Ok ppl!!!! I really need your opinions. I met this guy online (dont worry we're over 21) We have been chatting online with eachother for a few months now. We send eachother photos of ourselves and we have seen each other on the webcam a few times. Everytime we chat he tells me that he is so comfortable talking with me. We even gave eachother nicknames. We talk about anything and everything from music, to food, to drinks, and even sex. Once I tested him by telling him that I wanted to meet up with him for sex and he told me that he has to get to know me really well in order for that to happen. He told me two days ago that he thinks he's in love with me. I told him the same thing. But there is one problem. He's in Ukraine!!! He thought I was there too!! Im in the US!!! He told me that he would love to meet me in person one day. I told him I will visit him in feb. He was delighted! now I need your opinions. R we crazy? and should I go visit him? (I luv 2 travel) HELP PLZ!!
2006-11-19 01:49:20 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh and by the way, we got into a little arguement online because I said something that offend him. He signed off of IM but not even 1min later he signed back on telling me he was afraid of losing me if he stayed mad at me. AlsoThere are things we like about eachother and things we hate. Example, I asked him to be completely honest w/ me and tell me if he thinks Im fat in an up close pic. He told me the truth!!!!!!! He said I have fat hips and its true!!! I think thats why I like him. He didnt lie to me.
2006-11-19 02:22:03 · update #1
Give it some time. I met my wife on-line. It can work, but you need to treat this like any other relationship. Use the same methods to keep it safe. Be careful of local laws. Talk with a travel agent about getting info on customs and laws. In some places you will have very few rights. Be careful of travel. Make sure you have some measure of control. Things will probably be ok, but be careful anyway. Better safe than sorry. Get to know the local sex laws also. Can you be raped legally? Can you go to jail for doing something considered normal here?
Also, you can always change your mind at the last minute. Personally, I think you should give it more time. But maybe not.
2006-11-19 02:33:16 · answer #1 · answered by Jack 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If this was 5 years ago, I would say maybe. But now of days, NO!! Especially not a distance like that. It might be different if you only lived 2 hours apart, but thats a long ways and an air plane ride at that. If you really really want to meet, wait awhile first. Chat for awhile longer, talk on the phone for a few months. Then next year his time, decide if you still want to meet or not. I think it is still to early and to far to meet a person offline. Sorry.
2006-11-19 01:57:31 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go for it but just be careful. I know Internet love is real from experience. Just get to know each other well before making any hasty decisions. Like someone else said people are sometimes different in person then they are when they are on the computer. A computer is still a place where you can make anything seem real if you want. Good Luck to you both i hope it works for you.
2006-11-19 02:17:45 · answer #3 · answered by happy_cute_mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go visit him, you never know what might happen. Just be aware that some people aren't the same in person as they are on the internet. I wouldn't commit to loving this guy until you're able to be with him in person, physical contact and being around someone can tell you a lot about a person. Just remember to be safe if you do go and visit but also have a good time. Good luck.
2006-11-19 01:54:55 · answer #4 · answered by JC 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You never know what kind of person is on the other line...
Are you that naive to think you could love someone without being in a relationship with them. You are hearing all the things you want to hear... not the things you don't want to hear.
Do you know what could happen to you in a foreign country????. My friend was found shot in the head under a car......Nice person, even spoke the language, on a visit.....
Please reconsider.. I am sure if you got up from the computer and met someone out there where you live, where you can see them, where you get nto know them face to face. You are not being fair to yourself by getting hooked up through the waves and expecting it to be the same as in person...
How do you know, you aren't looking at their freind in the web-cam
or their accomplice????? Helloooooooooooo..
End this now and get a life.....Please.....
2006-11-19 01:57:35 · answer #5 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only crazy thing is going to the Ukraine in Feb BRRRRRRRRR. For safety sake take a traveling companion, if this isn't possible make sure ALL meetings are in very public places.
My daughter fell in love online. Chat rooms progressed to phone calls, then he came here for a visit (we are in AZ, he in NY), next visit became permanent. They will celebrate their 7th anniversary in April.
Good luck, have a safe trip and dress warm!
2006-11-19 01:55:23 · answer #6 · answered by Shalvia 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
no.not really see if you meet someone on line the can tell you what ever they want to!like put a pic of a re all Hatty that's NOT them on their whatever. Or ask their friend to stand by the web cam beaus she is way better looking than her. They could say that they go to collage but they really are in only in high school I mean how would you know???
No don't go and visit him it could be dangerous........once they guy fell in love with me in a chat room then I found out that he was only 13!
keep on chatting with hm and if you really wanna meet him go with some of your friends the first time if everything went fine....
the I might change my answer to ya!
2006-11-19 02:03:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's possible; anything is. People meet online and fall in love all the time.
But you need to prepare yourself for the worst, and be smart about it.
If you go visit him, since you love to travel anyway, treat it like any other Internet first date. Stay (by yourself) in a hotel. Meet him in public places. Plan things for yourself to do thaht are not dependent on him in case he turns out to be a jerk in person, or blows you off, or seems creepy. Take care of both your heart and your physical self, not to mention your purse.
Consider, also, what happens next if it all goes well. Are you going to be able to visit often? Is he going to be able to visit you?
Seems like a lot of work and time invested when you could be looking for love closer to home.
2006-11-19 02:13:03 · answer #8 · answered by Ethel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well same problem as i am suffering from it since 4 to 5 months. and we are living in same country even then we can't meet ....so in my opinion if u think u really love eachother ..and u wanna meet eachother so that's not a big problem for US citizen atleast and secondly if u like travelling u can pay a visit to ukraine and just meet him and spend ur vacation with him .. there is nothing such craziness in it tht's true love and hardly found nowadays. so i am sure dat u will not be regreted and always listen to ur heart not ur mind in such conditions ;) and be +VE take care
2006-11-19 01:58:00 · answer #9 · answered by chickna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like a good situation. A long way to travel for something that is uncertain. As for why you are "testing" him, I'm not sure what to make of that. Why are you playing games and being dishonest and insincere?
You need to step back and take a closer look at both of your intentions.
2006-11-19 01:54:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋