if i sleep with the guy that i fancy because i am hanging for some sexual closeness is that using him when he is vulnerable (ie: after a recent split), yet he says he isnt up for a relationship with me but is happy for me to pleasure him as it were, who is using who??
2006-10-25 23:21:04 · 45 answers · asked by kt_sub2000 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds mutual to me and OK
2006-10-29 21:45:30 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you fancy each other and both are available, who cares? It's not unusual to be just broken up with someone or wanting some sexual closeness. You can't do anything about timing, it is what it is. You can't perfectly time everything, and everyone. It sounds like you belong together right now, nothing wrong with that. Just keep it light for now and see how it goes. It can grow, why not?
2006-10-25 23:50:07 · answer #2 · answered by wondering 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he's single and you're single, and are both willing, then go for it. Technically, the "using" part is mutual, you're both wanting to get something out of it. What you have to consider is that he's on the rebound. To him, this may just be something to help him move on from his past relationship. You say you fancy him which could lead to complications as he is not looking for a relationship. If he is only willing to sleep with you recreationally, you have to be clear on the terms. Sex for fun, keep emotion at the door. If you feel you could want more from him but he's not willing to offer it you could wind up getting hurt. If you both know what the other is hoping to get out of it and you're stil both up for it, go for it. You've got a good arrangement there, so long as no one gets hurt in the process.
2006-10-25 23:32:29 · answer #3 · answered by James M 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-28 05:18:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say to you get a life for gods sake there is plenty of people that would much rather have a nice girl and be steady than a girl that's out for sex you will end up with all sorts of diseases sleeping with guys is not the way forward if a guy loves you he will wait and when your ready then its the best but don't give it away freely if hes not interested in you sweetheart show him the door you know its the right thing to do.
2006-10-25 23:58:12 · answer #5 · answered by tonyinspain 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're both being consenting adults about it then why the hell not. Just know where you both stand on the subject and it shouldn't be a problem. Just remember situations change and evolve over time and it might be best to get the potentially tricky subject of 'seeing other people' sorted to avoid sudden and surprising flair up's of jealousy. As long as you both know where your heads are at and you are being careful then enjoy the moment.
2006-10-25 23:30:44 · answer #6 · answered by urbanrt 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are using each other. As long as you both realize that and you don't get hurt. be clear on your intentions. Also, make sure to use a condom from the beginning to the end of sex, a pregnancy is not what you guys need right now!
2006-10-25 23:23:56 · answer #7 · answered by cpinatsi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are using him as he probably feels that something more serious will happen if he keeps you happy.
But I wouldn't worry about it, life is too short, enjoy yourself and don't forget to keep mentioning to the fellow that this is a casual relationship and will not develop into anything serious. Think about it as sexual Therapy.
2006-10-25 23:26:37 · answer #8 · answered by John Q 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're both using eachother which is fine as long as both of you can escape unhurt. But one of you probably will get hurt because that's the way the cookie crumbles. Being female I'd say you're the one who'll probably end up crying.
2006-10-25 23:24:54 · answer #9 · answered by Misha-non-penguin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are using eachother. As long as you both know it. There is no problem. This is probably better for you too at this time. But be careful. Once you start to feel something depper then you will need to re-evaulate your relataionship.
2006-10-25 23:31:40 · answer #10 · answered by Doc M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sex for fun is not about using but enjoyment. So go have some fun pleasure him and you and me too if you fancy it, lol
Go play dirrty!!
2006-10-26 00:37:27 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋