I hate my nosey neighbor, she is very mean and vindictive?

Question

I have been living at this modest apartment complex in the suburbs of Baltimore for two years. I really like it there because of the close proximity to my office by car and walking distance and the price is right. Shopping is very very close by. Anyway, two weeks ago, my neighbor started to use the F bomb to me when I came home from working a poll and picked up my mailbox at the mailbox. All I said to her was Good evening how are you. Then she said you better leave me the F alone, I am not talking to you every again. I said what did I do? You are always making noise at your apartment. I am so tired of people here. I said to her I have always been nice to you since I moved here. I took to the store(she doesn't drive at) I always speak to you. She then shruged when I told her that. She said the noise to coming from your side of the apartment. I told her, I am the only living by myself. I hardly make any noise. I hardly play my stereo because she is overly senstitive.

She alway is known to get into peoples business in my building. Many neighbors have complained about her. One of my neighbors moved away because of her. My neighbor always knocks on the wall and or ceiling to get my attention. It drives me nuts. She doesn't like when I have to wake up in the morning to get to work or when I vaccum or clean my home. She even counts how many times, I flush my toliet when I need to go the bathroom in the middle of the night. That is not normal. She is dirty horder. I saw the inside of her home it is a sight to see to say the least. Sometimes her apartment smells. The landlord last year had to investigate her home for the smell and she hadn't taken her trash out. She told me she cooked Ramen noodles which stunk the whole building. She has files flying around. She has her patio balcony full with junk. If I had junk filled on my balcony, my landloard will fine me. What should I do with that witch?

Matter of fact, she has a social worker who checks up on her from my understanding. I believe she gets government assistance because she doesn't work. I think she gets a voucher for her rent. I don't have a section 8 voucher.

Answer 1

Yes

Answer 2

Have you ever seen that movie with Jack Nicholson and Helen Hunt? He plays this really mean and vindictive neighbor who harasses and insults everyone for no reason.
He turned out to be hiding a serious mental condition, OCD, or obsessive compulsive disorder which I think your neighbor might suffer from given that she hoards things.
She also sounds like she could be psychotic and in need of risperdal or something of that nature. Some symptoms of this is paranoia and sensitivity to sounds, perhaps even hallucinations.
I had a neighor who was the same way. She used to pound on her floor - my ceiling, to scare my kids into submission whenever they made any noise. She was just impossible, we ended up moving because we were always on edge.
I know exactly how you feel and I think you should speak with the other tenants, see what their opinions are, then speak with the landlord.
No wonder she can't work, she can't get along with anyone and she sounds miserable. However, she certainly doesn't have to spread her misery to her neighbors.
You deserve better, and I think you should take some action against her behaviour, if only to protect yourself.

Answer 3

I feel this lady is not going to move in a hurry..
If she is getting help from other government departments.
You might find there is a mental health problem.

If you can speak to the landlord, tell him / her that you dont feel comfortable where your unit /appartment is.
Say you are still very happy with the complex just you need to look at getting a new neighbour..
This might help only moving to a new section.
At least she wont count your loo flushing..
That is very over the top.
I have lived in complexs before and thats just out of the ordinary.. Moving to a appartment away from her might also get her on the attack.. but also she might calm down .
Depending on how far away you get from her.

I can only see this getting worse.
Stay polite dont upset her .. this might at least stop her using other situations to pick on you .
I wish you the best.

Answer 4

She sounds like she may be mentally ill. I once had a neighbor who was like that, although not as bad as yours. Chances are, if she's receiving public assistance, she may not be evictable under most circumstances. But I would definitely keep a written log, and encourage your other neighbors to do the same. That way, you'll all have ammunition you can use should legal action be taken at any time. Don't be surprised if you have to move, especially if she threatens you or other tenants.

Answer 5

She's obviously got problems if she has a social worker involved. Is she elderly? Classic Alzheimer's symptoms. I would talk to the super as well as the social worker. You have the right to live your life without worrying about her counting your toilet flushes per night. Your story could be my gramma's old neighbor right down to the hoarding & complaining about toilets flushing.

Answer 6

She sounds like she has mental illness. Be that as it may, she has absolutely no right to be aggressive with the other tenants. Show the landlord your writings on this posting and let him or her know that this woman is making it intolerable for you to live there. It is best to distance yourself from her. Should she bring up and complaints that are unreasonable just tell her you do not have to apologize to her for your everyday living activities and that you will not allow her to make your life miserable. Tell her directly to leave you alone.

Answer 7

OH the joys of a miserable neighbor. I lived next to this awful awful cranky woman. She would put out dixie cups of antifreeze to try to kill my cat. She would dig cat droppings out of her garden and throw them on my sidewallk (I had 1 cat that spent most of his time indoors the other neighbors had 4 wild ones) If the kids played ball in the back yard and it went over the fence she would keep it and threaten to call the cops. She poured some chemical over the fence and killed all of my plants and shrubs. I could go on and on. I used to go round and round with her. Finally one day I turned the other cheek and was as sweet as pie. She came over to complain about how I parked my car in the street. I sat quietly and smiled while she ranted and raved. When she was done I said "thanks for stopping by, have a lovely evening" Well she then spouted off some profanity but never did come back over to complain to me. She is probably miserable, lonely and perhaps has dementia. I would inform your building super just so you have a step up in the event she continues this bizzare behavior.
I see you added additional details now. I would rally with the other tenants. The landlord would probably rather have X number of good tenants vs one terrible one. They have had problems with her previously tell the landlord her or us. I suspect he would like to be rid of her as well. Keep a log of trouble you have with her so you can show him. Keep complaining, if you keep track of all of this it may help him evict her.

Answer 8

If you have not antagonized her in any way,as you say you have not,this woman has a problem.Speak to other neighbors to strengthen your case against her,if they are of the same opinion as you,it should not be hard.If everyone is willing to do it,demand a meeting with her,and get your land lord to attend.Then tell of the woman's unacceptable behavior.He will then see how many unhappy tenants he has,and how she is infringing on yours and your other neighbors privacy.What ever you do,do not stoop to her level of weird behavior.

Answer 9

Just keep on being nice to her,your nice-ness will burn her up on the inside! So much that she'll change and start being nice! Try not to let her mean attitude affect your life! Another good alternative is to completely ignore her! People, especially mean people, hate to be ignored! Don't keep fighting back, because it'll make things worse! When she comes by, ignore her flat-out!

Yes, the best and most effective solution is to ignore her! When she says stuff to you, she'll expect you to fight back, not ignore her!

Answer 10

Sounds like she needs help, or you need to find somewhere else to live. Have you spoken to the other neighbours about the problem, so that you can bring it to the attention of the apartment management or local authorities. Such behaviour is not acceptable, and you should not have to put up with it.