daughter and wetting problem?

Question

Our 11 year old daughter has been put back in diapers for over a year now. What we cannot understand is the
fact that we had NO trouble at potty training her, she was the easiest one to train. It started a few months
before she turned 10, she started wetting her bed. Then she starts wetting her pants in the DAY time and it got
to constant. Her teacher calls me to the school and tells me about her problem, I started sending her to school
in pull ups so that she can have protection and will not be embarrassed and when she is at home she can wear
her underpants.
We now have her in diapers, that is the only choice that we have right now, I know that this has to be
embarrassing for her even though she says that it isn't but what choice do I have? She is seeing her doctor
about this and he has tried several medications which are not working, now they are testing her for ms. We
need help.

Answer 1

I have the same problem with my 8 year old daughter, she was easily potty trained at the age of 3 and never had any problem until 2 years ago. She wet herself at school on a couple of occasions, but now it is mostly at night, so I also had to put her in good-nights!!!!
I also had the same problem with bed wetting when I was a kid and what the doctor found was that my bladder was too small for my body!!!Once my bladdr developed to a normal size, the problem ended!
This problem can also be linked to some kind of psychological problem!!!
WHATEVER YOU DO, DO NOT SPANK HER FOR THIS!!!! embarrassing her will only make the problem WORSE!!!

Answer 2

My parents had no trouble potty training me at 15 months. But a little later on (I believe I was 5 or around there) I started wetting the bed at night. At first the doctor thought it was because of chronic bladder infections. (Years ago, they didn't know it was bad to put a girl in a bubble bath...they can cause infections) But years later when I was 13, I went in for appendicitis...and they found the reason I have always had trouble was because my bladder is way to small for my body. (I am 24 now and pregnant with my first. It has been extra hard with the uterus pushing on it.) It may just be that there is also something wrong with the sphincter muscle...it could have been damaged in some way...has she ever had a catheter (that was how mine was damaged.) Maybe you ought to see a specialist, also it may sound funny, but sometimes it is because something else is out of place in the body. You might see a homeopathic chiropractor and massage therapist. Good Luck and I hope you find out the problem.

Answer 3

It sounds like she may have a problem somewhere in her mind - is there anything bothering her mentally - friends, family, etc.
You also say that you know she is embarrassed, however she has not told you that it is. Maybe she has just withdrawn into her self a little and this is the only way she can release her frustration.
Let her run the course - Let her make up her mind - if she is physically sick the doctors will find it - if it is mental than maybe it is time to turn to physiologist.
Just love her and tell her you want to help - and take it easy and go from there - make sure to check out all the areas where this problem could be affecting her !
It will work out - Luck to both of you !!!

Answer 4

It could be an infection or it could be that something has change in her life, a new person in her life, loss of friend. death of a loved one or maybe your moved to a different home. Try talking to her about. Also there could be a chance that she is being abused by someone. Some children wet there pants to keep there abusers away from them. Just talk to her and see what happens. Just don't be mad at her. I wet the bed until i was 13 . I was tested for infection and was put on meds. nothing work I just had to grow out of him. I wish you luck.

Answer 5

I would be very concerned about an infection, chronic constipation or a neuological problem. She needs an MRI of her spine ASAP. Does she have the urge to go- or is she just leaking urine. If she is unaware - that is most concerning.

Are there any reasons to suspect this is a behavioral problem? Any recent stress in the family or at school? You should really discuss this with her in a non-threatening way.

Whether this is a physical problem or emotional one-she needs a lot of support from family. This can't be easy for her either.

Good luck to you all.

Answer 6

well maybe you should contact your local doctors on the reason why she has a blatter problem at such a young age. A good way to not wet the bed at night is to not drink any liquids at night time and go to the bathroom before she goes to sleep at night. If she pees during school then i guess she has know herself and realize if she does have to go or not.

Answer 7

has she had anything bad done to her that would affect her mentally? when you go in the service one of the questions is do you wet the bed. My recruiter said its because people who wet the bed often have physocological problems. maybe shes seeing the wrong kind of doctor

Answer 8

most bedwetting is biological in nature and beyond a child's help. pullups are wonderful. but day time wetting is something totally different.

I strongly suggest a different doctor. right away.

Answer 9

ok as scary as this is this is a sign of sexual abuse. get her into some kind of counseling. there is a reason for why this started.. talk to the school and find out if they are letting the kids go to the bathroom

Answer 10

spank the child let her know thats not cool she's too big for that. take her to a public place and talk about her and hurt her feelings she won't do it no more.