i throw elaborate children's parties at my house..months of planning involving best age appropriate games, prizes, favors and of course HOME COOKED FOOD! I constantly get criticized by the same person at every party..only making me NOT want to do it anymore..help what do I say to her?
2006-10-29 06:01:20 · 34 answers · asked by elmo55 1 in Food & Drink ➔ Entertaining
Whom ever she is, she should be made to dunk for apples REPEATEDLY! I'm thinking this might be a relative, since you keep inviting this rude person?? Just say politely NOTHING at all , or say, "Well you can't please all of the people all the time, but this works well for me." And smile DO NOT let her get to you and enjoy yourself and the party. Shame on HER!!!
2006-10-29 06:45:09 · answer #1 · answered by Thankyou4givengmeaheadache 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you don't have an obligation to invite this person, do you?? If you do, then grin and tell her that you are sorry, and ask her if she would like to assist in helping you plan the next party. While I am sure she doesn't, she is probably just feeling left out, or not knowing how to throw a party. Remember, every time your feelings are hurt by this woman, you are giving her power. It makes her feel better about herself when she knows she has hurt you. I bet if you ask her to help, she will tell you know, and then you can tell her since she won't help, she has no right to criticize. But if she does say yes to helping, find something small for her to do, but something that she might screw up
2006-10-29 08:39:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless your heart! Don't give this negative person any power at all, they are truly jealous of your ability and imaginative talents. Either don't invite this person to the next event and tell them you didn't think they would have a good time because of their comments at the last gathering OR go ahead and do your magic, when they start to criticize you can just say, I'm sorry you are so miserable, perhaps you would rather not be here and leave it....... You are wonderful! You are an exception to the rule (unfortunately) and the world, children, need more people like you.
2006-10-29 06:08:55 · answer #3 · answered by OPTIMIST 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost this person is straight hating on you! The devil is always alive and if you let them they will get to you! Don't let her knock you off your sqare! What I mean is you can let it go in one ear and out the other, or you can do what I would do! Pull that person aside that it's just you two and you tell her cause I know it's a female-I am sick of you criticizing me! Now this going to be the first and last time I tell you this because if I hear one more word or hear that you said something I'ts going to be ME & YOU! If you can't say something nice keep your mouth shut. Sounds like this person is really jealous because you have talent not to they sound sad & lonely, better yet what can she do? I have one more option! DON'T INVITE HER & WHEN SHE ASK WHY TELL HER BECAUSE OF HER CRITICIZING! iF YOU CAN'T TELL THIS PERSON PUT IT IN LETTER! Goodluck with this & pray! Prayer changes things!
2006-10-29 06:28:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't invite this person over, that's it! Don't inform them of your parties anymore so that they don't feel they are invited. If later they say howcome they were not invited just say that from their comments you've gathered they don't enjoy it, so you decided not to bother them with an invitation.
Other approach is to thank that person for every bit of criticizm she/he provided. Call them on the phone and thank them again. And again. Tell them how much you appreciate the criticism, and how much they helped you with it. Keep talking untill you feel they are sick and tired and really uncomfortable.
2006-10-29 06:14:19 · answer #5 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a bunch of sour grapes to me. If you must invite her to keep peace between family or the kids' friends, diffuse it somehow. If she criticizes something, blow it off with a laugh and say something like "Everyone loves this dish/cake/game!" Then stare her straight in the eye and ask when her next party is. With a s*** eating smile of course. :)
2006-10-29 07:44:51 · answer #6 · answered by chefgrille 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not invite her - it's that easy.
Also, you might want to take it easy on the elaborate plans. You should not be so stressed about the whole thing. Spend the planning time playing with your kids. That is what they will remember. And enjoy!!! They grow up too fast.
2006-10-29 09:59:02 · answer #7 · answered by farbissiner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her "thank you so much for pointing all I have done wrong out, would you be able to host the next one! It sounds like you have such wonderful experience with party planning, I would really love to see how a pro does it, so I could improve my parties!"
And have satisfaction that you MUST be doing something right..she keeps comming back!
2006-10-29 06:59:57 · answer #8 · answered by kat k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd firstly not invite her to the next one.
If I did invite her and she came up with such disrespectful comments of poorly veiled jealousy then I'd turn around on her and suggest that she show me how its done next time she organizes a party (probably never).
Seriously... you don't need the agro from the sort of person who get their importance from making others feel slighted. T_T
2006-10-29 06:07:15 · answer #9 · answered by shadow_cup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stop throwing your parties. She's probably just jealous that you do such a good job. I wouldn't invite that person anymore and if she shows up, I would tell her to leave.
2006-10-29 06:10:33 · answer #10 · answered by Butterfly Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋