk with her in the car, nothing like a captured audience! Give her a chance to talk to you, she has just gone thru a major upheaval. She may just need the time to adjust with the baby and other family.
Why does she not go home to her family? The new family may be creating a situation that makes it hard for her. She has an obligation there with them(real or otherwise).
If you feel strongly, then discuss the future with her. Otherwise you may just be trying to rescue her. She could be using you, but did you feel that way before? Try to find out what had changed.
2006-11-19 03:26:36 · answer #2 · answered by believer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she is using you, so to speak, but she is benefiting from our kindness. You may want to ask if she and the baby's dad are working things out. This may be the reason why she seems to be brushing you off. She may not want to hurt your feelings, but she is trying to send you a non verbal message. Not too many single females would brush off a guy who has taken on the responsibility of helping with care of a child that is not his biological child. Even if things do not work out for you and her, I am sure you will meet someone else soon. Good guys like you are hard to come by. Good luck.
2006-11-19 03:30:01 · answer #3 · answered by gee 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like she is using you. However, I would ask her straight up. Be prepared for the yes answer, I would reassure her that you would still like her either way but I would tell her that you don't like to be lead on like she likes you as a boyfriend but she only likes you for the rides you give her to work.
2006-11-19 03:27:03 · answer #4 · answered by avid_rafter765 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could just be she is not ready for a serious relationship and thinks you are moving too fast. Assumptions are usually inaccurate so quit jackin around asking me and ask her.
2006-11-19 03:24:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like she has a lot of responsibility to shoulder....Are u helping her as a freind doing acts of kindess to someone in need....or are you doing it expecting something in return?...That will determine in which way you see it.......????
2006-11-19 03:27:06 · answer #6 · answered by Lrn'dTheHardWay 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you need to ask her if she wants to go out one night and make sure it happens soon. If she dont seem like she is interested I would stop being her taxi driver.
2006-11-19 03:20:42 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
did you asked her why she is behaving like that.
maybe she is behaving rude for some reasons.
Or she accepted you to propose her, but you helped her to move in new place maybe when she accepted you to keep her close to your heart.
2006-11-19 03:24:30 · answer #8 · answered by Kite man 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There's only one way to find out: tell her you can't give her any more rides and see her reaction.
2006-11-19 03:23:10 · answer #9 · answered by Betelguese 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
why not talk to her, tell her that you like her and would like to see her.
2006-11-19 03:21:12 · answer #10 · answered by brenda4ever 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋