Can a cheater be reformed and never cheat again? Is it possible for a husband or lover to change their ways?
2006-10-25 23:05:18 · 17 answers · asked by Amanda K 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Tough one. I have always said Once a cheater, always a cheater. I haven't seen it, but I guess it is possible as long as the person is truly wanting to do the right thing. I know that the gut feeling in you, tells you the truth. Once the trust factor is broken, it is so hard to trust again. I could not get over the trust factor. I know a few who had and they have made it work. It takes a lot of counseling and faith and trust. Your husband/lover would have to let you vent and be able to ask you where you are be accountable to where he is and understand why you are asking where he is. That is your right. If it were a husband, I would try counseling. If it were a lover, I would find someone who would respect me. You know in your gut more than anything. Trust your feelings. I will be praying for you.
2006-10-25 23:11:09 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it would be really hard not only for the cheater but the one that was cheated on. There is a lot of work to be done. You would have to forgive and try to forget about the pain that it caused and try to learn to trust him again. He would have to earn your trust and re-enforce to you that he made a mistake and that he won't do it again. Plus he would have to learn to have the will power and desire to stop himself if that sort of situation ever happened again.
2006-10-26 06:09:15 · answer #2 · answered by Texasdream007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A cheater can be reform and never cheat again, ofcoz
juz give him time, be patient
2006-10-26 06:06:51 · answer #3 · answered by Paula 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, anything is possible. However, if there are doubts, then there are trust issues. Without trust, the relationship is going to be difficult at best. If this is not a husband, I would move on. Even if it is a husband, I would consider it, but obviously there are others issues to weight into the decision.
Good luck.
2006-10-26 06:09:04 · answer #4 · answered by Rich C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably is
once a cheater always a cheater
No , I dont think so, that time when he cheated on you only shows that he is weak.
dump him, move on, look for someone who's worth it.
2006-10-26 09:04:37 · answer #5 · answered by Keepingmycool 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes only if all the following circumstance apply:
-he feels guilty
-he is a moral person and is the only time
-he confess to you regarding the incident
-he values the relation he has with you more than before.
After all, we are human.
2006-10-26 10:44:34 · answer #6 · answered by ALOVEC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-10-26 06:08:42 · answer #7 · answered by Intellithug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on whether or not the person he cheated on has changed. cheating is usually a sign of loss of interest in a partner and is a cry-out for that "thrill of the chase" that he once had.
2006-10-26 06:21:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's possible.
But the question that is more important is is it possible for you to improve your reaction when they cheat. People will d owhat they ought to do and that's their divine right.
You are full responsible for your own experience
2006-10-26 06:15:05 · answer #9 · answered by CulturedQuant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They can, but there's a good chance they won't. If they legitimately feel bad about what they did the first time there's a stronger chance it won't be done again, but if they don't feel bad about it then you are hosed.
2006-10-26 16:06:13 · answer #10 · answered by KdS 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋