im feeling a bit depressed.. i dont know what to do.I m a single 22 year old girl. Im okay looking,People say im pretty.My body is slim to average and im quite smart since im a dean list student..yet I can t seem to find a guy that will like me too..It s always like the guy i like dont like me and the guy i dont like likes me. My 4 bestfriends all have found their perfect mates and even thinking about marriage.Im so happy for them but at the same time i feel like there is an emptiness in my life.I joined internet personals but nothing came out of that.
Is there anyone out there who has had a situation like mine yet found love?
Should I just give up and just pretend to be interested in the next guy who comes along and hope and pray that love will grow?
Does anyone know of a prayer that is guaranteed to work for situations like this?Im a Catholic so Catholic or Christian prayers to Jesus and God is appreciated/
Thank you so much for your help.I hope you all can advice me,
2006-11-19 00:05:09 · 17 answers · asked by GIna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I really appreciated all your comments and they truly have made me feel better. It s clear to me that i think the best thing is for me to wait and not be too in a rush. I guess I should just continue waiting and pray to God and Jesus and it will come naturally.I was inspired by quite a few of you who took time to share their experience with me. I loved the answers from Glo, old softee 2001,luncheon Box, jake S. and Punkin. I wish i could pick all of you as the Best answer but I could just pick one.Id just like you to know how much i appreciate your advice and how much it helped me.Thank you again and may God bless you all.
2006-11-21 01:21:34 · update #1
Stop it! You are 22 and on the Deans list. You are in college and trying to get an education, you are young. You need to concentrate on this education first. A boyfriend would take time away from studies. The emotional involvement will be a hindrance to your education. Calm down. God will send you someone when you are ready! Take time to get your life together as far as your education this is what is important at the moment, and when you get done and are ready to be employed then will be a good time to begin looking and seeking the relationship. They are a great deal of work! I wish you the best. Everything that looks good is not always good for you! And of course you should not just take the next man that walks along, being alone is should not be lonely! Once must learn to love ones own company before you can expect someone else to enjoy it. Upon graduation you are going to be a very hot prospect! As far as a prayer, nothing special. You just pray with your words, speak to God as if you were speaking to your best friend, he already knows the desires of your heart. Do you know what he expects of you is the important question. This must all be in line. He listens to your heart. Good luck and God bless you!****
Exodus 20:1~17
2006-11-19 00:14:48 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Drawing the line on how good of a match someone has to be is hard, and it seems like that is your biggest problem. You feel that the guys that go for you are not good enough for some reason, and you are attracted to guys who don't view you as good enough. I've been there (opposite though, since I'm a guy, I was dealing with girls). Here are my thoughts:
-You can't do anything about guys that don't like you. You can't "force" someone to like/love you; so the best thing you can do about the guys that you like that don't like you is to forget about them.
-As far as the guys that like you that you don't like, make sure you are giving them a fair shot. If the basics match, then they deserve a chance to woo you. There are 5 basic things to look for in a partner:
-Physical Attraction (hate to sound shallow but without this, any relationship is pretty much doomed)
-Intelligence (is the guy smart)
-Fun (do you have a good time with the person)
-Kind (are they a nice and good person; do they have a good heart)
-They are all about you (the person you are with needs to like you A LOT)
If these 5 things are a go and you are still totally rejecting the guy, then you may need to re-evaluate your standards. If you are just not meeting anyone who meets the bar, then patience is your best friend. You're only 22. Wait 10 years before you start worrying about being alone forever, and even then it's not too late. You have PLENTY of time to meet the perfect dude for you. Putting a religion in the mix (I know how you feel, I"m Catholic too) certainly limits who you can meet. I'd suggest being open to meeting/dating guys outside the faith. It stinks, I know, but it's just too hard to meet somebody that fits all the criteria AND is Catholic.
Either way, good luck and don't lose hope, hang in there. You'll be in my prayers.
2006-11-19 00:20:12 · answer #2 · answered by Jake S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but im 44 and single and im happy enough. Id rather be single and unhappy at times than be in a unhappy marrige.. There will always be people who will stay single, its not the end of the world. Your only 22 girl , your just a baby to me. Dont be fretting at your age. Its not easy to find the right partner I should know. Just dont marry anyone just because your afraid of being left on the shelf..Big mistake and many have made that mistake...As you get a bit older you will get more strong and more secure and im sure more beautiful. You have nothing to fear believe me im speaking from experience..
2006-11-19 00:20:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. you are trying too hard.
2. you are too hung up on how the guy looks.
to move on and possibly get lucky do the following.
1. stop trying, seems as if as son as we stop looking a guy or three will show up.
2. start looking for a nice guy who is sort of good looking (tollerable). A nice guy will take care of you when the good looking guy would walk.
3. put a photo on your 360 page and make it viewable by all. You might find a friend here.
I was like you when I was younger and married the first girl who seemed interested. We weren't right for each other at all. So when you find a guy, take the time to get to know him before rushing into marrage or having kids.
email me if you ever want to talk. mention answers in the subject line so I don't accidently delete it as spam.
2006-11-19 00:15:34 · answer #4 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
your friends appear to have the perfect mates.what you have are goals and an education that will always be with you and always benefit you .your life and who you are becoming should not be defined by whether you have a mate or not.probably by the time you do hook up with some one your friends "perfect" relationships will be over.there are no perfect relationships,they are all steps we take to learn who we are and what we want.each relationship that ends is a new beginning and a chance to see yourself more clearly.You have the time to explore and mingle and find out just what you'll accept in love and what you will not.Be happy that you aren't taking any old man that comes along for the sake of being with a man.You'll find some one,but if you don't.it should be ok because who wants to settle for some one other than their true love?Being alone is not being lonely,being in a bad relationship is like being in hell.
2006-11-19 01:08:45 · answer #5 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do now is find satisfaction with your single status. Instead of feeling like you're missing something in your life, you should feel like you just want to ADD something. Focus more on school (which seems to be working out for you), your hobbies, and your friends. Millions of people are leading happy, fulfilled lives without mates, and you can, too.
2006-11-19 01:36:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I was on the deans list and all that too. I found love and an awesome job after college then the girl changed and became very materialistic. She wanted expensive purses, then jewelry from Tiffany's and then we got her the Mercedes. I think I got off the subject. You'll find someone and it wont be everything you hoped it would be but don't give up, that's just life.
2006-11-19 00:09:10 · answer #7 · answered by Abu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm in the same situation. if i were you i'd just stop thinking about it, because it's just life. it's like how some people are born in poverty, it's just their fate. sure you can go out and meet 10,000 guys, but maybe none of them will be the right guy. i think it's just fate. some people meet that special person even early in life and some people like me are doomed! and there are single old people too, so there's no guarantee. just forget about it and live your life.
also keep in mind, most people in relationships and marriages are with the wrong person, and they'll have to go through being unfulfilled and breaking up.
2006-11-19 00:08:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In life, there are always choices. You can choose to have a boyfriend who you don't really love just because most of your friends are having one. You may also choose to wait for the guy where both of you are in love. As for me, I choose to wait. I am 35 years old, and I just found my love last year. You are only 22, so the choices is your.
2006-11-19 18:25:51 · answer #9 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start going out more often give yourself a chance to meet different people, in time you will find the right man for you don't get depressed because it hasn't happened yet. Don't give up and don't settle for someone you really don't want just because you don't want to me lonely.
2006-11-19 00:11:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋