I've been in a relationship for 3 months and my feelings are growing stronger and stronger for this man every single day. The words I love you are burning inside me. I want to tell him how I feel so bad, but I'm scared. I know he cares for me a lot but is it love for him? I know the only way I'm going to find out is to ask. But this isn't something you can just ask. So my question is....Should he be the first to say the 3 words? Or should I just say what I feel? I'm 26 and he is 31 and this is the man of my dreams, the man I have been looking for, the man I am in love with. Also I'm not scared of the rejection or anything like that. Just nervous I guess you can say. Please be serious. I'm just wondering how a guy could re-act to this.
Thanks!!!
2006-11-19 02:01:48 · 14 answers · asked by browneyegirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In the words of Dido, "what good is it to feel it and not say it". Tell him that you love him, it is also best to have loved and lost than never love at all. HOWEVER, saying the words first might put him to feel that he has to now repeat the emotion to not cause hurt. Ultimatly, love is something that is best felt than said. You will know when it's right, if at all it is.... Good luck, and I love your view on not fearing rejection. ;-)
2006-11-19 02:05:52 · answer #1 · answered by blackpus88 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you from a woman's point of view. I let the man be the first to say it. If a woman is the first she may seem to be moving too fast for the man. I made that mistake once and ended up losing him.
Maybe your man has been hurt in the past and is afraid to tell you how he feels. Give him plenty of time. I know those words are important, but they are still only words. Judge his feelings from the way he treats you.
2006-11-19 02:04:56 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn where do I find a women like you. If I knew a girl that was asking the public if she should say to her love "I love you" and she badly wants to say it. I would be the luckiest man. hmmmm well the answer to your question. it is risky to ask him as some men are idiots and tend to be scared away. but then again that would be a good method to find out once and for all before you sink deeper without knowledge and crash. best of luck to you and can I have your number ; )
2006-11-19 02:10:21 · answer #3 · answered by salmanation 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he act like he loves you? If you truly aren't afraid of rejection, then wait until the time is right, and just tell him. If he feels the same as you, He'll respond in kind. I have been in the same position, and it was a relief to me not to be the first one to declare my love...Go with your heart, but keep your eyes open.
2006-11-19 02:07:30 · answer #4 · answered by boots 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking the "guys?" Do you know how childish your question sounds. You are 26 yrs. old and the "love of your life" is 31...it's time to grow up.
Actions speak much louder than words...what are his actions telling you?
2006-11-19 02:06:15 · answer #5 · answered by Kathleen L 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Act positive in a way that tells how you feel for him. Men a cagey when the three words come from the lady but he can read your signals and act. Unless.....
2006-11-19 02:05:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me I waited for the guy to tell me first, I gave him time to get comfortable with it. Guys are more complicated that women and they can't show affection as well as we can. If he do love you, he will say it soon just drop a few subtle hints to make sure you two are on the same page.
2006-11-19 02:06:44 · answer #7 · answered by deedeed2003 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wait for him to say it, At his age he may run thinking he is being pressured to say "I love you" back, without meaning it. Its only been 3 months, don't push it. I'm sure he knows how you feel already.
2006-11-19 02:05:33 · answer #8 · answered by Rick B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him you love him... it won't do anything except make your relationship stronger! and maybe he is the man your looking for follow your heart!
2006-11-19 02:03:51 · answer #9 · answered by Lor-the-Giraffe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it can't hurt if you aren't afraid of rejection, but it is still a risk if he doesn't love you just yet.
2006-11-19 02:03:18 · answer #10 · answered by moonsmagicdust 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋