We met over a year ago just after I had been divorced. He says he loves me and continually talks about spending the rest of his life with me - despite the fact that I have been married and divorced and have 2 young boys from that marriage. The sex is amazing, and every day still feels like we just met. He dotes on me. Its not that I'm paranoid, its just I love him so much I cant imagine a day without him in my life. My man is almost 9 years younger than me, and people dont believe I am my age they always get my age wrong by about 6 years less than it is.
2006-11-19 02:20:36 · 18 answers · asked by Chicky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im married to a man 9 years younger than me.
We met after i split up with my first husband,I had 4 children who he has brought up,they adore him.
Your fella sounds just like him ,mine still adores me even after 22 years together.
I hope you two will be as happy as we are.
2006-11-19 02:33:32 · answer #1 · answered by Pat R 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, and it can. You're wise to think of the future; it could get more difficult but if the love is there it'll make no difference. Talk about it (not too much) and then get on with your life and have a fantastic tiime.
One thing, how is he with your boys, and they with him. Does he want to have more children?
Important to sort all this out if you are thinking of a permanent relationship.
I have found throughout my life that younger men have always been attracted to me. When I was younger it embarrased me, I couldn't believe that they really wanted to be with me when there were so many younger attractive girls around.
I can only deduce that for some males an older more mature woman turns them on. Also I suspect they feel safer and more confident with someone who doesn't expect them to be 'James Bond'.
I hope you work it out together, and have a wonderful life.
2006-11-19 02:47:41 · answer #2 · answered by helpful Annie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I shouldn't worry about it at all. 9 years isn't alot of difference. Men age quicker than women so I feel that they should always have older women.
I once dated a man 24 years younger than me and it was the best time of my life!
He is a bit of a night mare now but that's got nothing to do with the age gap - I just feel i had him at his best time!
He's turning into quite a prat (Player!!!)now so I probably wouldn't like him now he's older.
So you keep him while he's young fresh and keen, before life ruins him.
I hope you are happy together 4 a long long time!!
2006-11-19 02:36:17 · answer #3 · answered by kiku 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is legal, right? That's step one. I know women get a double standard when it comes to robbing the cradle, but sex between any adult (male or female) and an underage person is wrong. Otherwise, enjoy the sex, but keep your sense of balance here. If this is going to last it is not going to do it because he dotes on you like a kid or that you can fool people about your age. It is going to last because you are both mature and you both are equal partners in building an adult relationship.
2006-11-19 02:25:39 · answer #4 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Age shouldn't make a difference in a relationship. Your lucky to findh him. Just treat each other equal. I have been in the same situation and that seems to work. I do defer to him on a lot of things and let him know I appreciate him.
2006-11-19 03:39:30 · answer #5 · answered by Sunshine Suzy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe age is a factor in love to an extent. If it is real and he makes you this happy then sit back and enjoy it! My mother married two men and both were 15-20 years older then her and mind you she was older when she did this but both of them were the loves of her life! (they both sadly died in case your wondering why she didn't stay with the first.) But if he gives you and your children what you need don't question it just enjoy your life with him and be happy for the time you got!
2006-11-19 02:25:32 · answer #6 · answered by crazy b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
'Almost' 9 years younger! So it's that far apart. Mmmm!
My girlfriend is 25 years younger than me, my wife is 5 years older than me.
Age really isn't material. It's what you share, your ability to share - to communicate and to give as well as accept from each other that is important.
Maybe you are thinking to much and should try listening instead to your heart!
How would it be for you, if he were to go, tomorrow, or to fall under a bus? What would you feel...?
Best of luck.
Sash.
2006-11-19 03:37:33 · answer #7 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go 4 it!!!!! People of the same age still split up, age not going to make a difference. Im 12yrs older than my man. We dont think about the age difference.
2006-11-19 03:35:59 · answer #8 · answered by enigma64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was once in your shoes: my fiance openly admits that he cheated on his wife, several times. He also admits that he has cheated on every girlfriend he has ever had. I too was weary and took things slow. His friends were always telling me that he was different man with me then he was with his ex and he admits that I am the only girl that he has never cheated on. I guess it boils down to whether you trust him to not cheat on you. My fiance and I have a very honest relationship and he never lies or holds anything back. whever a girl flirts with him, he tells me and vice versa. But the biggest thing is that the past is the past. He is probably a different man now then he was when he was with her.
2016-05-22 03:24:19 · answer #9 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it'll be fine. My sister is 19 and her boyfriend is 26 and they seem very happy and the age never really changes the way they are. Plus if you look younger than you are, be happy! =]
2006-11-19 02:24:56 · answer #10 · answered by Casey B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋