He wants to get back together but just dosent see what the problem is? How can I explain it to him and make him understand. (I dont want him back, but want to stay friends)
2006-11-19 01:05:41 · 18 answers · asked by IwishicoulddeleteYahooAnswers 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He doesn't understand it, because you apparently allowed it to develop that way. It is up to you to set the boundaries and to say NO when he tries to cross them. If he still tries to con you, then he clearly is not capable of a true friendship. Sometimes you just have to cut your losses.
I made the same mistake for way too many years, and realize that I only have myself to blame - I complained and complained, but never said NO.
2006-11-19 01:07:24 · answer #1 · answered by HearKat 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Its hard for some people to see how others feel. Especially when all they think of is their self. A lot of times they don't realize their hurting you at all even though it may be clear to everyone else around you. For some reason their just blinded by their own needs and wants. There is no real way to show them and make them see that's something they have to work on their self. If I was you I would just try your best to make it clear to him and if he doesn't understand then try to put even the friendship on hold for a little while. Maybe then he will see that your serious about how you feel.
2006-11-19 09:14:42 · answer #2 · answered by crazy b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first mistake is trying to be friends. You give him a feeling that you still want him close and have feelings for him. You are sending the wrong message to him.
You need to keep your distance from him and don't accept calls , text, e-mail whatever.. Do not put yourself in a situation alone with him.. he thinks you still care....
You have nothing to explain to him if you stay away from him, he will get the message... After a relationship break-up there is too much baggage and you can't possibly keep up a friendly banter... There is hurt and emotions and feelings to deal with. He is not a friend, he is a ex bf ......Your girls are your friends... Guys do not think like girls... you are leading him on without realizing it... cut all ties.....
2006-11-19 09:12:44 · answer #3 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men dont understand why relationships break up most of the time. We as women have our eyes open at all time in relationships. My advice to you is to sit down and talk to him. Not only do you not need him to take you for granted as a girlfriend, but as a friend too! You need to sit him down and explain why it didnt work out.. and tell him that your friendship wont work out either if he doesnt change. Instead of doing all of the nice things that you do for him- which he takes for granted.... try letting him do it himself. He will get the picture. You dont know what you've got till its gone... show him! Good Luck!
2006-11-19 09:11:07 · answer #4 · answered by WestWife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't understand that you don't want him back...then you can't be friends....he'll b wasting to much of his time being "friends" with you,to try to get you back,it'll hurt to just leave him flat and not talk to him anymore but c'mon,if he's no good of a boyfriend and treating you right....think about what kind of friend he might be
2006-11-19 09:09:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Taking people for granted is something ppl do when they think they'll never lose a person no matter what they do. This usually happens with families...marriages, brothers sisters, moms dads.
Anyway, you need to manifest in his mind that he stands a chance of losing ur friendship entirely.
2006-11-19 09:08:54 · answer #6 · answered by Cameron L 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because in his mind, he's doing everything for you. Why even bother explaining it to him? Obviously he hasn't caught the net by now (breaking up is usually the first clue there's issues) so he's not likely too.
2006-11-19 09:10:15 · answer #7 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to mean what u say if he cant accept it then move on there will be plenty of other friends you will meet in a life time
2006-11-19 09:10:51 · answer #8 · answered by funnecee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop all communication with him, he wants to be more than friends and as you can see, nothing but problems are developing from this.
2006-11-19 09:10:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take him back. Don't bother explaining it to him either. It'll be like talking to a brick wall. Just move on and be pleasant when you see him.
2006-11-19 09:08:06 · answer #10 · answered by Jer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋