My friend got married this last Friday. The wedding was in a banquet hall and a lot of people were invited. She invited a lot of her friends' whole families (which was about 5 people) but from my family she did not invite my husband, only me. My (other) friends and family thought this was rude, was it?
2006-11-19 03:01:27 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Mindbogglingly rude. I hope you sent your regrets: "Congratulations on the beginning of your new life with your husband. I regret that I cannot attend, as I will be spending time with mine."
I disagree with the suggestion to send an RSVP saying you'll both come. If he wasn't invited, he wasn't invited. You also can't ask her "did you forget to invite him?"
When it's all over and some time has gone by, see if you can talk this out with her and whether she has an issue with your spouse.
2006-11-19 03:15:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I am going to give you another perspective than what other people are saying, other than saying "she was rude".
I am going to see things from your friends perspective. She obviously does not like your husband for very solid reasons, and you probably know what those reasons are. You did not tell us WHY you think she didnt invite your husband--but I'm sure that you know full well why she does not like your husband. Maybe he is abusive to you, maybe he has been rude to her, maybe he has cheated on you 3 times, or maybe he gets drunk and causes a scene in public. Whaetver the reason, she obviously did not want any Negative Energy on her wedding day.
I think a wedding should be a Peaceful moment. I'm not married, and I am certainly not into big, ridiculous weddings. Even if you get married in Moms backyard or at the CoutrHouse--you shouldnt have to look at some person that you absoultely cant stand while you are getting married.
Your friend had 2 options: dont invite you or your husband; or invite you only..She decided to invite you.
If your husband has never done anything what-so-ever to hurt you or her--then she was rude. But if there is something that has happened--that you are not telling us--then you know why.
Peace
2006-11-19 06:04:36 · answer #2 · answered by Victory 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course it was rude. A man and wife are considered a unit and there is never a social protocol to only invite one spouse only. She might say that it was a money issue...... no excuse. If you are important to her, your spouse is important to you so therefore you invite both. Your husband has the right to go even if not invited. Bottom line it shows an amazing lack of class and ettiquette no matter how you cut it. It shows that you are not really such a friend. It also does not bode well for their marriage if she is not deep enough to consider these things. You are obviously deeper to even ask this question. Move away from her as a friend and find friends who are more like you. Again, no excuse in the world holds weight on this issue.
2006-11-19 04:32:56 · answer #3 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, This was very rude on your friend's part. If I were getting married and I were inviting all my friends. I would say that they could all invite their Spouse to come as well. I know that was rude. I would never want anybody to come alone (even if I didn't know them). Especially if they wouldn't know anybody else at the wedding. That would be really awkward. I agree with you and your friends and family.
2006-11-19 05:57:19 · answer #4 · answered by jrealitytv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. I believe so. I don't know all that much about weddings, but I thought that even if you invited a single person or someone without a girlfriend/boyfriend, then you'd include an invitation for them to bring a date.
But especially if you're married, it was rude. In my opinion.
2006-11-19 04:22:52 · answer #5 · answered by Angry Gay Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has no respect or manners why have friend like that.
That is not a friend . And i hope you did not attend her wedding .Anyways when you are invited to any event most normal people invite the person spouse he is part of you and if she can not accept him then you need to find some new friend that will accept your whole family.
2006-11-19 03:12:11 · answer #6 · answered by dacronicman 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's very rude. especially that is your husband. If that was just your boyfriend than it's a different case. If I were you I wouldn't attend her wedding. I find this inusulting. Did she have a reason why she didn't invite your husband?
2006-11-19 06:44:11 · answer #7 · answered by uniqaznmeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that was very rude.When you invite part of a couple, the other half is automatically invited unless it is a ladies only evening or such.
You could have filled out the reply card saying that 2 will be attending and "George and I are looking forward to spending your special day with you "
2006-11-19 03:05:43 · answer #8 · answered by Cammie 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's very RUDE. Invitations should extend to friends and their spouse. People who are married are expected to be invited as a couple.
2006-11-19 03:58:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes very rude, tacky and disrespectful towards you as a friend. But, does your husband get drunk or cause sceenes or do they not like each other
2006-11-19 03:06:29 · answer #10 · answered by Thumper 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋