Ok, so theres this guy that ive liked for a really long time...a years worth of time! He just doesnt know that I like him. But right now Ive come up with a plan to tell him in two weeks over lunch or an early dinner how I feel. Im really scared that it will come as a super shock to him though because we havent talked in so long, and like I barely see him longer than like...5 minutes! My other problem is that right now Im feeling pressured by my friends to do this but I dont think Im really ready...like he needs to know, I know that but Im SO SCARED! Because I dont want to mess up what we already have as friends. So I guess I have 3 questions. What would you suggest I do for telling him? At like a restarant, a walk what? How do I tell him? fears being rejected and scared? How do I prepare myself for whatever happens? This is crazy! Just any advice on this matter will be taken!! PLEASE HELP!!
2006-11-19 01:31:20 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ALSO: Heres the deal also, I also want him to know that I like him right, but that Im not interested in a relationship with him now because I feel like I know him, but theres still so much I need to know about him and that i'd like him to know about me. So I like him, but Im just interested in getting to know him for now, and THEN a relationship. How do I get in all that I need to tell him without sounding like a mutter mouth?
2006-11-19 01:34:09 · update #1
Well I can tell you really like him by just listening to you babble on about how your suppost to tell him... lol. If I was you I would find an easy way of just letting him know your interested in him. you don't want to come out and say I have had feelings for you for years. That makes him believe you want a relationship and since thats not what your after now. Just try maybe bring up a past relationship of his or yours and when your discussing it and what went wrong in it. (works really good if its his old relationship your talking about) Just kind of casually drop in there "If I was her I wouldn't have done you that way" or something like " I know how great of a guy you are and I would have felt blessed to have you" things like that let him know that you see him for something more than a friend. if our talking about your old relationships then something like "I wish he would have been more like you" or something. you get the idea. little hints to let him know you could like him as more. and if the conversation doesn't get to ackward then try saying I wish we could get to know each other better we might find we could be more than what we are. and then go on about your visit and let in sink in his brain. Sometimes with guys just a suttle hint is like a bomb. just be cool relax and enjoy your time with him. and by the way I like the idea of a walk when your talking about it, gives your privacy and relaxes you both. Good Luck
2006-11-19 01:42:46 · answer #1 · answered by crazy b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take a deep breath, then tell him that you are interested in getting to know him better. He will then let you know if he is interested or not. The location doesn't matter; you can have a meal together, or whatever makes you feel more comfortable. There is always a chance of being rejected; that's just the way it is. Tell your friends to leave you alone on this matter; it's really none of their business.
2006-11-19 01:49:07 · answer #2 · answered by candace b 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok , first , separate your situation and your friends.
Just be supportive of her and then she can be supportive of you, whatever happens for each of you.
Don't feel any pressure, do what you want to and what makes sense to you, in your own time. Tell him what you are thinking and feeling maybe. We have to risk rejection sometimes, scary but its boring if we already know ahead of time what will happen. No risk, no excitement I think. Use words. Be strong. If there is love both ways. Not much to lose, either way, its bound to make both people stronger.
2006-11-19 07:59:27 · answer #3 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to be in a relationship just because you want him to know that you are interested in him. Its been a year what are you waiting on? You can get his number and start talking to him over the phone so you can get to know him. He might be interested in someone else you want know until you ask.
2006-11-19 01:38:21 · answer #4 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not go for a snack somewhere and just talk --- he will pick up very quick that you like him and you will know if he likes you --- dont stress and you dont really need to tell him how you feel --- let it develop
2006-11-19 01:35:57 · answer #5 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋