Why would a man call up a woman and tell her he's "hungry" for her and he has been thinking about her for days, the look of her face, just being with her? Is he only trying to get some, or is he really going nuts without her around? He also says things to her like he wants a future, and when he finds out certain things that certain people have done to her, he wants to "defend" her. Guys, what is up with you? Especially the foreign ones. WHy don't you just come out with it already and say your feelings in words instead of these complex little coined phrases?
2006-11-18 23:55:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I'm getting out of an abusive relationship where I had bones literally broken intentionally and had one of the children (out of two) used as a human sheild by the coward. The person in question loves my children and I've also known him for years. A decade, actually. I'm not so surprised by the sex answers, but this isn't the type of person the one in question usually is.
2006-11-19 00:04:18 · update #1
Yes
2006-11-20 13:20:22 · answer #1 · answered by ZenPenguin 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If its an american guy this is a good sign.... they are not really taught how to communicate with a woman and in attempting to speak this way means he's trying. Foreign guys are a bit more slick though and know better how to say these things to woo a woman into bed. But to be fair it depends on what the culture he is from is....... middle eastern or Indian probably just getting you there and will treat you badly once you are hooked. Hispanic.... better and sounds good as it is more of a romantic culture. European and he says these things it usually means he's serious. Now this is all a generalization. Bottom line is that only you can know. Men all over the world are taught different things. But the common thing is to "defend" and protect your family and thats how a mans view works. It means more to a man than a woman can usually interpret. It means I will be there for you.
2006-11-19 04:19:29 · answer #2 · answered by jackson 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not so sure you are relating to a phrase or just an overview of why men cannot come out of their shells ?
most women in the past preferred to 'tease ' a man who indeed expressed those comments you relate to in your first paragraph ; which was , i guess for the most part , courting , as an oldie would relate to !
i suppose i should i ask --- what's your preference ? --- come out with a statement --- or better to be wooed and then loved !!!
I've only just saw your addition , and that indeed throws a whole new light on the situation .
no one deserves to be abused -- regardless --- and this bloke is indeed a coward and a no hoper --- but not everyone is tarred with the same brush --- and you need to focus on a new life with an open ( albeit somewhat shattered image of men and their worth )
mind .
easy to be critical now --- but weigh it up in time --- you may be quietly surprised whats out there .
the very very best of luck and good fortune --- lord knows you deserve it . i wish you well in the face of adversity .
2006-11-19 00:09:17 · answer #3 · answered by bill g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's definitely in love. Would you marry someone that tells you that he's marrying you only because you have a big a**? Or I don't love you yet or find you special in anyway I just want to have kids before I die? Don't ask for things that you can't handle. Women forced us to play games with them because if we say the truth we won't get any would we? Anyway it sounds that this guy really loves you but to test him don't sleep with him and see what will happen. It's very simple.
2006-11-19 00:05:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, (most) men are less able to talk about their feelings than (most) women. I just read an article about it (sorry, it's in Dutch): it has to do with the "commissura anterior": a "bridge" in the front of the brain that helps communication between the two hemispheres. One hemisphere is good in rational thinking and language, the other in emotions and fantasy. In women and homosexual men this "bridge" is bigger and functioning better than in heterosexual men. So that's why most men find it hard to talk about their emotions in a staightforward way: their rational /talking hemisphere has more trouble to connect with their emotional one than the female brain.
Now back to your question...
You already know him for years, you say. He obviously wants something from you, and to me it sounds like he is in love... big time. Could it be that he just has "rescuing tendencies"? The need to protect the vulnerable (you)? To me it sounds like he knows in what kind of terrible relationship you were in before, and now wants to be the complete and utter opposite of your ex.
So.. probably he he just being honest and kind.. in his male way.
He might even be underestimating your strength and power.. good for you and a high five for finding the courage to leave your ex!
I wish you a good and happy future!
Love from Holland!
2006-11-19 04:09:20 · answer #5 · answered by icqanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are from Mars, women are from venus.
Buy that book and read it, you can find the answers there.
Didn't see the additional information.... dificult to see the futer is my young padawan. It is up to you, you are supposed to know him since 10 years is a long time. No one better than you to make the choice, I am afraid no advise would be good, couse things can go perfect or things can not. No body knows.
Either way, read the book it is interesting trust me.
2006-11-18 23:58:56 · answer #6 · answered by sable_laser 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well when a mans in love, he would kiss the ground she walks on just to have her around him.
When a man is in lust he will say anything to get some.
Believe me there is a difference, being in love is crazy, good bad, evil, hurtfully, beautiful, amassing and yes you don't want anything bad to happen to her, especially if she feel the same way about you, because she is just as crazy, because it's not about sex, it's about finding a person that is that crazy about you and you that crazy about them, I loved that way before it was GREAT
Being in lust is just having sex, no big deal
2006-11-19 00:05:57 · answer #7 · answered by man of ape 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
he could rely like her or he might just want some I'd say go out with him for about a week and see how He acts if he is always on about s.e.x then leave him but if he just trys to get to know you and don't rely talk about s.e.x then he rely likes you
2006-11-19 00:04:03 · answer #8 · answered by tom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We think its romantic. Kinda goofy, hey? So why do you tell us what has been done to you if you don't want defense?
2006-11-18 23:59:51 · answer #9 · answered by Marcus R. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds creepy to me
2006-11-19 01:16:42 · answer #10 · answered by Keepingmycool 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋