I work long hours the whole week. My baby is only six months old and she is an angel. she misses me when i am not home. i want to spend as much time with her as possible. how can i manage my time?
2006-10-25 22:56:51 · 14 answers · asked by henryjoes 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
This is a tough one, because earning money and spending time w/family are mutually exclusive, diametrically opposed goals. This is so hard it makes my head hurt. You really can't have it both ways. At least, I'm not smart enough or efficient enough to have it both ways.
I got lucky several yrs ago, now neither me or my wife work, we have a 9-month old and we both spend lots of time with him. We're very happy. And he seems so well adjusted and happy.
Work is a ***** and it can destroy home life and families. I don't miss it.
But I have seen people with simple small businesses bringing babies/children to their place of self-employ. This seems like a reasonable compromise to me, although it does rule out vast riches but is better for your family.
Good luck.
2006-10-25 23:03:55 · answer #1 · answered by Babyface 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I worked long hours, weekends, on call 24/7, plus out of town work. I was never home, always work work work. I missed my boy growing up, I was never there for him or around to see or play with him. I've been there for my daughter, and I wish I could go back in time to be with my boy. I quit my job and found a new one. Now I'm there for my whole family. I'm not telling you to quit your job, but you have to find a way to be with them, or your gonna miss out on something that is so wonderful, magical, I can't explain I don't know the words. Supporting your family is very important, but so is being there for them. I've learned this the hard way. I will never have a job that consumes my life again. I doubt I helped in anyway, but I hope you understand those long hours at work are not worth it. Good Luck.
2006-10-26 07:50:08 · answer #2 · answered by tazz102 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel! I would MUCH rather stay home with my granddaughter than go to work every day! Make it a point to set aside specific time for her & make sure you're not interrupted. Turn off the cell phones / pagers / and let the answering machine get the house phone. If somebody needs a favor during that time, say "I'm sorry, but I've already got plans" or "I'm busy." You just have to make the most of the time that you do have available to spend with her. I was able to take my oldest daughter to work with me when she was an infant / toddler, and I was able to stay home with my youngest daughter for her first year & a half - but not everybody is as fortunate. You are NOT a bad parent for working instead of staying home with your daughter, and as long as you make the most of the time you do spend with your daughter (it's not about money or material things), then your daughter will NOT suffer or be adversely affected because you work outside the home. Done it twice and my daughters were fine with it because I still made time to help with dance recitals, support them when they cheered at ball games or played in ball games, helped with homework, take them to the park, read to them, and just let them how much i loved them. Hug your baby every day & tell her you love her - THAT'S what's important.
2006-10-26 09:34:59 · answer #3 · answered by Romans 8:28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you aware that separation from mom for more than 10 hours a week is extremely damaging to your child, to all children under 3?
You have the wrong goal - you need to stop damaging your child's future - her emotional, intellectual, and phsyical health are compromised by this, as is your family unity. You need to find a way to keep her with you.
I hope you will encourage other people you know to not have kids until they are able to care for them - you can already see how much your baby misses you - just wait until she's 8 months old and figures out that you guys are separate people and you have a choice about leaving her.
all day long that she misses you, her brain floods with stress hormones that impair learning and increase her risk of anxiety and mood disorders.
2006-10-26 07:16:51 · answer #4 · answered by t jefferson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really have to find the time to fit some quality time in. Your daughter is 6mths old, and the time goes by so fast. I know you have to pay the bills, but family is also important. You really didn't say much about your situation. Depending on what field your in and your experience you could just look for another job that will fit more to your lifestyle or maybe you can cut back some hours.
2006-10-26 06:03:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work life balance.
Try to be home before bathtime if possible. Make days off familt time not hobby time, do something. At a young age, children don't actually need to go to a zoo or theme park. The local park feeding the ducks is good enough, as long as you are there.
See how many jobs you can put off until she is asleep.
2006-10-26 06:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are home, try to find time to be with each family member individually. I have two little kids. On Saturdays, my husband takes one kid out for about an hour and I take the other. That one-on-one time away from home is great because all we have to focus on is each other. It would also be ideal to do the same with your mate. My husband and I get very little one-on-one time because of odd work hours and limited babysitter time. I really miss time with him and will keep trying to schedule that. Just remember, it doesn't have to be a huge block of time to be good.
2006-10-26 08:51:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look to get a flex schedule at work. You would be surprised how flexible an employer will be if your a valued employee and may look somewhere else if they don't bend a little.. Work from home one day a week, Go in really early to get out early. Just some suggestions
2006-10-26 06:05:50 · answer #8 · answered by Bryon H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could you work a bit from home ?? or go part time.. what I am going to do is ; I have a good nursery near my work so I am going to take my lunch break with my bubs when they eventually come. I could squeeze that to an extra hour and half a day which works out to 7.5 hours a week..
2006-10-26 06:01:05 · answer #9 · answered by mum 2 Cameron and Ewan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your career is in the way of your family,I would change jobs to something that does not interfere with missing out on the baby.Yes,you probably will get lesser income but you can make sacrifices in your budget to accommodate that.In the long run you'll be happier seeing your child grow.
2006-10-26 06:28:40 · answer #10 · answered by Dylan aka Dilly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋