everyone talks about being "ready" to have sex for the first time, but, what does it really mean to be ready, and how do you know if you are?
2006-10-25 23:58:41 · 8 answers · asked by *autumn*rustle* 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Being ready....for women i really wouldn't know (duh guy.) But my first time....i was 'ready' when i was gonna be married, to a virgin, so that way we can give it to each other. Technically you're ALWAYS ready, you can have sex at any time...but to be MENTALLY ready is the thing. What you give to others, SHOULD be something worth while (although people of today don't think so anymore....neither do swingers.). It's a gift to the person who fulfills you, who completes you in every way...so to be ready to do it is to be ready to award someone your gift. Physically I doubt you can prepare yourself for it, unless you use toys or something......cause if nothing has gone in there, it's gonna hurt....so normally just getting lost in love with that person and getting extremely excited about givin it to them normally puts your mind of it, and whatever...that's just my assumption, women can tell you a more accurate answer. But you'll know you're mentally ready when you have someone that you know you can give your gift to, that you know that it may be somebody worth your while...be it in a relationship, for life, or just for the sake of a seriously good time. That choice is yours.
So to sum it up....to be ready is to be MENTALLY ready, and you'll know you are when that perfect person for the occasion comes around, who you feel most comfortable with, of whom you trust, and who will be 100% supportive and compassionate about your choice as you are...and appreciate that they've been givin the honor to be your first.
2006-10-26 00:12:43 · answer #1 · answered by Dennis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From looking at your question history over the past 2 months I can see that this has been weighing on your mind. Let me first start by telling you that when a woman loses her virginity it can be as traumatic as it can be wonderful, you have no way of knowing. It will depend on your expectations and how much you have built them up and how much anxiety is has created in your mind.
Losing my virginity was a very traumatic thing, it meant more to me than it did to the guy I was with. Guys are so different from girls, they don't take things to heart like we do. I will tell you that you will know when the time is right and if it is the right guy. Don't do it for the reasons I did...and that was because I wanted him to like me more, I was afraid he would not want to be with me if I didn't finally give in, well just having that fear should have made me realize he was not the one I should be with for my first time, because it still happened, I knew it in my heart and that is why I had the fear to begin with, he left me anyway.
When you meet the right guy, you will have no doubts and it will come naturally. You need to understand also that women most usually equate love with sex and guys don't do that. To most guys doing it is a separate thing, so don't be surprised if your feelings grow and it may not seem his are....which usually leads to insecurity on the womans part and it shows so the guy bolts.
There is so much to deal with, that is why I wish I had waited. I wish I would have waited until I really knew myself better and knew what I wanted in a guy, instead I gave it to someone who didn't appreciate it as much as I did and it left me feeling empty.
I could tell you all the normal things like wait until you are married but that is not a realistic thing these days. And it is also a deprevation of a very pleasurable experience if it is done right, if you build a bond with that person. Looking back on what I did, I realize that it was a learning experience and it made me the person that I am today, which I am happy with, it took me a long time to get here and it was a hard road but it turned out good for me So no matter what you chose, it will form the person you will be, so choose carefully because some things can never be reversed or taken back.
2006-10-26 09:55:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
being ready stop in the person. each person know when it's ready for anything and about sex i think you will know you are ready when you feel that you love this person and you don't mind about any thing will happened then
2006-10-26 00:04:07 · answer #3 · answered by Mysterious_Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when the time is right you will just know....if you have doubts about it then you are not ready...when u are actually "ready" then you will know that guy is the one that you want to lose your virginity to & be sure about it...there will be no doubts about it....
2006-10-26 00:00:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No if I was once equipped for mattress there could be no "getting " left to do!..When I get equipped for mattress, I make certain doorways are locked, cats have recent water, my meditation/prayers are completed,my enamel are brushed, and I am blank!! ;) When I am equipped for mattress, all that is performed, and I am on my means into mattress
2016-09-01 02:53:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just a wild guess but i reckon it means you feel comfortable n not forced into having sex ... im not " ready" yet lol still tooo young but i think you'd probably just feel comfortable ... who knows lol
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2006-10-26 00:01:15 · answer #6 · answered by Charlie V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok u hav to practise masturbating first with something big ok then try masturbating ur assshole with a stick if it dosent hurt ur ready =)
2006-10-26 00:00:58 · answer #7 · answered by Khalid D 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋