Its a rarity for me but i am angry to the point of tears...i dont want any suggestive comments.any sarcasm or any piss taking...anyone that knows me knows that i am a strong alpha female and if i say im upset im really upset..im really cross...and i have extreme energy whatever the situation...;0(
2006-11-18 10:05:01 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i rarely open myself up on here so give me a break...
2006-11-18 10:05:47 · update #1
wonkeytoe...as much as i want one i cant...;0)
2006-11-18 10:14:14 · update #2
ok guys...i give...i am about as easygoing and balanced as it gets...i have an ex husband who loathed me when we were married and loathes me even more since he walked out on me over 2 years ago...i have 2 ex husbands...married young,lol...and im famous for my open house hospitality with my exes...
he already upset my daughter today and he took her vout this afternoon into the city and told me he would be back with her no later than 9pm...11pm came before he knocked my door...i was frantic...he had been incontactible by phone and his brothers number didnt answer and i had no idea where they were...my daughter is 9 years old...i was understandably pissed off when he tapped the door at 11pm and his response was...so what i am here now...i'll be staying here tomorrow so we'll talk then...i told him he couldnt stay here tomorrow as he couldn't ride me slipshod anymore...now i am the baddie...but i will still stick to my guns...he'll do it once and NEVER again where my kids are concerned
2006-11-18 10:25:44 · update #3
kiku...you dont know me and have absolutely no idea what you are talking about...you assume far too much and are far too judgemental along with your presumptions...take a step back and breathe in...
2006-11-19 08:30:43 · update #4
How is your daughter? Is she OK? Today is another day, hopefully you can both put last night behind you.
2006-11-18 22:02:07 · answer #1 · answered by Warlock Fiend 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a really close friend that you can fully confide in then go see that person and let everything out to them. They must be a good listener. It is not important what they say, the fact that you are talking about what is upsetting you will not change what has happened. But it will help you give yourself answers as to what to do next.
If there is no-one that close, then go out. Meet some friends. Friends who you can laugh with. Talk about anything except what is upsetting you. Have a few drinks. If necessary, have a little too much such that you can fall asleep without your anger breaking into your thoughts.
Whatever it is will still be there in the morning, but you will then be able to deal with your own feelings just a little easier.
Sorry, just read your added details. I had wrongly guessed it was a man problem of a different type. Having an open house attitude to your ex’s may sound like a great way to live, but they must return the compliment in their actions. If not, the door must be shut to them.
He is the father, so he should not be stopped from seeing her and taking her out. If he cannot act responsibly and understand your fears, then you will have to take some action that will minimize his irresponsibility. I suggest the easiest way is to get a mobile phone for your daughter and ensure she has it whenever he takes her out again. Ensure that she knows the home time and how much you worry when she doesn’t come back on time. Put it the right way and she will help force him to watch the clock.
You look after your daughter, not him. He just has the pleasure of playing Daddy and feeling good about it.
2006-11-18 18:32:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't really know why you are angry as you haven't made that clear BUT you should really be asking yourself why you have an open door policy with your ex's.
You seem to have an out of control private life, which is not good. Your role seems to be very passive in that your ex seems to do exactly what he wants and that is not good.
You are split up, you are not together. So stay split up and mean it. Stop the open doors policy and get your life back in control. Start to think of what you want from your life and do it! At the moment you are in limbo.
So BE that strong woman.
Take control and stop letting your ex's call the shot's.
2006-11-19 11:29:50 · answer #3 · answered by kiku 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know, sometimes I feel the same way. I know what you are going through right now. My recommendation is that you take revenge or breathe deep and try to understand why you are upset and do things that make you happy and totally ignore the other parts.
Hope this helps.
2006-11-18 18:18:00 · answer #4 · answered by Black 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you so upset about? It's hard to say anything useful without knowing the source of the problem, but I'm willing to bet there is a man involved somewhere along the line. Hope you feel better soon! :)
2006-11-18 18:08:55 · answer #5 · answered by Funky Little Spacegirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Vent your anger on a pillow, have a good scream, go for a run, play with yourself, throw some bottles at a wall - release it all before it festers inside.
Good luck.
2006-11-18 18:16:29 · answer #6 · answered by The Wandering Blade 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey She
I hope you're ok, you sound like you're having a bit of a hard time of it. I'm not a parent so I can't offer any advice, but if it's any consolation you sound like a good mother and a proud parent :)
2006-11-18 22:33:38 · answer #7 · answered by Snowth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to clear off and get in touch with the solicitor with whom you filed the devorce petition and see if there is anything that can be done about his lack of care for your feelings and irrisponsibility in his duty as a father and as supporting member of the household
2006-11-18 18:35:14 · answer #8 · answered by dnlrawson 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
think your in need of a beer
ok just this once ill have one for ya
2006-11-18 18:09:39 · answer #9 · answered by WONKEYTOES 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tomorrow is always another day.
2006-11-18 18:08:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋