I have suffered for a long time with bouts of deppresion on and off. However right now I am very happy. I got married 7 months ago and I love life.....the problem is that every few weeks I get these uncontrollable outbursts of violence and anger. I swear and shout at my husband and I have also hit him a few times, I throw things and can't stop myself. Then I get very down again and usually end up self harming so that I take out whts left of my anger on me and not him. He has 3 children who come and stay regularly we all get on but sometimes I behave like this infront of them. I know what i'm doing is wrong but I can't stop myself at the time.
I am currently seeing a psychotherapist whch is helping a bit but I just don't know what to do.
I have great days followed by awful days, any ideas?
2006-10-25 22:53:47 · 17 answers · asked by lozza 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Hi there thank you all for your advice, in answer to your questions, I am currently on anti deppressants to try and control my behaviour, they seem to be working in the sense that I am only having an outburst every couple of weeks as apposed to every other day. It is NOT pms though. I thought that I may possibly have bipolar i do need to go back to the docs, any more advice would be very helpful though, thanks
2006-10-25 23:30:14 · update #1
There are a lot of questions here about moods switching from one minute to the next, and these are almost never bipolar. Your moods shifting over weeks most certainly could be bipolar and they sound like mixed episodes.
You need to see a psychiatrist rather than a GP. The danger with a GP diagnosis is that they may diagnose depression and prescribe anti-depressants, which could be extremely dangerous for someone who is bipolar. Your symptoms match my own pretty closely, and I am bipolar 2, successfully medicated.
2006-10-29 00:42:20 · answer #1 · answered by Random Bloke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably be on medication while you are going through therapy. You may need to be on medication until you figure out how to deal with your rage or you may have to be on it the rest of your life. It's okay tho, because what you're explaining is not normal and should really be handled right now before you or someone else gets hurt.
I don't know your husband, but I would tend to think that he won't deal with this kind of behavior for long, especially if it's in front of his kids.
Medication can really help. If you are already taking something and these things are still happening, you may need to either add something else or change what you're on. If you're not on anything, you should probably look into taking something to help with the mood swings.
Don't feel bad about being on medication. Once you start to stabilize, you'll wonder why you didn't do it a long time ago.
Best wishes.
Oh, Ps- Minimize the amount of alcohol and caffeine that you take in, because these two substances tend to make aggression worse.
2006-10-26 06:09:30 · answer #2 · answered by tikizgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you suffer from anxiety as well as depression??? Irritability and a feeling of being out of control can be caused by anxiety. Are you on meds? If you have been suffering from anxiety/depression for a long time I would hope you are on meds. Tell you doctor about the irritability and being out of control.
Does your counselor have a phd?? To be considered a clinical psychologist you must have a phd. Some family counselors may only have their ba or master's degree. It is good to ask at the outset of therapy if the counselor has a phd if you are dealing with big issues. Family doctor can send you to a psychiatrist for a thorough diagnosis...so you are not just diagnosing yourself and can start you on the proper treatment. Life is too short to feel miserable when with proper treatment the problem can be put behind you and you can feel well.
2006-10-26 06:10:55 · answer #3 · answered by rachel_waves 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a serious undiagnosed mental disorder. These symptoms are signs of more serious diseases than depression.
From my experience, it sounds like you have bipolar disorder (which commonly occurs along with depression), bipolar disorder is basically super extreme mood swings that also change your personality slightly. This is probably it. The next diagnosis would be split personality disorder, which is basically when you have multiple personalities that are uncontrollable, and can be triggered by the smallest things, people who have this disorder usually have a personality for every emotion as a way of expressing, in a super extreme way, each emotion. The next diagnosis after those two would be a much more dangerous disease: Schizophrenia which is a combination of those two times 100, it is much more serious. You need to check yourself into a mental hospital (seriously, no offense meant) before you do something you will regret.
Addition> Attention "Rachel N" PMS is not an excuse for violence or irresponsibility with children.
2006-10-26 05:56:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Have you been given any medication for your depression? Sometimes that can have side effects and can make pms worse, I used to be similar in that when I was on medication for depression I would have random mood swings within minutes. It's not fun and certainly not something anyone should have to deal with on their own. Although you are seeing a psychotherapist it may be worth seeing your doctor to see if they can recommend anger management classes. I have now learnt to control my temper and feel so much better for it.
The frustrating thing is not being able to stop yourself, if it carries on you will start to shut down and not go out etc.. Try and speak to your doctor about it and see what he/she can suggest.
Good Luck.
2006-10-26 05:58:59 · answer #5 · answered by Vicky A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A psychotherapist will only diagnose and medicate you. That is a good step. But, what you need is counseling. That will get to the root of the episodes. You must, however, be 100% inclusive and 100% honest, or your counselor will not be able to lead you in the right direction. Same with your psychotherapist, not being 100% honest may lead to misdiagnosis and improper treatment which will only hinder your progress.
2006-10-26 06:08:19 · answer #6 · answered by Daniel H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's one of three things, either you're just one of those women that go bonkers when they get PMT/PMS, you've got a mental illness that needs treatment, or you're just a horrible abusive harridan.
I think it's a combination of illness and PMT. Get some tablets off the doctor and get em down your neck before you blow up at the wrong person and they beat you senseless.
I have sympathy for you with your condition, but you need to get treatment.
2006-10-26 06:10:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're bipolar to me. My mum's bipolar too, except she doesn't get angry.
My mum was on Fluoxetine before, but is being transferred onto a new medication (However, she had to have her blood tested for it a few days back to assess whether she will be suitable, as it apparently affects the liver and kidneys).
I know very little about being bipolarity, but have you tried lithium?
2006-10-26 06:08:01 · answer #8 · answered by swelwynemma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to ask your psychotherapist to point in the right direction for further help. Its definately better to do so sooner rather than later as these things can escalate into something a lot bigger, seek medical help now
2006-10-26 06:04:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should see someone who is able to give you some medicine? You also need to find out why you behave like this, but in the meantime, it's important to the children not to witness this.
2006-10-26 05:58:05 · answer #10 · answered by Bea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋