She's 9 years old, and have a fresh mouth,how can her dad and I deal with it.We have taken privileges,like tv,phone,etc...it helps for a while but she continues,sometimes.She gets enough attention,
so what can we do ? In fact she only screams at me. help me ???
2006-11-19 02:23:16 · 24 answers · asked by lady F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
stop pampering her.
2006-11-19 02:51:11 · answer #1 · answered by `teeveebee- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, at the age of nine years old she has no business screaming at noone. You've taken privileges away that really isn't helping. I'd say she needs a little fear instilled in her before the problem grows with her age. WHOOP HER A**. I bet you'll get some results. It may take 2, but nothing more than that if you do it right the first time. I mean what have you to lose. It's either whoop her now or she'll be whoopin' you later. Good Luck and GOD BLESS!!!!! P.S. I'm speaking from experince. I have 5 boys and 1 girl. 2 of my boys are 21 years old, one is 19 years old, one 17years old, one is 15 years old and my daugther is 16 years old. You can't pay them to raise their voice to me. It I don't care what people say that it's because they fear me. So what I call it R-E-S-P-E-C-T. My husband and I have always gotten complaments on our kids behavior. Even doctors have come out of their offices and asked how did we manage to have all those kids at such young age under control? They all ways say they have never seen so many children sit and behave their selves so well.
2006-11-19 03:11:32 · answer #2 · answered by kryptonnite2000 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is screaming at u because you let her and she knows she can get away with it.You have to be constant with the punishment.I have a 18 yr old and in college and it is the hardest thing u will ever do.No one said it is easy raising a child.Everytime she screams at u then u must make her go to her room without t.v or phone.You can't let her get away with not one time.Otherwise all your hard work goes down the toliet.This will take acouple of weeks too.Bad behavior took awhile to develop so it will take awhile to correct. If she has plans to do something that day that she screams at you then you put her in her room and she isn't aloud to go. It's very hard to do because you want to see them happy but in the long run this is best for her.She isn't really happy now. She has no clear cut rules on what she can and can not do. Good luck
2006-11-19 02:45:46 · answer #3 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smack her in the mouth... just enough to bring her to her senses... no red marks or bruises... my 13 yo daughter was the same way... there's something about that age... after a few smacks... she finally got the message... I also told her it would do any go to tell anyone... as far I was concerned it didn't happen... I'm serious here... grounding, removing favorite items from her room... nothing worked.. swing her around where you are face to face and tell her to stop screaming only babies scream... then smack her in the mouth... demand respect... then go empty her room with only a mattress on the floor... I ONLY HAD TO DO IT A FEW TIMES... My daughter is the warden at a state prison now... all after a few smacks and 6 years of college... she knows now that she has children that why i did it...she remembers trying to get her way and trying to control things... go figure... good luck!!!
2006-11-19 04:31:51 · answer #4 · answered by Sandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep taking the privileges away, but make it long periods of time.
ALSO, it sounds like maybe your not giving her the correct "mother/daughter bonding. Is she getting on your nerves, so you turn around and give back the privileges? IF so this has to stop.
Is your daughter by chance doing drugs? Does your husband scream at you in front of her? IF she's seeing he get's away with doing it, she's bound to try.
Maybe a doctor's visit is in order. She may have a chemical imbalance which should be treated.
IF YOU DON'T put a STOP to it right now, you'll have hell to pay once she's a teen. And then she will more than likely become dangerous.
2006-11-19 02:55:56 · answer #5 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
who is the PARENT...YOU or the MOUTH?
You need to be consistant in your discipline of this child----control sitting with out communication ---Are you and your husband screaming at her ???? This is a learned thing----so what are you doing by not setting the example.
To many times the priveledges are taken away from the child only to be given back the next day. Follow thru and consistantcy is what is needed. I've actually thrown cold water at my child as a shock value when the mouth gets to be out of control. Call it a WET Wake up HELLO Call....
2006-11-19 03:28:31 · answer #6 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*You did not say how old she is, is she under 5 or sufficiently old to be attentive to greater valuable? probability is, she is having a coarse time and is offended and would not be attentive to a thank you to convey it the spectacular way. it relatively is in all probability not ordinary on her that her mom left and took each ingredient and he or she ought to experience like her life is quite volatile desirable now. yet it is not any reason to enable her habit to maintain occurring. while she butts in, say civilly, yet firmly "Excuse me, i'm speaking and that i'll enable you to talk while i'm complete." If she retains speaking and that's once you're speaking to somebody else, attempt to visit a distinctive room. If she does it once you're speaking to her, only end speaking to her and eliminate your self from the region. enable your boyfriend be attentive to the way you experience and ask for thoughts on a thank you to look after it. All hell could harm loose the 1st few circumstances which you do not positioned up together with her habit, yet at last she would be in a position to evaluation to appreciate you and the different family members. the subsequent time she calls her mom and complains approximately you tell her which you will gladly check together with her mom and clarify the region and spot what her mom says approximately it. (probability is she would be in a position to unlike that concept!) yet while she thinks for you to definitely check together with her mom, then she ought to be greater hesitant to call her. stable success!
2016-10-22 08:50:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to tell you but you should know by now she is 9 years old she needs a spanking, but a good one my daughter is 16 now and when she was like that I would give her, hers and she is the best daughter she is top of her class and very talented. I just gave her her sweet 16 party cause she deserved it, so you see if you give her a spanking she will see you mean what you say and your not playing around. I know its hard and it hurts you more then it hurts them. but there are kids you don't ever have to hit, but not all kids are the same and the one that need it have to get it. all else she would scream not only at you but , everybody she feels like, then everyone is going to have it with her and no one is going to like her. then she is going to hang out with the wrong crowed. you have to stop her before is too late..........good luck her future is in her father and your hands.
2006-11-19 02:45:06 · answer #8 · answered by nancy o 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Crate training. It works for dogs. Ya know, call me evil, but I still believe in the power of good ole *** whipping. A child doesn't have the right to scream at his or her parents. I would take her to a doctor just to see if she has any emotional problems that can be treated more humanely. The crate comment was just a joke to lighten up the mood. I figured you needed a laugh :) No offense
2006-11-19 02:26:25 · answer #9 · answered by dhalia_1977 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take her to a counselor. When she screams at you, do not talk to her and if she continues, just say that you will only listen to her when she will talk like a sane person and not shouting like a mad girl. If she has a problem, you are always there but she has to learn to communicate in a better way, much better way for that matter. Then, keep quiet no matter what she says and ignore her.
2006-11-19 02:26:45 · answer #10 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her that you and your husband do not respond to yelling and if she continues - instead of taking away tv and such - because she'll always find something else to do - make her stand in the corner for a while and think about he actions and to not say a word -- hopefully she'll get bored there.
do you and your husband do a lot of yelling yourselves? if so, you may want to avoid that in front of the kids because they have a tendancy to think that if you do it, it is ok for her to do it.
good luck!
2006-11-19 02:30:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋