Well, my grandfather is really mean to me. He doesnt do anything physical but he is all words. He calls me stupid, ugly, and other nasty things. It is so annoying. This is the grandfather on my dad's side. One year, my grandfather from my mom's side came to dinner at the grandparent's house (on my dads side) and my grandpa on my moms side was such a sweet man, well my grandpa on my dads side called him fat, and some other choice words. My mom has talked to my dad since my grandpa has gotten worse with the names and my dad says he will talk to him but I dont think he will;; because he hasnt yet and he says 'its just teasing'. Well even if it is just teasing; it makes me feek horrible and upset and annoyed. And no one in my family does anything about it! They just let him do it!!
WHAT DO I DO??????
I've just been calling him names back but I usually get yelled at! What should I do??? Please help me!!
2006-11-19 02:09:32 · 15 answers · asked by Sally 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I dont wanna kill him! LOL!!!!
2006-11-19 02:12:18 · update #1
wear earplugs whenever you get in hearing distance of him and just smile wide, and if you see his lips moving, just say "I think you are too.", either way it has to be a positive comment or an annoying but powerful comeback.
another approach is to avoid him & ignore him until he realises that he is not wanted. he will leave you alone, and if he starts calling you names tell him that you have bettter things to do than listen to him time-consuming lectures on your own inferiority. old people get pissed off when you use big words.
also, you might want to group together with your mom to solve the problem, because she has power in the household, and both of you together might convince your dad to talk to your grandfather.
i hope this advice helps because i have the exact same problem, i don't get what it is but grandfathers on your dad's side are really mean to you some times if you are a girl. Hope this helps! Good Luck!
2006-11-19 02:17:36 · answer #1 · answered by guess2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maternal area: Grandfather's Father: Francis William Grandmother's Father: Thomas Fredrick Paternal area: Grandfather's Father: Arthur Samuel Grandmother's Father: William Herbert
2016-10-22 08:49:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you should do is stop calling him names too. This is a sign of disrespect. I understand that what he does is annoying, believe my there is at least on in every family! By letting him get to you and firing back at him just gives him more power. Do you remember how little boys used to tease you on the play ground? It's kind of the same thing. The best thing to do was to ignore the brats! They would eventually leave you alone.
As far as what to do about about dear ol' granddad, ignore him. It will be hard but maybe if he sees that your not responding like a child (even though he is acting like one), he'll stop treating you like one. Another thing you can do is to sit down with him and/or your parents and in a mature way, explain to them that the things he says to you are truly hurtfull.Good luck!
2006-11-19 02:20:47 · answer #3 · answered by siegerlm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and write him a nice letter (so there is no yelling) and explain EXACTLY why you dont want to be around him. Tell him to contact you when he has decided to change his ways or he has lost a grandchild. If he never calls, then it is his loss. You dont need the stress at such a young age.
2006-11-19 02:24:14 · answer #4 · answered by blackjack 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your grandfather on your dad's side?
If he is old enough to hear the call of Death angel,i suggest u waiting patiently,wait wait and wait till he die.Then,you can do anything you dream with his grave,such as yell his name,kick his stone,pull grass of his grave...
Just kidding!Don't try if u don't want to see him in the toilet at 0:00.
I think u should ignore that.The best way to show your feeling is express it with your parents.Or u ur self express it by showing ur emotion(think carefully).Don't make him have chance to scold u,try to be polite.
Hope u get succeed.
2006-11-19 02:33:33 · answer #5 · answered by phuong trinh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it be known that you do not want to go around him and would like to do other when they do for the reasons you just said. If you have to go try your best to keep your distance. A few remarks will slip out but try your best. You will get in trouble if you try to hurt his feels to show him how it feels so it would be best to not do this. Try talking to his wife (your grandma) about you don't like him doing this but want her to know why you don't like being there. Maybe she will talk to him.
2006-11-19 02:17:40 · answer #6 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with whisper....just ignore him....he is sad, and that's how he is dealing with it......I know its annoying, and hard to put up with. Keep in mind he will not be on this earth for ever, so try your best to be patient with his rude behaviour..
Your family won't say anything because they are ignoring him as well.......its easier not to ruffle his feathers!!! They are just keeping the piece, hats off to you and your family!!
2006-11-19 02:26:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore the comments, and after a while, when he sees that you don't care what he says, he'll quit. I know, I'm a grandfather,too.
2006-11-19 02:14:03 · answer #8 · answered by boots 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Avoid him at all costs. Keep calling him names back and when you get yelled at just say...BUT HE IS A NASTY BASTARD! and stomp away. Otherwise just tell your parents that you do not want to visit him and tell your dad that he is welcome to enjoy and laugh at your grandpa's jokes alone.
2006-11-19 02:13:12 · answer #9 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hide his bi-focals, dentures and Depends, then let him call everyone all the names all he wants.
2006-11-19 02:13:13 · answer #10 · answered by Jeff W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋