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Question

Okay, this is a little embarrassing for me to ask this, but i have to know if anyone else has had a similar experience. My boyfriend and I have "dry" sex on occasion...sometimes it takes a while for me to get warmed up, and then sometimes we go so long that I've had enough and I get dry. Anyway, we had dry sex a few days ago, and now he has these two lines that go semi-way around his penis. Like where his skin was stretched from dry sex. Well one of them is located right underneath his head, and has been there a while. It's like dry skin develops, and then we have sex, and it makes it come off. There is no pain when he urinates, no bumps, no weird discharge, just these rings of dry skin. My question is, could this be some sort of STD, or is it possible that our dry sex has cause him to get this ring on his penis?

Okay, so a little confusion on what "Dry Sex" is.......when i say dry sex, I mean that my bf pushes his penis into my unwet vagina, slowly, but pushes none the less until I have gotten wet enough to have full intercourse.

Answer 1

it's definately the dry sex you should not do that at all i had the same problem i use ky jelly u can buy the jelly or you can buy the ky jelly that you can use an inserter or just put a little on your finger and insert some into your vagina it usally last all day i put mines in when i get out the shower and when its time to have sex im nice and wet sorry for the visual but you can get an infection from having dry sex and its not very comfortable

Answer 2

I don't know what kinds of precautions u have been taking so I am going to address this as if u didn't take any. If u did take some safety precautions then ignore the following. You would not be in this position if u made him use a condom. Everyone knows that condoms suck and they take away some of the feeling, but how good do u think you are going to be feeling when u get some crazy STD. Now you and your b/f are at risk. If that’s still not enough to make u use a Condom you could AT LEAST go to the doctor with your boyfriend and get tested before u have sex for the first time. Even then there is no Guarantee that you or he will be faithful. There is still a possibility that STDs might be passed around. For the position u are in now there is only one thing to do. Get checked out!!! This is something u should have already done in the first place. This could just be a skin problem, but do u want to risk it being a STD that is just left alone?? Weigh your options it’s just not worth the risk. Go to the doctor!!!!!!

Answer 3

Try taking vitamin C this will help with your bodies natural lubricant which is better than anything off the self, you can take a double dose a day and it will help. You getting dry might be caused from a yeast infection, the vitamin C will also help. This can cause your boyfriend to have dry spots also which can cause further problems. There are also other alternative to medicine that may cause side effects, try the over the counter AZO yeast, cranberry etc. It also may be a from not have a normal PH balance. A simple gynecologist visit will be able to tell you.

Answer 4

No, it is not STD but likely just irritation. Use lubricant to avoid such problems. Other common things resulting from dry sex are small black spots around the corona of the penis (head) and these are small hemorrhages beneath the skin, and eventually there will be pain. There are many good lubricants to prevent this.

Answer 5

1st of all, if you aren't married, I don't understand why you aren't using protection when having sex. You are just as likely to get STD's or get pregnant "dry sex" or not.
If your Bf used lubricated condoms, then there would be no "Dry Sex". The lubrication would take care of that for both of you.

2nd of all, I am not sure that I understand what "Dry Sex" is. I take the time with my sexual partner in fore-play & have enough patience to wait until she's ready (wet) before I enter her.

I think the "Dry Skin" that you describe may possibly be either dry ejaculate, or dry vaginal discharge, or both. Your Bf may not be cleaning himself properly down there.

Otherwise, if you suspect a medical condition, then maybe both of you should see your doctors about it.

Personally, I would be more considerate of my sexual partner & wait until she is properly prepared for me before getting past the fore play.

Answer 6

dont listen to these idiots it is not an std i promise no i am not a doctor but i am in school and no std that i know of presents in this fashion it sounds to me that the area is just dry i would suggest using lubricant. his dry skin could turn into fissures (cracklike sores in the skin) this could cause some problems. they are usually very painful put they are just caused by dry skin good luck

Answer 7

It could be an STD, but from what it sounds like, I think it's just from the dry sex. Skin gets chafed when there's friction without lubricant. I'd invest in some lube. If it keeps happening after that, then I'd get checked out.

Answer 8

I've never heard of such a thing. To be on the safe side, I'd quietly see a doctor and get tested, so I didn't hurt his feelings. I'm over 50 and have had a lot of experience, can you try to use a lubricant, if you use condoms, this may not be a good idea. But I'd discuss this with my OB/GYN. If your not lubricated, I feel he's not doing his part to get you ready, enough foreplay. I think he may have a lot to learn about foreplay and getting you ready. You want to experience orgasms also. Have you ever had an orgasm with him. I was married many years, thought I had orgasms, and only found out with different men I could have multiple orgasms. Foreplay is everything. Does he penetrate you with his fingers to get you ready? Does he move his hands all over your body while your having sex? Does he kiss you all over? Does he give you oral sex? How do you feel during sex with him? And do not be afraid to speak up, if he has an issue with it, that tells you something about him. But do it outside the bedroom, is what i read. It does certainly sound like dry sex to me. It sounds like he's getting what he wants, and you're the recepticle. I'm sorry for saying this. But I'd diffenately see the doctor, and make sure I got my pleasure out of sex. Or he'd get nothing, until he learned to be more sensitive to your feelings. I've found men don't seem to change. They are either sensitive and care about your feelings, or they don't. If you're with a good lover, it shouldn't take a while to get warmed up, and I think he's just blowing your concerns off. Women who are taught to be with one man only, are at his mercy. I learned everything about men after a divorce, when I went thru a wild period, and at least I know I didn't have a problem, he did. Don't doubt yourself so much Sweetie. Trust your gut feelings. After I learned I was fine, I settled down, and now I'm very picky. I prefer to be alone, so I have more time to learn and grow. But we must go thru life experiences to learn what we need to know. Don't let men use you. I was always honest, and the using went both ways, but today ment try to get women to go with others, etc. and that was before the aids. I'd always use protection. I don't want to get STD's, it can make you end up having a hysterectomy. There is so many things that women have to seek out to learn. I take my hat off to you for having the courage to ask this question. Women are conditioned to be good, and not think for themselves, and not ask questions, in my opinion. Be brave, and true to your own heart and mind. And always use your head. Ignore the negative, and take in the positive. I wish more young ladies would question things like you are doing. It could save them so much heartache, and possibly their lives.

Answer 9

Introduce your b/f to the concept of foreplay and avoid the dry thing. Your b/f should take a little more time to get you "warmed up" The best part of being intimate with someone is getting pleasure from turning them on.

Answer 10

Vaginal dryness comes with age. My gyno told me that there is nothing wrong with using a lubricant. It can beautifulluy enhance your intimate times together. And it's water soluble. Give it a try. We did, and it has make a wonderful difference.Good luck. Nothing wrong with your bf. Dry skin from dry sex.