I sent my girl a msg yesterday and in it i made a joke.......she took what i said seriously and was pissed at me. I called her up and told her what i said was meant as a joke(in the msg i told her she had a high opinion of her self coz she thought i was disappointed she couldnt go out with me that nite) but she was really short with me on the phone and basically hung up on me. I thought this was kinda rude of her but later i called her and i apologised for saying what i said in the msg. Should i have done this or is she the one who owes me an apology for being short with me on the phone? Is she being hyper sensitive?
2006-11-19 00:43:30 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What you messaged was very hurtful (there is an old saying about many a truth being spoken in jest). However, you have explained and profusely apologized. If she will not accept your apology, move on with your life. If she is the kind of person who will not accept a sincere apology without making you grovel, then your entire relationship with her will be stressful. I hope you will not continue to beat yourself up over this!
2006-11-19 00:54:51 · answer #1 · answered by Ms. G. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Msgs can be read in a different tone..If your gonna send that also include at the end you are just kidding and that its not a big deal..You should appologize but so should she for not having a sense of humor..she should know you meant nothing by it.
Good luck
2006-11-19 08:53:12 · answer #2 · answered by Amy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys ( and I mean you) do not give enough time for girls to cool off from a hissy fit. So she got annoyed with your message and huffed and puffed. That was normal. Apologize and all that , but dont expect her to forgive you right away. What you said probably hit the spot so she needs time to digest what you said.
Words are like swords and can be hurtful.
Give her time.
2006-11-19 08:50:29 · answer #3 · answered by QuiteNewHere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You got to understand that woman take most things pretty seriously. Now I am not a typical woman, and I don't take things seriously cuz I know that men sometimes put their foot in their mouth. But you have got to assume that everyone woman IS a typical woman and that may have hurt her feelings.
Now, as far as the who should apologize things go - you should. I know and you know that you were just kidding but that doesnt make her any less angry now does it? If I accidently run over your foot with my car, and I then said "I didnt mean it", wouldnt your foot still hurt ??? Of course.
So just suck it up and apologize. Just make sure she knows you're apologizing b/c you were kidding and not apologizing cuz you mean it.
2006-11-19 08:53:36 · answer #4 · answered by DinaJ 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Over the years I have learned that in a relationship it is the man's responsibility to apologize, even for things that they did not mean to do and/or things that they did not do.
However, that excluded, I say that this disagreement between you and your current girlfriend is the result of your actions. Not hers. As you have learned not everything that is meant as s joke is not taken as a joke. You should apologize for what you said.
2006-11-19 08:51:01 · answer #5 · answered by moonguardianluna 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Obviously she's hyper sensitive. So you be careful throwing jokes at her.
It may be your fault because you started it but she can't blame your sense of humor.
You can;t blame her either. You perfectly understand the kind of person she is so, extend your understanding and have patience. She will bounce back, give her time.
Once, is not necessarily final.
Just be open arms for her all the time. You will be amazed of the rewards,
2006-11-19 08:48:55 · answer #6 · answered by Dave S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well bro personally i think your gf a bit sensitive, well they are girls afterall. My gf also the same. Sometimes being THE man we got to giving in to them. Love is all about give and take. Just give her time to cool down. Its really great what you have done. I think you did the right thing. Its just a small understanding.
2006-11-19 08:52:07 · answer #7 · answered by pari_lima 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It was fine that you apologized because of the misunderstanding. If she doesn't accept your apology (assuming it was sincere), then leave it at that and move on. People who aren't open to forgiving aren't worth your time.
2006-11-19 08:48:01 · answer #8 · answered by angel444 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no she's not being hypersensitive. when you write a letter or e-mail the person on the other end doesn't know how to take it. They can't see your face or hear your tone. You apologized and she should get over it.
2006-11-19 08:46:18 · answer #9 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me that you made a real error in judgement and now want her to be sorry for your mistake. I don't blame her for being upset. Even if you wanted it to be a joke, it still upset her and you should give her time to get over it. It is not her fault that you did something dumb and HURT HER FEELINGS! Give her time and make it up to her. That is my opinion, plus don't dwell on this one incident. If you keep bringing it up, it will put a strain on your relationship.
2006-11-19 08:47:56 · answer #10 · answered by Kristy 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋