At my workplace I have colleague who will get married next year. She is arranging it ONE year in advance, talking on and on and on about preparations, this cake, that music. Does it really take one year in average? Why people have to have it so perfect, so expensive. It seems like to much drama for 1 day, it shouldn't be "the most important day", but lovely, relaxed, OK kind of day.
2006-10-25 23:28:48 · 15 answers · asked by Ingrid 7 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Right now, that's what she has going on in her life. That's what she's going to talk about.
It does start to take on a life of it's own, there is a lot more that you would think that goes into planning a traditional wedding.
2006-10-26 00:22:48 · answer #1 · answered by treday25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it really can take up to a year to plan, especially if she's working full-time and doesn't have a coordinator. Some of the halls need to be booked a year in advance just to reserve the day!
Also, saving for the wedding can take that long as well.
Although it can be done in much less time. It seems there are so many brides who become completely consumed by their wedding and foolishly think everyone else should be consumed by it as well.
I don't know why some brides have to have everything be "perfect" and so expensive. They say it's the most important day of their lives, and they've been dreaming of it since they were little girls. I've heard of brides who took out loans to pay for a huge, extravagent wedding! These brides live by the motto "It's MY wedding, I'll do whatever I want!" Unfortunately, common courtesy and manners kind of go to the wayside with this mentality.
I thought of my wedding as just a big party to celebrate my marriage, and I didn't dream of my wedding as a child. I tried to keep things in perspective. For example, I knew that no one would care or notice if the color of the flowers in the altar arrangement was the exact shade of the bridesmaid dresses or if the food selection tied in closely enough with my "theme." Actually, I didn't even bother with a theme or altar arrangements!
2006-10-26 03:34:39 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dunno... I arranged our wedding in 2-3 months; it was small, informal and fun. My hair and make-up were done by a friend 20 minutes before the ceremony. The cake was a flat sheet cake from the nearby supermarket. There was very little planning involved, and everyone had fun. I would do it all over again. For the life of me, I don't understand how can people puruse all this stress at such great expense, all for one day. Some tried to tell me that in order to make this day "special", it has to be a big traditional wedding; that I would regret later for not having one. I disagreed, and made my own arrangements. It was one of the most special days in my life. As for "regretting later"... I'm 32 years old, I think I've seen and heard enough to know what different things mean to me. And a huge and expensive "perfect" wedding just doesn't do anything for me, sorry.
2006-10-26 05:55:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many places, esp in the summer, get booked REALLY fast. There are only so many weekends in a summer. So, yes....things do need to be booked that far in advance. I live in a smaller town and 9 months before the wedding I called a few JPs here and ministers to see about costs. To my surprize they were already booked for weddings for the next 2 years. It is very hard to co-ordinate photographers, JPs, event places etc. Harder still to be able to budget.
Large or small weddings do take a certain amount of planning. A small wedding like I had, my MIL and groom's aunt made it hell. So, it all depends on situations.
Grin and bear it.....your day will come and you will understand. :)
2006-10-26 07:11:01 · answer #4 · answered by Cariad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weddings don't have to be expensive. I was able to get a really inexpensive dress at a second hand store, or you can go for a rental, as you'll only be wearing it for a few hours. For decorations we used what was being used at the church as seasonal decorations. The flowers, were what was in bloom at the time, the base of the bouquet was bought at a craft store. The reception was put together by the ladies at the church. The most expensive single item was the wedding cake. Alot of folks think expense shows love. But the effort that people put to making it the best day of my life was beyond expression. Don't let others railroad you, this is your,and your fiance's wedding. Take care and best of luck.
2016-05-21 21:48:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So far in my life for me it was the most special day of my life. I don't have kids so I would say that if I have a kid that will be the most important day. It doesn't have to take a year to plan. some people spend a day planning others plan for years. some spend a ton of money and some spend a little.
sounds like you are tired of hearing about the wedding, or a little jealous of her wedding. don't worry once she gets married the talk will die down
2006-10-26 02:12:23 · answer #6 · answered by Jenn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! It takes at least a year to prepare an event of that caliber. If you have a special wedding site in mind, you have to book it at least a year ahead or else risk not to be able to wed where you wanted. cateres, DJ,s and photographers also get booked a year en advance, specually during high wedding season.
She is not bragging, nor needa attention, planning for a big event is hard work and requires a lot of preparation and cash. Of course, having a big wedding was her choice, so be happy for her!
Good luck
2006-10-26 02:59:06 · answer #7 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is having a big wedding, then yes, it does take a long time to plan. In fact, a lot of people plan over a year in advance. I agree that people put waaaay too much time and energy into planning. Be grateful it's just a year away.
2006-10-26 02:43:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK- I am from the brides point of view.
It takes a year to book a place and a church. It's expensive because anything you have cater is expensive! We just want it to be nice and some people love planning their wedding.
If she is driving you nuts then just politely ask her not to talk about it to you as much. She just very excited and your stuck with your co-workers for at least 8 hours a days so unfortunately sometimes they are a part of your life when they don't want to be. I myself, make sure I limit the bride talk at work.
2006-10-26 01:48:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants attention. I hope you don't have to listen to this for the next year!
If it is a big wedding, I suppose the church and reception has to be reserved in advance. But as far as the details, they can wait.
I had a week to plan my wedding. It was a small one and in the chapel of my church. My husband was in the service, & when he came home on leave, we decided to get married then.
There is entirely too much money spent on some weddings these days. Half the time, they are divorced within a couple of years anyway.
2006-10-25 23:51:25 · answer #10 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋