I had this friend-my ex boyfriend. Hes the only one that understands me, basically. When i was going out with him once, he had to go to Virginia for some reason, so i gave him my handcuff neckalace..he gave it back after.. and i always wore it. Eventually i got another one, because the first one was kind of broken. On the last day of school, i gave the neckalace to him again. Before we went back to school, he broke up w. me and hes had it ever since. Some things went on in the past month or so, and he told me he carries it in his pocket. i still wear it.. because he means a lot to me.. So he has one neckalace, and i have the other. This neckalace holds so much significance to it.. and now. He gave it to my boyfriend. Which is his bestfriend. Do i have a right to be mad at my ex? I mean. deep down. ill always love him like forever(your first love never dies)But, by giving the neckalace to the other boy is he saying all of that doesnt matter anymore? Because it does and he knows it.Help!
2006-11-19 01:59:44 · 12 answers · asked by xPEANUTx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he probably feels the same way as you do....the neckalace means something that is no more....and holding on to something of significance like that means that maybe someday you'll get back together. Your boyfriend and your ex are best friends....your ex might feel as though he's betraying his friend by keeping it. He wants things to be cool in his friendship...and if he's (well, literally) holding on to a peice of the past, he may feel that it is his way of holding on to you, and you are not "his" girl anymore. Maybe in his mind it signifies A relationship with you, and he gave it to your man in his eyes, (as bad as this sounds, and I'm sorry) passing the torch on to the next one. He don't want his buddy to get hurt, and so he's "letting you go" or "giving you away"
But that doesn't mean you still can't be friends.....You're gonna have to process this one on your own, don't let us tell you whether or not you should be mad.....Just trying to help ya out here hon....good luck!
2006-11-19 02:31:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can decide if you have the right to be mad. But it sounds to me like he was trying to do the right thing, so to speak. He passed the torch to his best friend, now your boyfriend. It may have been a symbol to his friend that he was letting you go so that the two of you can be happy together and become all of that to each other. I understand why you'd be hurt that he didn't save such a significant moment from your relationship, but I do think that he was trying to do a good thing here. Go be happy with your boyfriend and let past love stay in the past.
2006-11-19 10:05:19 · answer #2 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he gave the necklace to your new boyfriend, I think it's time to throw both necklaces out. It obviously doesn't hold the same significance. I'm not really sure why he did that in the first place. The whole thing sounds kind of strange to me. Maybe you're holding on to your ex too much.
2006-11-19 10:04:04 · answer #3 · answered by dhalia_1977 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been dating his best friend? It could be that he's not too happy with the fact that you are going out with his best friend now and is trying to 'clean out his closet' of all things that remind him of you. Don't be mad at him. Just remain good friends with him. If the three of you can all hang out together without conflict, I say that he is a good guy to call a friend. The friendship that can withstand the ex dating the best friend is an awesome one. Good luck to you.
2006-11-19 10:07:25 · answer #4 · answered by ♪♫♪justpassingby♪♫♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let go of it. You gave him the necklace as a gift he can do what he wants with it. Obviously, it does not hold the same significance to him as it does to you. Something you might want to take into consideration as you continue to carry a flame for him. Is he really the type of man that you are looking for?
2006-11-19 10:03:22 · answer #5 · answered by Kathleen L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Peanut...Sure you have a right to be hurt because you feel he has moved on. But so have you. Be careful getting to warped about your ex because your current should be your focus. How will he feel to know you are still so strongly affected by your ex?
2006-11-19 10:05:18 · answer #6 · answered by beautiful assistant 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U gave it away, why are u mad? U just using necklace to hang on to him.. and he knows it means alot to you so he is being a *** by keeping it. Get over it; buy another one; screw him
2006-11-19 10:02:43 · answer #7 · answered by Allen L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask for it back from your bf and keep it for yourself. Boys and men do not keep alot of these things like yall do. Not that it is not special to you or him.
2006-11-19 10:03:55 · answer #8 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can be mad if u like,,but i think the anger is a waist of time
let ur new boyfreind have it,,he basically saying good bye and good luck w/the new one
2006-11-19 10:05:54 · answer #9 · answered by native,pride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldnt be mad if he gave it to your boyfriend.Maybe he thinks your boyfriend needs it and especially if thats his best friend.
2006-11-19 10:06:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋