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I am a Type A person that always need things done right away.

2006-10-25 22:31:09 · 4 answers · asked by Go For Broke 3 in Family & Relationships Family

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The parents who raise the best children are the best parents. There are no specific type A, B or otherwise of people who are indicated in any way, shape or form how to better parent a child. We are, all of us, unique and special in our very own ways. My two children are like night and day, and what works with one definitely does not work with the other. Trial and error is the only way to find out what will work or not work with a child. The more love and resources a parent has, the better chance they have in being a good parent. No one, none of us is any better or any worse than the other. But, our behaviors are. Children all need a stable, supportive healthy, well educated, well-disciplined(with strict lines of understanding of what will happen if they step over the line, and consistently followed guidelines shown to them by their parents-not fear to make them want to behave, but knowing that they will be rewarded not only by their parents for good behavior, but by their own choices-fun, and a closely-knit family social home life. No children are bad. Only their behaviors can be. Once they learn this, and believe it through being set a good example of it by their parents, they will want to be as well behaved as they can be. They need to know what good behavior is and what bad behavior is. The only way to learn that, is by example and consistency and lots of love, no matter what the case; good or bad. They need to have understanding from their parents, peers and teachers, as well as from themselves. The only way they can know this, is from experience. They will always test the limits to check on whether this is the truth all the time, or if sometimes in life it isn't. The more firmly the parent sticks to the rules, the more securely the child will feel about themselves and their behavior. The more things available for them to be interested in, the more they will learn, and each person will have their own special gifts. No one is smart about everything, but we all have exceptional areas of challenges that are fun for us. I hope this has helped you. No one can do everything right away, but taking care of responsibilities right away, well, as soon as possible is a very good example to set for a child, but pressuring a child to do something they cannot do, or are not ready to do, for whatever reason, can cause them to fear that something...and they may ever after avoid that thing without ever even knowing why. Patience is a blessing. Children do not come with instruction books, and neither do parents, but we all come with love and the need for it. The same goes for attention, and whether it be good or bad, children will take it wherever they can get it, just like adults do. Chores will get done with patience faster than pressure. Rewards will work in helping them to want to do them. Time is always a mystery for each of us, as far as how fast we learn, and in what way we are stimulated to want to do something. Stimulation of our senses, intelligence, interests and thinking begins in the womb, and it never ends. We are all sponges, sucking up everything around us, from the time we are conceived, until the time we die. And, until our children grow to adulthood and leave the nest and go off on their own, it is the parent's job to fill up those sponges with as much as they can, in a way that is loving and consistent, and patient, and understanding, and stimulating. After they leave, and until the day we all die, this relationship is going to remain, as long as we keep in mind we are there to set the example, and be there for our children when they need us...for guidance, or togetherness, or to let them know they've done wrong, as well. In other words, life is what we all make it! Enjoy it for the moment, it's all we really have! If a natural disaster took away everything we have in a moment, we'd still have each other, and it's up to us to decide how much value we are going to give that...for each and every moment. By the same token, we cannot get another Rita Mae, or Johnny James, or whoever,...so the decisions we have to make can become pretty clear when we're not sure what to do, by the way we look at the situation. I hope you have a great life with your children. Parenting is the hardest job in the world, but it is also the most wonderful, miraculous, loving way to live!!! The type of person we are is the type of person we make of ourselves, and our children will see this and decide someday for themselves, and every moment they are alive, what they want to make of themselves, too. The only thing in life that never ends is change, and that is the one gift we've all been given...to choose!

2006-10-25 23:23:44 · answer #1 · answered by Have Masters Degree in English 2 · 0 0

Kids, just like anything else, should have balance, in order to be "good". Extremes are generally not good. There should be a balance between the A traits and the B traits. Just like a dish, too much spices will spoil it and too much blandness will likewise make it unpalatable.

2006-10-25 22:37:10 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0 0

you're a sturdy guy. And a sturdy counselor generally expects a minimum of one companion to place each and all the blame on the different companion. the advisors are arranged for that and comprehend the thank you to assist the two companions see their duty for the marital issues, notwithstanding if it takes slightly artwork. And if the counselor isn't sturdy (which often times happens) you are able to continually sell off her or him and locate yet another counselor... EDIT: No Mercy: you're no longer behaving in a fashion it quite is alpha. you're in simple terms behaving in a fashion it quite is judgmental and conceited. i think in case you have been alpha you does no longer could get your emotions of shallowness by calling people names that have not have been given any benefit.... And, for the checklist, as a former particular ed instructor i will enable you comprehend that ADHD IS a real sickness. on an identical time because it is in lots of circumstances overdiagnosed, some people quite do be stricken by ADHD and the version of their brains can quite be seen on recommendations scans. Do the study, you will see. you are able to start up with Dr. Daniel Amen's study in case you like a advice. medicine exists to handle the two adults and teenagers. many women may be delighted to be married to a guy who put in 0.5 as lots attempt into the marriage as this guy has. it is to no longer say it quite is not complicated to handle a companion's melancholy or rigidity or ADHD! with a bit of luck, they the two can locate medical look after their medical themes! yet marriage is complicated artwork , and clearly this guy and his spouse are in seek of counseling to assist them for the time of the tough spots. in the top, they could in simple terms be happier than quite some couples who make lots of money yet have not have been given any or little emotional connection...

2016-10-16 10:26:50 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

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2006-10-25 22:33:11 · answer #4 · answered by evening_dewpoint 5 · 0 0

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