I've asked this question a million different ways,but I still have no right answer.In the 7th grade,I met a guy.We we're nice friends at frist,and then we began flirting around alot.It was just the average exciting boy,girl friendship.He'd call me,we'd laugh alot,see eachother in school,and enjoy eachother's company very often.That was a whole entire school year that all that went on and I began to like him.During the summer we spoke more and we seemed closer.I just kept liking him even more to the point where I feel like I want him so much.He won't go out with me though for two reasons.You see he's in high school now and there are plenty of girls there.Reason 1 is that he values our friendship and that it would feel weird.Reason two is because he's around even more flirtatious girls,and if he went out with me,he wouldn't wanna slip up and do anything to hurt me.As sweet as that sounds,it's so hard for me to take.What should I do?
2006-11-19 02:24:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In my opinion you can have your friendship and date. I mean, it's not like the relationship would change drastically. You'll still be you and he'll still be himself, so that's not a very good reason. Plus, life it's about taking chances, not playing it safe just in case... that leads nowhere.
So, reason 1: done!
As regards the other reason he gave, I say bulls*it. That is just saying that he wants to be available to date any of the girls that flirt with him, or at least be able to choose. I mean, there are flirtatious girls just about anywhere, so what? He won't ever date a girl because there are flirtatious girls around the corner? What will he do when he gets married? "Oh, honey, I'm sorry I HAD to sleep with her... he was flirting so much she got me into it. It wasn't my fault."
Sorry, not good enough.
Don't take it personal, but to me it sounds like he just doesn't wanna date. Period. Those just were excuses.
Keep him as a friend if you want, but I'd highly recommend spending less time with him and trying to find another guy. Hang out with girl friends and look at cute guys, you never know what you may find.
2006-11-19 02:44:03 · answer #1 · answered by mackenzie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand its driving you mad I really do I had the same thing happen to me when I was in school with a guy I swore was the one. we were best friends ( which by the way are the ones you always fall for being they know you so well and totally get you ) and he didn't want to date me, he didn't want to lose our friendship and said the same thing about the other girls and he didn't want to risk hurting me if he was to slip up and make a mistake. and trust me I didn't take it any better than you are. But I did totally respect him for being honest with me! Most people aren't that honest. I would jsut enjoy the friend that you got and count your blessings that you have a friend that good. and you would be surprised he might actually change his mind. once the roles reverse that is. Just have fun and don't worry so much! your young honey life has just begun for you!
2006-11-19 10:30:26 · answer #2 · answered by crazy b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hav the same story.....if u wanna b with him u must told him this literally
1st: Go 2 some place u were hanging out a lot (not the club) or some place he like it (not the club)...... and the meeting must b in the night
listen i wanna told u some this from long time and this thing i'll told i dont want it 2 affect our friendship ......if he say yes continue from along time we r friends and we still and i wanna keep this friendship
but in my heart is more than friendship 2 u .......... I Love U
Just like that......if he love u it will end up with a kiss if not (it will end up by u killing me) i mean u will stay friends
Hope U Find ur answer
2006-11-19 11:35:46 · answer #3 · answered by Khaled 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK well points for him for being honest about the other girls but how does he know it will be occuerd tell him to atleast give it a try and if it doesnt work out then ull still remain friends
2006-11-19 10:28:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey wat he s doin is right he seems like a nice guy.and is being true to you . but unless he really likes you its of no use cause you wudn like him cheating upon you .i think you should gv it time he may realise tat he likes you .just try seeing othr guys .hey may get jealous and realise he likes you.
2006-11-19 10:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by ash_83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stay best friends with him ;]
2006-11-19 10:27:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOT start a relationship!!!
2006-11-19 10:29:50 · answer #7 · answered by alexzandria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STAY FRIENDS AS LONG AS YOU CAN .
HE MIGHT FIND SOMEONE ELSE
2006-11-19 11:05:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋