Why did I have to get HPV? I can count on one hand the people ive been with? It is soo unfair. Im so Angry.?

Question

Im so angry about this whole thing. I have tiny red bumps on the base of my penis, I havent been to a clinic yet, but I believe it is genital warts from HPV. Im so damn tired of having bad luck, I never hurt anybody and this is what I get in return? Im a man and they say in men its not a threat, but just the idea that ill have this the rest of my life and that I cant be spontaneous about sex like so many other people who dont have hpv, really breaks my heart. Ive been crying all day I heard that your body will eventually nuetralize the virus, but is this true?? I cant sleep cant eat, and im afraid to get close to anybody and afriad of what people will think. and dont tell me to just be with somebody else that has HPV because it shouldnt have to be that way in the first place. Im just so angry, hurt, and depressed. My life is over. If your a Dr. PLEASE help educate me. I dont have health insurance to keep goin every year to get medicated and tested periodically, it shouldnt be that way.

thank you soo much for that last answer. so this doesnt make me inferior to anybody and shouldnt change the way ive been living my life? and i mean HPV the genital warts giving virus. and I HATE that word "virus" it makes me feel like im a patient that should spend the rest of their life in solitude.

Answer 1

Actually, the only reason you cannot get rid of hpv is because its a virus. Just like chicken pox or any other virus it has to run its course. It is very common and most people do not have symtoms, so they do not know they have the virus, usually if they don't have visable warts, which is the low-risk virus. They have the high risk virus that causes cervical cancer, penile cancer, and anal cancer. Its not as bad as you might think. It is good that you noticed it because most people don't and they leave it untreated. To tell you the truth almost anyone who has ever had a wart anywhere on the body has been in contact with the virsus. True they are unsightly, but usually after the 1st outbreak you won't have another in years or maybe never. The only thing that triggers another outbreak is to sleep with someone with a different strain of the virus, so remember just cause you don't see a wart doesn't mean they're not a carrier. You warts can be treated multiple ways so if one way doesn't work another will. You don't have to be with someone who has hpv, you should be with someone who loves you unconditonally despite your health whether you have cancer, are in acoma, or on your deathbed, real true love isn't affected by such things. You should not be sad at all cause most of the population has it and if someone chooses to judge you they can say what they like cause they most likely have it themselves. Just keep it real and if people don't choose to keep it real with you then you don't need them in your life.

Answer 2

Start at the beginning.

Being diagnosed with HPV is not the end of the world although it might feel that way at the beginning. First things first though. Are you talking about HPV or genital herpes? There is a difference.

HPV is more serious in women. It can lead to an array of ailments including cervical cancer.

Truth be told, the incidence of HPV in people is high. Some studies conclude that 75% of adult women have HPV. That's not because they are "sleazy" or anything. Often, people do not realize that they are infected as they have no symptoms.

The best thing to do is to talk with your doctor and perhaps a sexual therapist. No, you arent a basket case or anything. It is traumatic to know that you have this ailment. No one would dispute that. Still, this is definitely not the end of your sex life (spontaneous or scheduled)! There are many things you can do to help yourself and to protect your partners. It is absolutely not the end of your sex life.

Schedule a visit with your doctor. Get the definitive diagnosis. Then you can deal with it accordingly. It is not the end of the world. It is something you have to deal with but you will be fine so long as you take the necessary steps.

**Add'l**

You still need to visit your doctor. I didnt say there was nothing for you to do. If you are without health insurance then go to a free clini in your town. You can get a diagnosis there, ask questions, and get some anti-viral medications if necessary.

Answer 3

Hon please dont get too upset about this. Do you know common HPV is its like 1 out 3 people have it and dont even know they have it. Its not the end of the world. Go to your doctor get it cleared up. As long as you take good care of yourself you may never have a out break again. And sorry to say but condoms dont necessarily protect against HPV if a man has warts on his balls as soon as his balls touch a part of the women she can get it so you need to be careful. As far as relationships go in the future, when your ready to be sexual active again with someone, be open and honest with that person they deserve to know, go to your sexual health clinic and learn how to be intimate with being safe at the same time.

Answer 4

Awe i'm so sorry i'm sure you will be okay keep your head up