Wht do i do?

Question

I cannt handle anything right now. Evrything and everybody seems wrong to me. Iam trying to keep everything under my control, i show my anger on everybody i dont care who ( at work, at home, with friends).
Iam seriously struggling to get a hold on myself. And above all.... i am forgetting things, words....
iam so confused at this is point of my life... that i see so much blankness.
i cannt get over my past (parents divorce)....i cannt forgive people... and i show revenge for everything, even to the person i love the most.
But at the same time... i understand situations much better than other people of my age (24).
I feel iam the meaning and iam the opposite. I hate the most is music.... infact there is nothing i love truely.
What should i do? I get angry in a sec for a small matter and carry it all the way till next day , i wont talk to anybody, i wont eat and i hate the person who did this(made me angry).

Good to know iam not alone. Well i have planned to try harder (on controlling my anger) for may be a year. If i still cannt do it..... i will head where i should.
Right now i dont beleive in handing my mind and my thinking to somebody other than myself.
And best of all... like u all said.... iam going to be sweeeet.

Thank u all.

Answer 1

Considering your problem, my friend, I can say that you are as hot as the sun and as spicy as the chillies. In short, you are like 'fire' to everybody.
Despite that, I think I must not blame you for your characteristics currently as well as with your life. Everybody has that. I don't even think that you are the worst person I ever meet (I mean ever met on the Net). You are not alone. Get into reality my friend. We live multiply on earth. Thus, that is why you are not alone. In other words, I have met many people that even worst than you (in which I would not tell here).
But I think I do not understand on what your trying to say here but I think you are simply having a miserable life due to certain turbulence in your past and present life. In short, you are in stress or depression.
Therefore my friend, I suggest you to learn on how to handle on your stress and your life as well. (But once you manage to control your stress, you in fact already have the control of your life.)
Another thing, stop thinking about your past life! If it was 'sooooo' bad for you to think, forget about it! Think of other matters. I know, it may be hard to forget but keep trying to forget or ignore it. Or simply take it as a lesson for you to lead you to a better life. In other words, try to see the bright side of your life! Of course you have this bright side of life! I believe you do have it because everyone has it. God would not be that bad or cruel.
Once you do that, try to accept the fact that all you need is to make a new life. Start building it by changing your worst habits (such as what you have mentioned). Most importantly, be patient of the progress and always remember this...learn it not in the hardest way but in a slow and patient way. Got it?
And then...bear in your mind that in everything you do, you do it because you love it. Love is the essence here. Besides, never be in despair. If you really want to get control of yourself (as well as everyone that around you) learn it slowly and not by force. Otherwise, you may never see the results of your effort to change your life.
Last one, my friend, accept this fact; life must go on. No matter what, you must proceed your life. But if you want any changes in your life, you may do it anytime and anywhere. However, it will be much depend on how you MUST see your life and your effort to change.
I believe that if you really committed to change your dull and depressing life currently into a much better life, then help yourself by considering not only my opinion but the others too. Then ponder them.
Like I say, you are just like a fire. A fire that need to be extinguish with water in which I believe can be done not by me and the others but by your own initiative to do it. Remember, anything that 'hot' and 'spicy' in our life can be 'cool down' and be 'sweet' only if we have the determination to change.
Good luck.

Answer 2

That happened to me last september. I am 22 and I had a nervous breakdown, basically. I finally couldn't take it anymore and I just cried for a week straight. I cried until I was so exausted I couldn't do anything else but sleep. I got out of it by focusing on myself. I just told everybody that I needed time to be alone, and I sat down and made a list of things I wanted out of my life, how I was going to get those things, and if there was anything or anybody who was holding me back from reaching those goals. I took long walks outside and got enough fresh air, and I did alot of screaming into my pillow. I finally decided that I needed a change of scenery, so I have made steps to move to the other side of the country for a full year. Away from everything and everybody I know. My family included. I have cut out all of the destructive people in my life, the people who are called emotional vampires. They are the ones who dump their problems onto you, or obsess so much about their problems that YOU start to obsess too.

You might also try learning yoga or breathing excercises so when you feel like you're going to snap you can just take a minute to breathe and let it pass. AND IF ALL ELSE FAILS, consider going to see a shrink.

Answer 3

You really sound a lot like me. I always get mad at my boyfriend
and my other family members. Especially my parents. They divorced when I was 14 and I still can't get over it. I was diagnosed with "Borderline Personality Disorder." Not to be confused with multiple personality disorder. The two conditions are totally different from each other. You may wish to look it
up. If you think you may have borderline personality disorder I can tell you that medication isn't very helpful. You will need to
find a counselor. Talking about your feelings and past experiences is the only thing that will help you to get through
the negative feelings. But you must go and keep going to your counselor if you really want to get better.

Answer 4

WOW im not alone, i had felt the same as you did for a long time, I came to the conclusion i really needed help, i was verry agressinve, i exploded with anger very often i hated my self and others, and hated the world, nothing would make me happy i enjoyed being alone or atleast i thought. I finally got help i had gone to therapy for a long time and help with some anger issue and they eventually found ot that i had a gene that caused depression, with let to all my problems, For anyone who is going through what you are going through i would definatly seek counseling, or even an anti depresssant if you need(ONLY IF YOU NEED THATS A LAST RESORT). But you can only make counselling work or therapy, only if you admit to having a problem and that you are willing to do what it tkaes to get help.

Answer 5

Most "dragons" originate from within one's head or heart. The school "bully" is not the same person from one to another. What makes the bully is the person who "sees" or "labels" the bully. List what others do to "irritate" you. Analyze why this bothers you. Then look to solve this yourself. Make sure you check yourself for hipocracy. If you find you are also in violation of your own rules of irritation, you might find the source of your discontent. Physical exercise can rid one of anger. You might have an excess of energy that needs to be "burned" off.
I hope this helps some.
P.S. Try to be "sickeningly" sweet. Try to make it obvious that you are doing it. This might give you some satisfaction and even make you laugh at your own sarcasm.
Find something to break (that won't cause much harm or loss). Wood makes cool sounds when destroyed. :)
Sometimes lack of power or control manifests anger. Find out what you need more control over (or less of a desire to have control over it).

Answer 6

What do you do? I think you know - get professional help. You admitted you're out of control. That's exactly what you need to do. Without that admission, you will not get "fixed."

Call 211 in your area (if they ahve it), and tell them that you need some help for some emotional issues. If they don't have 211 in your area, call 411 and ask them for a number for a mental health hotline in your area.

Trust me - this will not go away on its own. You have to find some ways to manage yourself and your life, and right now you don't have the tools to do it. Let someone else with those tools teach you what they are and how to use them.

Good luck.

Answer 7

People must cry commonly to make themselves think higher and to recover from that trouble. Crying is flawlessly adequate and some way of liberating feelings. It can come to be a predicament if the man or woman is consistently crying over very small matters and might be a signal of melancholy. If it's the latter then a seek advice from to the medical professional could be told but when it's only emotional crying over a dating or trouble they're in then simply be there for them and inform them you're there for them in the event that they wish to speak. When I think like that I simply wish a shoulder to lean on and cry into and anybody to hug me and wipe my tears away.

Answer 8

Gosh you sound just like me
Today I made a appointment to see a Psychologist and maybe a Psychiatrist
Good Luck

hugs

Answer 9

Yoga and meditation together are good. They relax the body and calm the mind so you can focus once again.

Answer 10

Do and feel the opposite of what you just described.