Does anyone remember the episode where Elaine's neighbor stops saying Hi to her?
What do you do in that case? For example, my daughters started a new school, which they like very much by the way, but one thing I noticed is the mothers of the students have nothing better to do than to stand around in the schoolyard gossiping, sometimes for the whole morning. They'll even stand in the rain in one cluster talking!
Anyway, I had several conversations individually with a couple of them, while they were separated from their 'pack' and thought I was comfortable getting to know them individually. Well, the next day I will go to drop my kids off and they will ALL ignore me! It's almost like nobody wants to admit that they have spoken to the 'new mother'. It is really hurtful. It is absolutely unbelievable and something out of high school, for pete's sakes. I am also divorced, whereas none of those other mothers are... yet anyway.
What does one do in this situation?Any similar experience?
2006-11-19 02:58:38 · 10 answers · asked by Lisa M 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Seinfeld... what a great show I definately remember that episode.
That hurts, when people won't even day hi to you. That is so rude.
I say continue to be the bigger person. Don't stop saying hi. Make small chat, go right up in there with the group and see what they say to you.
There is also the possibility that you may be slightly paranoid. Don't be! Stand up for yourself, and don't sink to their level.
2006-11-19 03:01:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Right, well who says it has to be one-sided? You could stop the person to chat. That is, if in good conscience you can find that the organism is worthy of rescusitation. Breath new life into it if you want. Who's stopping you? He just didn't want to say hi any more but that doesn't mean he wouldn't lik some nice head for example.
2014-10-05 16:27:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Similar experience? How about over and over and over again from the time my daughter was in K through High school. The first year or so it really hurt me, then I got over it. I wouldn't have made friends with them outside of that scene, so why did I feel I needed them as friends inside of it? I always kept things pleasant, a "hello", and then went on my way. I especially found this to be hurtful at church, but eventually got over it there, too. I found my own group of friends who had something in common with me. Let them come to you. Your children will be going to parties and play dates and such with theirs over the years. It will be friendly enough. If they have nothing to do but gossip in the rain all day then they probably would bore you in the end. If they are involved in the community doing something good, then that's different, but somehow I doubt that!
2006-11-19 11:12:24 · answer #3 · answered by Realty Shark 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This situation calls for a big smile and cheery Hello! from you, then go on your way.
Try not to be hurt by their rudeness.
Pretend there's nothing wrong.
Possibly address by name those you've talked to, and then a "and all" at the end.
"Hi, Mary, Sue, Liz. Hello, all!" Then go away, as though you have things to do (which, no doubt, you do).
Sometimes people literally don't know how to act; that may be the case here. Although it would be polite and more reasonable for those you've spoken to to introduce and include you, it may just be they may just not know how.
Whether that's the case, or they are intentionally snubbing you, pretend not to notice anything's wrong.
2006-11-19 13:16:27 · answer #4 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it seems strange to me that sometimes in such situations parents are often less mature about things than there children. My reaction would to just say "hello" in passing anyway and refuse to stoop to the level of ingnoring people just because they did it to you. You usually have to only "break" one person, and the rest follow suit. The same as any other social situation. Good luck
2006-11-19 11:05:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just be friendly, as often as possible say hello to them.
Then be on your way, always make it look as if your very busy.
I'll bet in time they will believe you are important and will want to get to know you.
Or, be friendly and give them as much time as they have given to you.
Either one works, have tried both.
Best of luck to you.
2006-11-19 12:07:35 · answer #6 · answered by eyes_of_iceblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they may group up like that because that is the only time they talk face to face. if you are the only one divorced then they may feel that they have less in common with you. this sounds new to you, but there are many people that go through this their entire lives, eventually you either get used to it or become expert at acting as though you are used to it (welcome to our void)
2006-11-19 11:15:00 · answer #7 · answered by hell oh 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If this is true the only response is to ignore them too. Good riddance to rubbish. Don't feel any loss for such unfriendly people.
2006-11-19 12:01:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would you want to friends with women like that? I would be polite for my children's' sake, but nothing further. People like that are poisonous.
2006-11-19 11:13:01 · answer #9 · answered by lucy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think women have their little "clicks" too, just like men do and are reluctant to allow in new members.
2006-11-19 11:11:58 · answer #10 · answered by Dave 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋