What causes the maternal instinct in some woman but not in others when they have a children. What makes the love of a mother so pure and unselfish towards her children? My questions comes from teh way jsut looking at my children makes me feel. I cannot understand how someone could ever hurt a child esp their own. Any oppions welcome, well not rude comments.
2006-11-19 00:44:58 · 5 answers · asked by mommyblues78 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I feel the same way you do about my own son. He's my world and my job as his mother is to protect him and I do my best. I don't know why some women don't get that maternal instinct, I know of a few myself that should have never reproduced, I just tell myself that they were wired wrong and move on with life. It does break my heart to hear that someone has put there child in a dangerous position or when someone even kills there own child. It hurts me deeply, and I look at my own son and think "if anyone ever hurts him, I'd have to hurt them back!" that is maternal instinct and I thank god everyday that I'm not one of those mothers that were wired wrong.
2006-11-19 01:27:58 · answer #1 · answered by tricksy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when they bite your nipple....
However I don't really know. I have been struggling with the fact that a certain segment of the population seems to think that leaving your baby in a crib, car seat, bouncy chair, swing ALL DAY is the right thing to do.
I have a "friend"(we walk our dogs at the same park at the same time every day and got pregnant at almost the same time) and her baby has a horrible flat spot and was developmentally delayed because she never picked it up. She bottle feeds breastmilk so he isn't even held then. A public health nurse put the fear of god in them so now she gives the baby 15 min of tummy time everyday (sigh) but it really woke the dad up. He carries, plays with and encourages his son to do things like hold his head up, sit up, roll over. You could always tell he thought hi wife was a little weird for not picking up the baby, but now he stands up to her.
How can a woman not want to hold them? And not have the instinct to pick them up when they cry? Is it too much "you'll spoil the baby" brainwashing?
Not much help, but I just wanted to say I share your confusion.
2006-11-19 08:54:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i love my son and before i got pregnant i never wanted kids. great to look at but not my thing.
then i got pregnant and had a c section and i seen his little face and fell in love. not in a sick way. just complete in aw at suck a sight. now i have to pull out the pictures to remind myself because some days i think he hates me my boyfriend say no he only 9 months got 18 years yet to hate me .
but i would say its knowing that i made my son and he grow inside me and even though i have done bad things in life.and made bad choices too. my son proves that good still happens and nothing is better then new life
2006-11-19 11:19:04 · answer #3 · answered by ~*big mama *~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it all comes from how we are raised.Both my parents came from large strict (but very loving families)I was raised the same way,and I was hard on my kids,but now they are grown,good,decent,hardworking young adults,and they know I would sacrifice all for them.
2006-11-19 08:55:13 · answer #4 · answered by rdaltonsr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Upbringing. The way your parents treated you has a direct influence on how you will treat your children.
2006-11-19 08:48:53 · answer #5 · answered by liberty11235 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋