2006-11-19 01:33:53 · 24 answers · asked by ajar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to sit him down and tell him he absolutely must have a plan for his future. Tell him in no uncertain terms that if he doesn't follow thru on his plan you will not support him financially and he will be required to move. Decide for yourself how long you will give him and advise him of the time limit. I would think 3-6 months would be a good time limit. Pick the ending date in advance, advise him of it and stick to it. When the day arrives, whether he is working or not, he moves. If he's agreed to go to school, then he can still work a part time job. If he doesn't, he moves. Either way he sinks or swims on his own two feet. Unless you push him to do better, he'll be a 40 year old couch potato that you are supporting.
2006-11-19 01:38:25 · answer #1 · answered by J Somethingorother 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Upon reaching 18 years of age and after graduating high school, my parents posted a new set of rules on the refrigerator:
1. Rent charges will be 200 dollars per month to be paid in full no later than the last day of each month
2. If rule one is broken one time your personal belongings will be packed for you and placed at the back door.
3. If you're attending college full time and working part time rule one does not apply.
4. Illegal substances are forbidden, and any such substances that are discovered on this property will result in the immediate eviction of the guilty person.
5. You must have permission of both parents if you wish to have a party in this house, or on this property.
6. There will be no negotiation of these rules, either live by them, or leave.
2006-11-19 09:52:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
WWWWOOOOOWWWW!!! sorry, but no way, dont let him drain you this way, you gave birth to him, you raised him, you supported him, you gave him everything you suppose to give as a parent and a human being. He needs to get a job and move on with his life and make one of his own. If he needs to stay while he gets things going is one thing, but to stay and not even get a job or go to school and hang around with friends? no way. Be strong and be a parent now, show him whos the boss and show him the way. Maybe you can get the applications for him, get him started, show him some schools where he can go and study and work at the same time. But most of all dont let him drain you, be strong and hope for the best.
Good luck
2006-11-19 09:52:48 · answer #3 · answered by ♥angltouch♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fret, which is what you're doing now.
With a 25 year old, I don't see much else you can do.
But you mention homework. Are you sure you haven't mistyped 15 as 25?
2006-11-22 19:46:27 · answer #4 · answered by wisdom tooth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not mention if your son has a mental or physical handicap. If he does not then: Change the locks on your doors. Pack up his belongings and put them in storage, not in or around your house, but a storage facility that you can pay for on a month to month basis. I say this as I suggest that you tell your son of 25 years that he will be responsible to pay for his own storage after one month. Tell him you love him and know that he can make a good life for himself since he has had 25 years of life experience to guide him.
2006-11-19 12:20:37 · answer #5 · answered by blockhead 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he is an adult now, he knows whats right and wrong for himself.
and as the others said stop giving him financial support and tell him to start working so he could pay his own fees, tell him that since he's not studying u dont want to waste the money in him so in the end he'll end up failing in all his classes so the money u gave him was for nothing...
at first threaten him and if he doesnt show any sign of improvement then do it cut the money from him!
good luck!!and remind him that it is for his own good..
2006-11-19 09:44:22 · answer #6 · answered by Sus-Girl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
U need to have a talk with him. Let him know that he is 25 years old and needs to be responsible by now. If he is depending on you, you need to let him know that he has so many days until you stop entirely. If he takes it as your just playing cuz he is your son you need to kick him to the curb. If he has friends like you said dont worry he'll have a place to stay his friends will then tell him the same you told him.
2006-11-19 09:40:22 · answer #7 · answered by kaligurl1229 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Have u seen the movie "Waqt". with amitabh and akshay kumar. if not then go and watch this movie first. if u have seen it then , what are u waiting for, be like amitabh. your problem will be solved. i know its not easy, but it will be hard only for few months for u and your family but it will improve years of your son's life. if he is like that then it is your fault that u didn't teach him what u suppose too. so,think about it. and be a strong man for a while. its a time to take some hard decisions. wish u all the best.
2006-11-19 17:19:49 · answer #8 · answered by nick 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your son is well over age as an adult. You need to stop enabling him and let him get on with his own life. You will be doing him a favor. Lay down the law! Don't give him any money, let him make his own.
2006-11-19 09:36:52 · answer #9 · answered by janeinthecity_1999 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
YOU too need to work. As long as your son is getting a free ride . why work?I sugest you make a honey do list of things to do around there . PUT a pad lock on the ice box. LOCK your cabinets up. Dont buy his favorate foods.give him a time frame to get a job or he is OUT. ANd he is to pay rent around there too.
2006-11-19 09:38:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋