I love her so much, she doesnt allow me to visit her without notice. Maybe she has someone. Please help?

Answer 1

Back off slightly and don't push her. Time will tell. She may want to keep the relationship on a level without the "popin" for a while.

Answer 2

Its not unsual that people ask for a notice before you come to visit. With relationships its a little weird at times though cause you generally expect them to come over so a whole lot of notice is not needed. I would definently ask her what the deal is and tell her you care deeply for her and that you just want to make sure all is well with your relationship. but you can't smother her too much or she will turn and run. women just as men need thier own space also. gives everyone time to stop relax and collect their thoughts

Answer 3

Discuss the situation with her and tell her that you do not want to seem 'controlling' but you do not understand why she is so particular about being informed beforehand about your visit. If you still have doubts, then perhaps you can hire a private detective that has a reputation of keeping the things to themselves and check her out. I know that sounds like a bad idea but this is only to be resorted to as a last measure, if you do not get any logical explanations of her behavior.

Answer 4

first thing,DO U TRUST HER? MAYBE SHE JUST WANTS TO MAKE HERSELF READY B4C YOU GET THERE. HOW LONG HAS IT BEEN LIKE THIS OR DID SHE START RECENTLY.
IF U REALLY FEEL THAT INSECURE, AND U CAN TALK ABOUT ANYTHING IN THIS R/SHIP THEN ASK HER WHY YOU CANT VISIT HER WITHOUT NOTICE.
DONT ASK HER IF SHE IS SEEING SOMEONE ELSE COZ SHE MIGHT FEEL HURT BY UR LACK OF TRUST BRING THE SUBJECT UP WHEN UR HAVING A NORMAL CHAT. IF SHE REFUSES TO TELL U DNT PRY SHE MIGHT HAVE OTHER REASONS OTHER THAN ANOTHER GUY FOR DOING THIS
DONT ASSUME, ASSUMPTION CAN KILL LOVE CONFRONT IN A POLITE WAY AND DNT REACT HARSHLY TO ANY ANS SHE GIVES.ALSO IF SHE STARTS BY SAYING THERE'S NO OTHER GUY DNT LOOK SO RELIEVED EITHER COZ THIS WILL SHOW HER THAT U HAD NO TRUST IN UR R/SHIP AND THAT U JUDGED WHAT SHE DID INSTEAD OF ASKING

SIT DOWN THE 2 OF YOU AND TALK AS IN REALLY TALK

Answer 5

You need to be more specific. you said you love her much but WHOM, your mother your lover, your sister. And you answered your self Maybe she has someone.

Be more specific in short details. Then I know you will received a good answered.

You dint said if is a ex- girlfriend, or girlfriend, or someone you like.

Maybe theees a lot of problem at ther house that she did WANT you to know. I DO NT KNOW, BUT IF YOU NOT WRITE MORE DETAIL NO ONE CAN REALLY HELP.

Answer 6

If she lives on her own, she might be trying to clean, but if you both are teenagers living in your parent's house she may have to run it by her parents. Don't assume right away that she is cheating, girls like to prepare herself when her man come around. She want the house to be clean, she want to smell good. Another thing is she could possibly be busy and would like to know when you come over so she can remove a few things back on her schedule.

Answer 7

I'd say that she's prob like me...she wants everything to be in good shape when you get there: her place is tidy, and she's pesentable. I wouldn't worry too much. She prob just wants to make evrything just right for you guys when you're together.

Answer 8

it might just be she has a filthy house and wants to clean it b4 u come over,,she dont want u to know shes a pig

Answer 9

maybe she does have someone else talk to her about it if she stays all like u know quiet or offended she probably has someone else

Answer 10

trust her -- if you cant trust her then the relationship is in trouble anyway --- of course you have to be in an exclusive relationship